losing family & friends

Hi ANTIQUELADY, *Big Hugs* I know you have been having a hard time of it the last while and my heart goes out to you. I have no idea why some people can be so cold hearted like that, especially when it it family. I always thought family should be looking out for one another. I have seen it over here too with families distancing themselves from a family member when they have a disability, it is so very sad. The way you have to look at it you were Jack's friend and you where the family that cared for him and for that you are one hell of a great person in my book.

I would say Jack was very lucky to have had you.Itis a shame his own family never really bothered with him.I think people do pay in one way or another.Maybe they will need help one day,but they will have to pay with money.What goes around comes around thats what I say.It is just a good thing there are still people like you in the world to care properly for them.I know what you mean we have lost so many members of our family over the past two years,including my Mum,my husbands Dad.Various aunts and uncles ,village members,you just have to pay tribute to them by carrying on and enjoying your life and getting as much as possible out of life.

So you lost your good friend Jackie! My heartfelt condolences my friend! It's sad to lose parents, and relatives and it is just as sad to lose a good friend you treated like your own sister. The relatives who did not pay attention will certainly reap what they sow. I am very certain, they will also experience that same thing in their latter life. Believe me! I've seen that happened many times. People who never cared for loved ones will also be left alone and helpless one day in their life.

oh yes..I think people pay for being that way. What comes around goes around and even if we never know their price..it's there. I hate so much you have suffered so much loss. Just know I have been thinking about you and hoping you are ok.

A big hug to you, my friend! I know there´s nothing to say because I have been through that too. I have seen many times that your true family is not always the one you have blood ties with. I´m glad your friend had you. I don´t know if people "pay" for being like that, but I do think they miss something that is very important: the capacity of feeling love.

That's really horrible. You must be feeling really upset and like you also wanna die having no one to comfort you at your current state. Putting myself in your shoes is really hard and would make me insane,honestly. I adore you for despite of the pains that you feel,you stayed and maintain strong.

i'm so sorry to hear about what had happened to you recently... looks like you have gone through a lot in the past 16 months... i won't offer you any sympathy then as you say that you are not looking for one... but i just want to offer words of encouragement... just remember that there is always a rainbow after the rain and i'm sure that things will get much better for you from now on since you had already gone through the worst... please be strong... take care and have a nice day...

It is a shame! Even close relatives can be that way....like a daughter to her parents and that is what I experienced with my older sister when my parents were ill....she being a nurse you would have thought she would have jumped right in.....but she said it was too hard? anyway Jack is in a better place where he will truly be loved!

Hi Antiquelady! I'm so sorry for being so late!! I'm trying to catch up on here and am making some headway!! lol Now about the subject at hand, it's good for you to talk about it and I'm glad that you are!! My parents are still with me but only on borrowed time however, their friends are dropping like flies and I've told them so with no pun intended and they agree. Dad said all his friends are leaving him behind. It can't be easy see your family and friends leave you like they are but try to know this, they're up there rooting you on and waiting for you at the beautiful Pearly Gates for you to enter! But for now, they want you to continue on living and be as happy as you can be till it is your time. Bless your heart!! You're a one sweet friend that has a heart!!

First, I am sorry that you have had this much loss in such a short time. Do people pay you ask? I think that they do. Jesus gave us another commandment "That you shall love one another as I have loved you.' To be totally honest. When we die, I think that the only question that God will ask is "How well did you love my people?" God will know your answer to be true. How will Jack's relatives answer???????

I feel for you my friend this is not an act of sympathy but an act of love towards a friend who have been through a lot but still lives through the day and be with friends just the way you are. You know I never thought you were that down last weeks I have seen you in my discussion and you have commented in every way you can I feel for you means I understand you it means i know what you have been through and I wished I know and have seen this discussion a lot sooner. sorry for not knowing how to search friends discussions before but just recently I could have done more than this and just talk to you with it. I think that time you really needed just someone or anyone to talk with and I hope there was someone there for you my lady that times of sorrow. I feel for you means I feel your pain and if only i can share the load with you to ease that pain that you have been going through. I really do wish you are ok now my lady and wish you happiness. kisses and hugs to you my friend.

This is so sad!!! Yes, I would say they are going to pay for being that way. There's going to be a just God and there will be a judgment day someday. Just look at it that way. About the only thing you can do for people like this is to pray for them. Kathy.