Overhearing The Whispers

I hate it when that happens! Can't they just wait until we're out of hearing distance! I've suspected a time or two. I didn't confront it. Just let it go. People all over are a$$es. I just take it as a sign of their ignorance, bad manners, what have you...

You know what? Whenever anyone does something like that to me I rarely confront them because I know they'll deny it and act like I'm being paranoid. The rare times I do confront someone about it I don't ask them if they were talking about me because I know they'll deny it. Instead I TELL them, "I KNOW you were talking about me. I could hear you whispering." They may still deny it, but, at the same time it squashes the rumor that they were going to spread about me (or whatever they were whispering about). People who do this have big problems. They aren't happy with their own lives and they just want to bring others down with them. It's so sad that people can be that way. I hope you get your problem resolved with whoever is doing this to you, hon. Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija

Once I happened to listen to my mother in law whispering certain thing to her daughters which I never expected to hear from her mouth.Though it was a shock to me as I was thinking all the time that she was fond of me I considered it a a good eye opener.

I have not personally overheard anything against myself but I am aware of the fact that each individual has their own understanding and evaluation of situations, so most of the time I don’t pay heed. But there’s this very spiteful person in our workplace who’s very sweet with everybody and in trying to be good to everybody, she’ll also change her views of people, just to humour the person she is interacting with at that moment (what a confusing sentence)…she’ll always tell you what you want to hear! So as is usual in office, I had a tiff with a colleague and it got rather nasty…after the storm blew over, I was sitting silently at my desk (contemplating life) and a group was at the canteen enjoying tea. Well, the person I had the tiff with was in that group and they were generally discussing me and my traits and in walked this (all-pleasing) lady and she just joined in the group, bit*ching against me! someone came and told me and I was cool with it, coz I know this lady’s character…she just wants to remain good friends with everybody! Regarding myself, no I don’t whisper…I have rather poor eyesight, so I cant really make out people going and coming…I am also rather deaf, so I cant hear those word games and I’m rather dumb too, so I cant lip-read…in other words, I am not intelligent enough to play Chinese-whisper.

This may have happened when I was younger, but heck if I can remember. However, just the other day there was an incident that I'd like to share, if you don't mind. My oldest son and I had gone shopping. We were at the check-out getting our items scanned when I overheard a woman tell her grandson (?), who looked to be about 4 years old, not to push the cart so fast. Apparently he kept bumping it into her. Well, he didn't listen to her and he did it again. This time though he got injured from it. The little boy started crying. Well, with my son being autistic, he tends to laugh at inappropriate times, especially when little kids/babies cry. I held on to him, just in case, when I overheard the woman call my son rude. She didn't whisper it, but I barely caught what she said due to keeping my son at bay the best that I could. I ended up saying "excuse me?", but she either didn't hear me or she pretended not to hear me. I spoke out a little more, being the b*tch I can be, and told her that my son isn't rude, he's autistic. But she continued to ignore me and at that point I had paid for my things so I left. I had half a mind to tell her that if anyone was being rude it was her. My autistic son doesn't know how to be rude. He can be a lot of things, but rude isn't one of them.

Yes, i think i have but i just let it pass. One thing i think about during these times is that they can easily deny it because i am not 100% sure of what they were really talking about. Only heard a couple of words that i think were about me. So no matter how spiteful or critial they may seem to me, i think letting it go would be the best way to deal with it instead of being humiliated, once they deny it.

I think it has happened to most of us at some time, wolfie. There have been times when I was certain that I was the target of wagging tongues saying harsh things about me. I had a quick temper when I was young and wouldn't hesitate to confront the offending party, but I've since mellowed out a bit and probably wouldn't even care. And, yes, I have been guilty of whispering about someone in the past and when they walked into the room I felt incredibly guilty because it just seemed as if they could tell that I had been talking about them! It was a very tense moment.

Hello wolfie. Sometimes I see people whispering, but I just ignore them. I don't know why there are such people liking to talk about the others behind them by way of whispering. To me, they are somewhat like gossips I don't like. To stay away from them is a wise idea though, I think.

Hey wolfie! I hate that more than anything! You just know when someone is whispering about you, at least I sure do! And when they try do deny it it pisses me off even more! I have had so many fights about that! You know what you hear and you don't want some to tell you that you didn't hear what you thought you heard!

I get it all the time, well not as much now that my children are older but there was a time that I could not leave the house without knowing that someone was talking about me and my children.

most of the time i'm just being paranoid and think that they are talkin about me. when i confronted them they look surprised and puzzled. i think they are really innocent..

Yeah, I've gotten that a lot. I feel if they don't have something they can say directly to me then they shouldn't say anything at all. People will always do it, but it still irritates me.