Are you happily or unhappily married?

@mermaidivy (15395)
United States
June 2, 2009 3:53pm CST
Let's share your story no matter how happy and sweet you are with your honey or how miserable you feel in your marriage. If you are happy, I think you would like to share with your happiness :-) If you are unhappy, I think you would feel better if you say it to somebody that even you don't know so you have no worries!
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@Yori88 (1465)
• Philippines
3 Jun 09
I am happily married. I am very happy with my husband because we share a lot of likes and dislikes. I am happy because he is very responsible and he works very hard for us. He loves me and our son so much. He is always worry free no matter how we struggle financially at times. He is the only one working and I feel sad I could not help him yet. I am happily married because I never get tired of taking care of my husband and son. I love the life we have now because we share through ups and downs. My husband does not want me worrying and he always finds way to solve our problems. We still go on date, we still eat out and watch movies even if our son is already eight months old. We love each others company and the best reason I could be proud of is that we are both very honest with each other. I love him more than myself and I love our son who brings us joy everyday. I love being married with him even if a lot of people are not so happy with our relationship. They may be against the age gap which is me 16 years younger than him but I do not care because for me age does not matter. If we have a better relationship than those who are of the same age couples they I am more proud to have him. I guess one secret to a good married life is to be open to each other and constant communication is a good practice. We also learned to be more patient and more sincere every day. I love being with my husband and we are not happy if we are with other people without the other one of us. I love him more than anyone else in the world. I wish that we stay this way until we are old and I want us to be together for the rest of our lives. I am happy because my son has us both unlike me where I grew up with my great grandparents in the province and lack the love of my own parents. Anyway I am so blessed now and I love the life I have with my husband and son. Just can't find more words to describe the feeling, I just know I am happy and very contented. Just hoping to find a work soon so I could help my husband with the financial expenses.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
3 Jun 09
It is such a sweet story! I can feel your happiness and how good the relationship is in your family flooding, I feel happy for you that you have such a good family, husbnad and your son brings you two so much joy :-) Thanks for sharing your story! It is a good one!
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
2 Jun 09
I have been married 22 yrs. Right now we are so happy. Our relationship has been threw some very trying times, but we were both committed and worked threw all of the bad stuff togehter. Now we are so happy, about to be grandparents and planning our first borns wedding. I see so many people give up on their marriage because of a bump in the road. It takes alot of commitment, dedication and open communication.
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@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
3 Jun 09
"It takes alot of commitment, dedication and open communication." You are very right! Thanks for sharing! :-) You must be excited for you grandson hehe
• United States
2 Jun 09
I am happy BUT I have to admit that there have been times where I think to myself that my husband gets me so angry. sometimes it is an exaggeration but other times he can be very difficult to live with. most of the time I shrug it off but other times I ask myself am I better off with him or without him? I know I am better with him but it can be a challenge. I don't believe that anyone who is married can say that every moment of every day they are 100% happy.
• India
3 Jun 09
Completely agree with you! And thats the reason why many people think umpteen times before getting into a marriage :) At times, your marriage can make you feel secure and at bliss, whereas there could be times when its really hard upon you. To accept all kinds of situations and give your best in all of them is what makes a marriage successful! Cheers.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Good points! The reason I created this discussion because I was thinking about which one I am, and now both of you two told me the answer that there are always up and down in the marriage, we get veyr happy together sometimes, but there are some arguements and stuff are hard to avoid or it just happens once in a while...
@anislhr (70)
• Oman
3 Jun 09
I am still unmarried but i am afraid from doing marriage bcz i have see some couple who get married and after that they get tensions. I don't want to get tension but i want to marry. So let see what happen with me when i get married.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Yes, I guess you can see what's gonna happen, you never know! Wish you good luck!
• Senegal
5 Jun 09
Yes i can proudly say that am happy for 18 yrs being married. But we have to accept the fact that there's no perfect marriage.No such thing as perfect coz married life has its own ups and downs.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
8 Jun 09
Congratulations! :-) Yes, marriage does alwasy have ups and downs!
@tom99x (25)
• China
3 Jun 09
How to marry the well-being of women,even though there are some problems in life, more inclusive on the like.
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@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
3 Jun 09
my hubby and i have been married for 21 years, we have had our ups and downs but i would have to say that most of the time we have been very happy. :-)
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
3 Jun 09
21 years wow!
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
3 Jun 09
I am happily unmarried. I was married but things went really bad. I've been on my own for years and I love it. I raised 4 kids on my own and at this point in my life, I think I would be a very hard person to live with. I date but like the idea of coming home to my own place....my own space.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
3 Jun 09
oh I missed when I first read your response that you said you are happily unmarried :-p Alright, I'm glad that you have found your way and feel better this way, stay strong! :-)
@mikeysmom (2088)
• United States
3 Jun 09
unfortunately unhappy but staying put because my son would be devastated if his dad moved out. he is young and loves his dad but we are very unhappy together. most days i can weather the unhappiness and just navigate through my day but sometimes it is unbearable to be with a man who is unsupportive, does nothing to help out and when he does he gives you a hard time about it and on and on. life is hard enough but to be with someone who makes you unhappy is even harder. my son knows i am here for his sake and i hope one day he will appreciate it and understand the sacrifice i have made for him because i would have left with my son a long time ago and he could see his dad on the weekends. i won't devastate him though and i would do anything for him so here we stay.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
3 Jun 09
I hope you could have a conversation with your husband telling him about how you feel right now, because just like lots of us say an open communication between the husband and wife is important. I wish you the best!
• Philippines
3 Jun 09
I am not a marry person but i am happy .... i do prefer to be a single one than to commit a relationship that wont last .... but if one day will come i do prefer of course to have a happy marriage life than to have unhappy marriage life...
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Everybody wants to have a marriage, so do we! :-)
• Philippines
3 Jun 09
Yes, I am Happy but sometimes I wonder if my hubby feels the same way because I was a bit of a wild day during our early Marriage times. That's when ever he's sad i would ask him why why why and why. so that i would know how to cheer him up. so far his performance is good, not to mention that there are moments when he's giving too much..
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Thanks for sharing! :-)
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
3 Jun 09
I am happily married! We've been together for five years now. we're five years steady before getting married. we're both happy with each other even if we don't have kids yet!
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
3 Jun 09
That's good to hear :-)
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
3 Jun 09
I think it is not being happy or unhappy,it is how you adjust and adapt to make the relationship grow stronger.I have been married for the past 2 years and i have seen lots of ups and downs in my married life.I have had enough of physical and mental pain and agony and still going through it.Ours was an arranged marriage,so i did not exactly know how his nature would be,or how he would come across as a husband.Many things were fabricated and when after marriage i found the truth,i was in shambles,but i did not lose heart and i can say that i gave 100% to my relationship and it is working successfully.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Thank you for your response! I think you raised a good point that "adjust and adapt to make the relationship grow stronger." Some people might only consider if they are happy or not in the marriage and ignore how to do better to make it stronger.
• India
3 Jun 09
I am very happy with my life, because i am happily married. Mine was love marriage and not an arranged one. THere are many pors and cons of love marriage, but we have challanged all the heating waves of life and decided to live together. She is very caring to me and got a mind to adjust with our life. I am happy that i got such a good wife. I think if you can sit together and talk patiently about the problems that he or she suffers, you can surely find a way to solve them rather than blaming each other.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
3 Jun 09
That's right!
@sweetcakes (3504)
• United States
3 Jun 09
I must say that i am happy in my marriage. yes we have are ups and downs but u shake it off and u move forward... and if u dwell on the past mistake you will not make it in your marriage. i know sometimes you may get on each other nerves.you don't give up on your marriage. i have been married for 41/2 years and together over 15 years so u know that we have been through alot but we are still together.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Yea... one of the mylotters stated a very good point that there are lots of ups and downs in the marriage, cannot give up so easy...
@dmcollie (217)
• United States
2 Jun 09
At the moment I am happily married, sometimes I am not. But that is how life is and also marriage. Their will be bumps in the road. No you should not quit your marriage if you have small problems. I have been married now for 8 years.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
3 Jun 09
8 years is not a small number, good luck for your marriage! Wish you happy forever with your spouse :-)
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
2 Jun 09
I can definitely say I'm happy - but we've only been married for 29 days! We have actually been together off and on for 10 years though and we lived together for 3.5 years before we were married. Things between us are just so easy, we're on the same level with most things and very rarely clash. I know that we'll go through periods in our marriage where things aren't so easy but right now we're blissfully happy newlyweds!
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Congratulations! I'm happy to have you share with us your happy new marriage! :-D
@Citychic (4067)
• United States
9 Jun 09
Are you happily or unhappily married? I find that most of the time I am unhappily married for the past 10 years. Before that I was very much happily married for 10 years. This year will make year number 21 and I don't know if I will stay in my marriage or try to look for greener pastures. Although I already know there is no one perfect person that's out there and if you get married to anyone you will have to be willing to hang in there to make it work year after year and day after day. So far the only way that I've been able to hang in here with it has been by the grace of God. There are many times when I wished that I would have never gotten married but then when my hubby do small things like stand up so proudly in front of a room full of strangers introduced me as his wife. And I can tell by his behavior and posture that he is really proud of me in spite of everything that I've done wrong. It almost makes me want to break down and cry and then I am humbled and think that I should stay in spite of everything because nothing in life is perfect. But when you've made history with another person, you learn that it's not to be taken lightly and I guess we'll just have to wait and see what the future brings.
@Bloggership (1104)
• Indonesia
2 Jun 09
I'm a quite a happy married man. I already have 1 boy and he just looks like me. However, because my family financial not good enough, i had to let my boy live with he grandma and i see that he was happy enough to live with my mother.
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Luck you :-D
• Malaysia
3 Jun 09
how I say,50/50,im happy with my married,but sometime im not happy within.why?before im getting married,im a playboy.when i getting engaged,i falling in love with other girl.but to make my parent happy,my fiance family happinest i still married her.But now,with 4 child i have,im still not happy coz my wife family(in-law)like to interfering my family matters.Such a small thing turns to big things.im fed up with this.