Couple with no child, is it necessary to have one to last longer?

It is not really necessary for the couple to have a child to last longer. That is the problem, when they get older no one will take care of them if they have no children. But this is not a big problem. There are still family that keep and take care their family members. I have knewn a couple who are both in their seventees without a child, and their nieces and nephews are there to visit them and from time to time help them in their household chores.

They should never have a child, if their only reason is that they want their relationship to last longer. They should have a child only if they really want to. I think staying in the relationship for the wrong reasons would only make it worse for them.

depends on the society you live in, here it wouldn't make the couple last longer and sometimes the couples break up faster when children are involved. Couples have to stay together because they want to be with each other, no other reason will make them stay together or separate from each after that.

I don’t think there is an answer to your question because, as others here have said, every couple is different and relationship dynamics are different. Not everyone is cut out or has the desire to be a parent and for those people having children should be out of the question; my own parents belong in this category; I’ll leave those details for another discussion! (LOL) Children must be wanted because as a mother I can tell you that it is hard work and in my opinion parenthood should be a job one has the passion for; it is the most important job in the world and just as significant as many others. It is a choice; it is okay to do and it is fine not to and making the right one is what will be most beneficial to a relationship.

I think a couple should have children,that the family is creditably.

This question is unique in the sense that for many families in the South east Asia there is no question about not having children.More than a union of two people a marriage is considered a union of two families and the further propagation of those families.As far as taking care of parents when they are old is concerned that is not so much related to having or not having children but the cultural norms.Surely many of the people in old homes have children. At the same time in south east Asia there is no question about taking care of your parents once they are old.In fact its a matter of pride and one is considered lucky to benefit from their wisdom. As far as a marriage lasting long enough is concerned the factors involved are innumerable but surely having a child can inspire more faith , trust and patience between the couple. On the flip side it may take them away from their own relationship , as they become more and more involve in their childs life, and that will have its own set of issues. Finally I believe that one cannot rationalize relationships and its like achieving a dream- whethers its hidden or in plain sight- one has to work really hard for it and if ones willing to do that, child or no child it will last.

My husband and I don't have children, and we are very very happy together. We are childless by choice. Children are not necessary for a marriage to last, but it is necessary to see if the marriage will last BEFORE having children. Children shouldn't bare the weight of their parents marriage on their shoulders, it should be the parents that hold the family together so the children will have a safe place to grow.

Wow, you have really put us all to the test with this question. I, myself, chose not to have kids at a very early age. I just did not think that I would want to have children. Plus, even when I thought I might, I only wanted family to take care of them while I worked so many hours. And there was no one around to do that. Now, I have entered into a relationship with a man who already has kids. They are grown and were when we met. He is a really great dad. And I would never take that away from him. He goes and does things with them and helps them with their college or house, etc. So, our situation is totally different than either described here. I am not close to his kids, and don't think I will ever be. However, I have 8 nephews and nieces, who I simply adore and vice-versa. Plus, a couple of very close friends whose sons consider me an aunt-type figure. If it comes down to it, these kids will take care of me in my olden age if need be. I'm not sure if his kids will take care of him, because I don't know them. But I hope they will. As far as our relationship goes, we are perfectly fine without kids. As a matter of fact, with our lifestyle, I think kids would kind of slow us down too much. If you are trying to decide whether or not to have kids, I hope this information is a bit helpful. Good luck to you mobhomeir!

Yes, I think a couple should have at least one child to make the relationship prosper. the child will strengthen their relationship at the same time he will also take care of them when they will be old.

tough question. it is easier to stay a couple when you do not have children because when a couple has children it changes the relationship and makes it tougher. but having a family is great, yeah, you hope if you have kids there will be someone to help you when you are older but there are no guarantees is there?

I think it's not really necessary to have kids to make a marriage last. It also depends on the couple. Most couples want children, but some don't.

I really think the answer to this will vary from couple to couple. I know some people who dont want any children at all. So having a child would definitely put a strain on their relationship! I also think that having a child can put a strain on any relationship because the parents dont always agree as to how the child should be raised. Overall, I dont think it really matters. I think if a couple really wants to, they can make it through anything. There are some couples that just wont make it no matter what - they just arent willing to put the effort in. So I say that each couple should do what is right for them and not listen to anyone else!

Well, to start with, longer relationship should not be based solely in having a child, right? it must be strongly founded on love - love first of all of the Almighty, the Creator, the true God, in my case His name is Jehovah. He as a founder of family and marital relationship knows very well the exact ingredients in order to succeed and be fulfilled in having one. 2nd, love of each other not only of lust or passion but also love in its real meaning that is agape in Greek principled love, coated by filial love too. then, the fruit of the said commitment will be the longing of a complete family which is having a child. some believed that that is the ultimate goal and reason of marriage and putting up a family. That is traditionally right and correct. Yet, situations in every married couple varies. Others don't want to have children while many of course love children. In case a couple doesn't have, will they think is the end of a good marriage? no a handful of couples who have still end up in divorce and or separation one way or another. So how does a couple cope up without having children in spite of their efforts and longing to have one failed to have one? Face the truth. Having children is not everything about life. You have a reason to be alive and happy. Weigh these facts: for a while now i have seen a tv program WISH KO LANG here in the Philippines, show casing a woman who has been married but abandoned by her husband got 1 or 2 children i think, one abandoned her the remaining one is having cerebral palsy? kind of sickness and she is to take care of that invalid child the rest of her life. Is it not good for you couples who does not abandoned each other to know that your lot is better although i myself felt sorry for that woman. So, in order to make your relationship work, weigh your mental, emotional and rational capabilities and whims. A lot of door is open for the two of you to enter indulge selves in doing great things besides having children. Raising needy children though not your own might fill a bit the gap you are now filling. But the best thing that could ever happen to a childless couple is knowing a great cause and reason for living that even when you grow old you can still find yourself satisfied and fulfilled and happy. Take for example a couple or two from a group of people serving Jehovah God, a full time ministers whose lives are devoted in doing God's ministry for the love of God and fellow men. They prefer not to have children to further their endeavor to the cause they have set in their lives to walk on. So you see, it depends in your capacity to grasp the question - what is really the most important thing in life, why am i living what is the reason and a lot more questions we have suffice ourselves with answers in order to go on. No matter what situation we are in let us not forget that we live because SOMEBODY SUPREME created us and for a very good reason. Never to forget too being positive in life no matter what if there is a problem there is a solution, if there is a situation we can always deal with that, just widen the horizon before us.

In this situation the love of the couple be tested. Realistically, most couple would decide to adopt. In that way, they're going to have responsibility. Unlike if they will remain childless, they could easily separate because it would only the marriage contract that binds them. It still counts a lot to the couple to have a child because that completes a family. So for me, being childness should not be a big deal to couple but being childless, it could be an opportunity for a childless couple to take care of a child and a chance to give less fortunate children a bright future

i don't think so... i think its on how the couple value their relationship and their marriage.

for me,having children doesn't guarantee that you have someone to take care of you when you get older.when your children become adults,they will lead their own lives.they will be busy with their own lives.worst if you had a bad relationship with your child.choosing a child-free life myself,I don't have doubts about who will take care of me when I get older.I'll cross the bridge when I get there;right now all I have to do is save for myself and have fun living my life in my own terms.

Hello there, It entirely depends on the couple, most specially HUsband and wife. but most of the time, it's the Wife who wants to have a Baby. The relationship lasting longer depends entirely on the couple, and has nothing to do with having a Child. In most recent times, couples still divorced or annuls even though they have so many children. i guess the advantage of childless couple is that some can divorce or separate at ease