How will you do?

I am a primary school teacher. I know that some disobedient children have a low self esteem. They might have a lack of boundaries at home so react badly by being told what to do at school. I look at such a child and catch them being good. It might be the slightest thing and then I give praise. I set the child a target like give them a sand timer and see if they can keep at their school work during that time limit. I find out which is the child's top interest like it might be cars. I plan a reward system around that. If the child gets three, five or ten stickers he or she will be given a treat. It might be ten minutes playing with sand and water for example. Soon I manage to win the child over and make him or her a happier person that is easier to teach in the classroom. I have only met four children that were almost impossible to do anything with though. I did my best and had a little success but not as much as I hoped.

The following has worked on children from the age of 2 until 6, I have not tried it on older kids but I am sure I will get to. Take your child to the living room, but say nothing. Just lead them in there. Turn off every source of noise you can. The TV, radio, anything like that. THe point is to make the room boring. Take a cushion off the couch and drop it is the middle of the floor. By this time your kid will think that you are crazy, this will work for you. lead the child to the coushion and firmly give the order to "sit" do not give in the kid must sit on the cushion and be still for the age pluss 2 minutes. Fidgetting, talking, and crying adds time (you haven't spanked him or her so they are just crying because they figured out that you really are going to punish them.) There is no need to explain anything until the time is up. and feel free to assist the child in sitting. This is just a time out but being in a room that is normally fun and for family and seeing that it can be extreamly boring and quite can make a big difference. Plus sometimes everyone needs some quiet and still time, it helps you to think.

I will try to make them understand the problems they would face also I will show them good examples so that they can learned..as the phrase goes'Seeing is believing,Learning by doing'..

I am having this problem with my four year old son. I have gotten the suggestion to ignore the bad behavior, and I am thnking about trying that.