What if your spouse says "Do it yourself" ?

I have been in this situation many times and I asked my partner to "Do it yourself" There are times when I am really tired with households because I am the only one to do it so when I iron his shirts he might tell me that do it this way or that way then I tell him "Do it yourself" If you find it not good. Then sometimes he gets angry but most of the time he says "No actually it is good, so I will wear it". It is funny to listnen to im but he does understand sometimes That I can be tired with households. One day I tol him to do something and he replied the way I told him when he found fault in my way of ironning and I must tell you that I was angry maybe more than he was when I told him that. I went to o the task myself without asking him one more time again. Sometimes we have to make compromises. It is an ingredient in a relationship which shall always be present.

Most definately you have to do it yourself. Why should you even look for alternatives. In the first place you should not let it come to that. Errands be it household or otherwise have to be shared by both so it does not come to this stage when one has to say do it yourself

I guess to not complicate things, I'd just indeed try and 'do it myself.' I'd let her see if I could really do it or not. I know alternatives like hiring help would indeed cost much so I will instead try it myself. If she thinks I could do it, good for the both of us. If she thinks I'm hopeless when I try to do things at home by myself, I hope she reconsiders and tries to help out again. (^_^")

Sometimes I wish I would have taken the iniciative from the beginning and told my husband to do SOMETHING around the house. True he works but at least he could take out the trash once in a while. Anyway, I have been an enabler for 4 years so now it is too late. I always wind up doing EVERYTHING myself and I think I am starting to really get so used to it that now I don't want him to do anything because I am afraid he will do it wrong. I wish I wasn't such a PERFECTIONIST!!

I have been hearing the words from my spouse since the beginning, even when she had nothing to do. Since I had already accepted her, I did it myself. Therew ere times when waves of despair and frustration fell over me, but a promise to make a relationship better is not something to be played with. Looking for an alternative may look feasible and a good option, but there is no guarantee you will find what you are looking for. Many people show their true colours after marriage. Seeking a compromise by for example agreeing to help with some of the housework or doing it on alternate days may help. all the best in finding a solution, rosdimy