Multiple Girls Like Me But I Am Commited to One

United States
June 3, 2009 3:50am CST
Alright so I have a problem. My ex girlfriend has been coming around more often and I am not going to lie, she is cheating on her boyfriend with me. I want to be with her but I don't know what she wants. On the side of that, I met a girl over an internet social network and she is super chill and I have a great time talking to her. She wants to date me but I don't want to rush into a relationship. I am taking my time with her. And now, I have another girl that met me over the same internet dating website and I am going to go swimming with her this weekend. I feel like a jerk because I am leading on my ex that I still love her, yet I am making plans with other girls because I am not sure if she wants to have a relationship with me again or not. The girl I met over the dating website seems to have taken quite an interest in me and she gives me sweet compliments all the time and I can tell she could be long term. And the girl that I am going to go swim with is absolutely beautiful and the type of girl that I could never get back in high school so that's something I think about too. I need some advice. Am I a player for talking to so many girls and getting so many girls interested in me or am I just keeping my options open? Could one of these girls get hurt if they found out I was talking to other girls?
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7 responses
@Kanani79 (22)
• United States
4 Jun 09
Personally, I think you need to work on yourself. You have serious issues if you can't make up your mind and you're playing 3 girls at once. I think that's shady and dirty and frankly I hope all 3 girls find out, ditch you and you realize what you're doing and as mean as it is..I hope it hurts you in the end. That way you know what it's like to feel like you're being played for a fool.
@dawnald (84892)
• Shingle Springs, California
3 Jun 09
Yeah it sounds like you're keeping your options open. But what do you really want? If you want to be with the ex, ask her what her intentions are. If she isn't serious, run like hell in the other direction. And yes, any of them could get hurt. But has it occurred to you that you could get hurt too?
• United States
3 Jun 09
Whoa! What a mess. I just think you are confused. I think you need to stop for a minute clear your head and think about what you really want. Yes these girls will get hurt if you keep leading them on. I know it is hard ,but which girl do you really want to be with. Take some time alone and think about it. Which ever girl you miss the most is probably the one you should focus on. If it is your ex then sit down and have a heart to heart talk with her. If she wants to stay with her boyfriend and not you then I think you should leave her alone all together so that you can leave the door open for someone else to come into your heart. Please try to pick one girl because all the other girls will get hurt and do you really want to hurt people. Think about it. Good Luck. :)
• Philippines
3 Jun 09
Wow! talk about having many lucky charms all at the same time. I think my best advice there is to simply keep befriendly with these girls and not to get too much into the Romantic thing. you'll see the difference, because if you go with all of them, you will turn out to be a play girl Jerk.think of it and weight yourself, to which one do you really think deserving to you..
@cbeee3 (2063)
• India
3 Jun 09
First of all I am glad that You realize you could be acting like a jerk.Atleast you have a conscience that is telling you that you could hurt someone.Coz that is a fact! I am a big believer in Karma-What goes around comes around.Treat people the way you want to be treated. First of all I think it is wrong for your ex to be cheating on her BF with you. Really sad for her BF.And about the other two girls. You really need to take some time, think over it and choose one of them.Life is a gamble,it doesn't always work out, but hurting someone this way is not an answer.Just tell me how would you feel if you were at the receving end. ( No pun intended).
• New Zealand
3 Jun 09
Think about it this way was it your ex who left you? If it was maybe she is just using you and leading you on. These girls on the internet if you like them go and see what they are like. If you don't end up fancying them you can simply tell them you don't want anything to happen. If you do end up liking them then you have to ask yourself, will going back with my ex go anywhere? Would i be happier with one of these internet girls? I don't think you are being sleezy yet but it could easily escalate to a sleezy situation so my advice is to trial your options and stick to one definite option. Hope i helped
• United States
3 Jun 09
Well, first, I think you should talk to your ex about this situation. Then, you have to decide which one of the two girlS you like more on dating website and break up with one I guess, or you can break up with both of them and stay with your ex if she breaks up with her boyfriend.