I Need Some Advice
By Payout
@payout (3797)
United States
June 3, 2009 8:45am CST
I'm 18, years old I have been single for a good fraction of my life and thats because I was afraid to fall in love with someone. Now I did..
I'm in a gay Relationship, but he is my first guy I ever dated, n first person I kissed.
Yeah I get told that Because Im young and this is like my first serious relationship. That in time I will eventually tell my Boyfriend that we need to see other people to know if our relationship is right.?
I don't think person have to do that and try other people out to see if that one person you was with is truly right for you. Thats my opinion.
I say well why can't a person find love even while they are young.? I was told that I'm very Mature for my age that is good..
Now why can't I know for a fact that I know a person is right for me..? Yeah you see it on TV and soup operas and stuff. That's them Just because a person has gone through that doesn't mean we have to. ?? I just don't understand how a person can just know from there heart that they are the right person for them.
Yes relationships get stronger when hard times come and then get better. but yeah we had some hard times. But I was told we didn't have a big one like, Oh I think we need to see other people. I think your heart will tell you if that person is right for you. Not dating other people.?
It will be hard if something like that happen but my Boyfriend knows that it's going to be me.. like 99.99% sure.
I notice that in our relationship I get scared.. I'm afraid he will get tired of me or want to see other people because he is not sure. Slowly not caring about our relationship. ?
So all that makes me look bad. I notice that I'm more controlling and jealous. But From today on I will change. It will take time, I know I can do it..
[b]I ask him who is he texting.?
Where you going?
are you hanging out with your friends tonight?
are you cheating on me.?
I hope you don't like that guy?
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Then When I try to talk about our relationship he doesn't want to? Just I don't want to talk about it..?
So I think it's me he is perfect the way he is but I'm changing.? and it needs to stop now. to save our relationship.
CAN ANYONE GIVE ME ADVICE
1 response
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
4 Jun 09
It sounds like you're feeling insecure right now and you really should get a grip on yourself before you drive your guy away. If you want to have a happy relationship then you have to become part of a happy relationship. Stop being scared and stop worrying and start enjoying the time the two of you spend together. Unless he has given you a reason not to trust him, trust him. Let him have his space and you take some time for yourself, too, now and then. Have fun together and just go with the flow. If he doesn't want to talk about the relationship then don't talk about it...just live it and try to relax. 

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