Dating system

Denmark
June 3, 2009 6:36pm CST
I don't understand this whole dating thing..here in Denmark you don't really date a number of time, usually either you ask him/her to be your boyfriend/girlfriend or else it just comes naturally..so here's my question, when are you actually in a relationship with a girl you're dating? how many dates does it take before it's "sure" you're together? or does it just comes naturaly?
4 responses
• Philippines
4 Jun 09
I'm from the Philippines, and I believe the term "courtship" still happens in here. It's where you date a person for to get to know them, and then make up your mind if you really like him/her to be your boyfriend or girlfriend. Courtship is done by the boys of course, and the girl is the one who have to make a choice. It's either yes or no. It's also obvious now, that some of the younger generations are more open or liberated here. Liberated in a way that they don''t believe in courtship anymore.
• Denmark
4 Jun 09
it's actually alot like it is in Denmark
@urricur (10)
• United States
4 Jun 09
I agree with snowy. Since people date so frequently and usually prefer to date more than one person, it has to be a mutual agreement between the two people before they are officially in a relationship. Before the relationship becomes official, two people may date a few times to see how things can possibly work out. No one really wants to jump into a relationship after only one date because one date doesn't offer enough time for two people to fully get to know each other and be confident enough to enter into a relationship. In many cases, relationships do come naturally if two people feel the same way about each other after they've been dating for a little while.
@sameroad (3180)
• United States
4 Jun 09
i have no idea... i think it might come naturally.. i've been seeing this one girl for 5 weeks now but nothing has been said about what we "are" but it's known that were together? so i guess it we are or were? i think it's over between us now lol but nothing was ever said but were dated for 5 weeks? so i don't know... it's a little confusing to me.
@snowy22315 (99844)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Usually you have to reach a mutual understanding between the two of you. You usually have to make a conncection with someone before you can consider him or her to be your boyfriend or girlfriend. It comes naturally to a degree and is developed to a degree. Things are alittle more confusing in other parts of the world.