When feeling depressed from your stressful work, how do you deal with it?

feeling depressed or blue  - How do you deal with it when you feel depressed?
China
June 5, 2009 5:37am CST
I am a happy person in general, but when facing stress given by the immediate boss, I find it hard to be happy again. I even feel very depressed, which can affect my mood for a couple of days. When feeling depressed, I find it difficult for me to get concentrated on my normal work. I would just sit at the office table with a blank mind. Even when my foreign colleague talks to me, I have no interest in listening, but I still pretend to be listening to show my respect. I have a hard day today( June 5th, 09) and I am still in low spirit. I feel depressed and blue as well. So how do you deal with this situation when feeling depressed or blue, please?
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48 responses
@daliaj (5674)
• India
5 Jun 09
It is not vey easy to handle stress. I am sorry for you. When I feel stressed, I will get out of it usign the following ways. 1. Talk to an intimate friend about the problems I am facing. 2. Listen to some nice easy flowing music. 3. Sleep well and watch good movies. 4. Go out and eat my favorite food 5. Go for shopping. Try some of these. Talking to a good friend is really helful.
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• China
5 Jun 09
Hello dear daliaj. I appreciate your tips in the response, which is very helpful to me. Now I am getting better after reading so many responses from you and some other friends here. I am glad that I shared my blue experience with you and get so many good tips in return. Many thanks to you, daliaj.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
7 Jun 09
I also think taking good food and sleeping well helps a lot in our life. I also listen to music when I am sad through my FM player and lie on my bed.
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• China
8 Jun 09
Hello ajithlal. I agree that it is a good way to sleep off the depression as well as listening to some music when feeling blue.
@zzyw87 (1254)
• Philippines
5 Jun 09
When I am feeling stressed out at work or if it is because of my boss, I simply shut it off my mind when I get home. My motto is always leave work-related matters behind after you go home and just deal with it when you go to work the following morning. When I get home, I simply relax and watch a movie or television show. Sometimes, I just surf the net or hang out with friends. These are my ways to relax after a stressful day. On weekends, I usually go shopping or go on outings or dine out with family or friends. Then I get energized already for the following week to come.
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• China
5 Jun 09
Hello zzyw. It is well said that better always leave work-related matters behind after getting home. I must have it as my motto as well. I thank you so much for the response, dear friend. Take care and enjoy your life.
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@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
7 Jun 09
Hi jisir, as a staff, it’s normal that we might come across stress given by our boss at any time. Yeah, no matter how optimistic we are, we still will feel depressed and this usually would put us in an unhappy mood for quite some time until we have got the problem solved. If the stress is from a new difficult task appointed, definitely I will feel depressed. I know I will be in low spirit if I keep on thinking the unhappy thing. It’s rather better for me to find a solution to cope with it. I will be happy again if I know how to deal with the difficulty or unpleasant stress. No matter the action is effective or not. It’s rather better than doing nothing and getting stuck in the low spirit. I think after two days, everything is over now. Since you are a happy person, I believe you are as happy as usual again my dear friend. Wish you all the best and happy posting!
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• China
7 Jun 09
Hello lkbooi. Thank you so much for your concern. I am now feeling much better because I told my only best friend whom I trust yesterday about my problem and he helped me so much that I felt much better. Last night I talked to my real boss about it and I was so glad that she is on my side and encouraged me not to think too much about it and she told me that both her and her husband have deep trust in me for my personality that they know. I am so glad that I have the understanding of my real bosses instead of the immediate boss, an invited one. I am smiling again for that. Thank you again for the concern and response, my dear friend. I am so glad to have you there to help me out of feeling blue. Have a good day and enjoy your life.
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• India
6 Jun 09
Hello my friend williamjisir Ji, While under depression, I never think about reasons and try and come out. I think entirely different subject. Here si something from the web : http://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Emotional-or-Verbal-Abuse-While-Depressed [b]How to Deal With Emotional or Verbal Abuse While Depressed Depression is a serious illness. Abuse cannot be tolerated if one desires to lessen the effects of severe depression. The way you are treated by those around you greatly impacts the way you think about yourself. This article shares a technique you can use to get people to treat you the way you want to be treated. 1.If you suspect you have severe depression and know you experience emotional/mental abuse you are one step ahead of most people in this circumstance. Some tips to help you cope with a difficult delimma are: 2.See a mental health professional for an accurate diagnosis. 3.See a medical doctor for a prescription if necessary. Take the medication as prescribed and do not stop the medication without telling your doctor. 4.Become willing to work with the doctor to alter medication when necessary since these medications interact differently with all brains. 5.Evaluate your circumstances to see how you can set boundaries with the people in your life whom you allow to emotionally and verbally abuse you. 6.Find out where your boundaries are. The way to do this is to remember back to when someone said or did something that really hurt you or made you angry. This is where one of your personal boundaries lie. Write that down. List as many of your boundaries as you can think of. Now you know what people cannot do or say to you without your being hurt. "[/b] May God bless You and have a great time.
• China
6 Jun 09
Hello maygodblessu44, Ji. I thank you so much for the tips about the dealing with depression. I think that they are very useful to me. I will try my best to drive the depression away from me without letting it spoiling my life and work. I am sure that I can make it with all of you friends for help. Have a good day, my dear friend.
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• China
6 Jun 09
Hello my dear friend. I am so happy to let you know that my best friend offered me so much help the way you offer me help here. Now I am feeling much better from the depression and I am getting happy again. Thank you, dear friend. Take care and best regards to you.
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• India
6 Jun 09
Hello my friend williamjisir Ji, So nice of your comments in most appriciable positive ways. Once you try, I am sure you will get success. And same thing you expect from your pupil. May God bless You and have a great time.
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• China
7 Jun 09
I think the best way to solve this problem is to change your atittude towards the stress given by the immediate boss.When you start your work,you can tell yourself that you are capable to figure out whatever the boss ask you to do.All in all,take it easy~
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• China
8 Jun 09
Hello Tashia. You are right that it is the attitude that counts. Attitude decides everything. I must remember it. Thank you so much, my dear friend.
@bearound (132)
• China
7 Jun 09
I will write down my feeling or share my feeling with my freinds. Sometimes,we need to listen to our heart peacefully. I don't think bule or depressed feelings are bad.That is part of me. When I am writing or telling,the feeling will become realized.I won't be controlled by this part of me any more.Accept it,face it,solve it,and put it down.
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• China
7 Jun 09
Hello dear bearound. It is well said that we need to accept, face, solve and put it down when it happens to us. I did so yesterday by talking to my friend and going to talk with my real big boss and the result is satisfactory to me. I am glad to be the happy williamjisir again after the talking. Thank you so much for the nice response, dear friend.
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@coffeeshot (3783)
• Australia
6 Jun 09
Sorry to hear you're feeling down. I'm going through a really tough patch at the moment and my doctor has included exercise in my treatment. I need to get 40 minutes of exercise a day. I take my dogs for a walk and also ride my bike in the afternoon. It releases endorphins, allows you to breathe fresh air and clears your mind. It's amazing how great you feel after just a bit of exercise every day. I hope you feel better soon.
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• China
6 Jun 09
Hello my dear coffeeshot. I am happy to tell you that I am now much better because today my best friend helped me a lot and then this evening, I went to my real boss and she gave me a lot of encouragement not get burdened with it. I appreciate her for her understanding me. Now I am as happy as I used to again. Thank you so much for your concern, my good friend. Take care.
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
5 Jun 09
I'm sorry you are having a blue day, my friend. I hope it doesn't last long. Exercise always works best for me. Even if all I can fit in is a short stroll. But when I'm really, really stressed I prefer to sweat a lot for an extended period of time. It clears the mind, cleanses the body, and helps me to sleep well that night.
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• China
6 Jun 09
Hello dear makingpots. Thanks so much for the response and the tips of doing exercises to get rid of it. I am glad to let you know that I talked to my best friend today and then in the evening I called my real boss and had a heart-to-heart talk with her and we had a nice conversation. I am so encouraged because of the talks with both my best friend and my real boss as well as nice responses from all of you, my friends. Take care and enjoy your life, dear friend.
@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
6 Jun 09
I have had problems with depression since my on the job injury in 1983. I also have had to deal with a LOT of stressful situations. I discovered a few things about myself. First, I can sense when a bout of depression is coming so I make sure that I get plenty of sleep, eat better foods, and treat myself well. The biggest thing that has contributed to my depression is if I don't get enough sleep...I make sure that the next night I get to bed early and get plenty of rest. Also, when I am depressed, I DON'T watch the news! That makes my depression worse because of the massive amounts of bad news. I will turn on cartoons or a funny movie instead. It is amazing how much help a good laugh is when you are depressed or stressed. What is really odd for me is that when I am really stressed and depressed I love playing the Fuge by Bach. I love the monster music that he composed, and it makes me feel better. I can visualize the movies and imagine the events in the movie. I also will watch favorite movies like "Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade" or any of the other Indiana Jones' movies. I will say that my present boss is tough but fair. She is a slave driver of sorts, and pushes me to do more and think harder about what I am doing. She brings out the creative side of me, and does remind me that I do need to work the job until it is done rather than going from one project to another. My only complaint about my boss is that she doesn't pay well, but it is a bit hard to talk to her as I would be considered ODD for talking to myself. Yes, I am my own boss, I design and create artist teddy bears. So, unfortunately I can't feel the problems that you currently have. I just wonder if your immediate boss isn't feeling great stress from his superiors. Sometimes when a boss is grim and stressful to work for, they are under a LOT of stress themselves. Right now, treat yourself well, get plenty of rest and treat yourself to something you enjoy. I bought myself some shrimp for dinner tomorrow night (I love shirmp). I couldn't afford a lot of them, but even getting just a couple brightened my day. I hope that your stress related depression will one day be eased and you can be your happy self again.
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• China
7 Jun 09
Hello Lovebear. You are so nice and kind as to share with me this topic. I have learned a lot from it. After two days of posting this discussion, I am now feeling much better. I am glad that I have you here to give me tips and I am also very glad that my best friend helped me a lot yesterday talking with me. Then late in the evening I called to pay a visit to my real boss in charge of the whole management. We had a nice talk and I am almost back to my previously happy state after talking with my best friend and my real boss in person. I am now quite relieved from the stress. I thank you and all the other friends here who are here for me. I wish you all the best, my dear friend.
@MisterPlus (1915)
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
Hello there my friend. My sister once asked me about stress. She finds her work very stressful. I told her to quit her job but I know it is not the right thing to do. Finally I found the answer to her problem. I told her that problems need solutions. Stress needs another approach. The solution to stress is forget about it. Give yourself a little time not to think of anything and relax to get rid of the stress. Whenever you feel stress get out and have fun, clean fun. Do things that makes you happy. I hope this helps you.
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• China
6 Jun 09
Hello dear Mr.Plus. Thank you so much for the response. This morning I talked about my stress with my best friend and he is helping me a lot out of the stress. We will see how it goes. I need to face it and fix it myself, and I really appreciate it when I have so many of you friends here as well as my best friend, my colleague's advice and help. Thank you again for it, Mr.Plus. Take care.
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• United States
7 Jun 09
I do that often, sometimes that feeling lasts for a little while. I try to focus on the things that make me greatful and happy, though in that sort of mood, nothing is as grand as it seems at other times. I try to find something to take my mind off for a few, a good book, some interest art, a project, even if it is settling for TV or a movie. Just laying next to my partner as he watches TV makes me feel a lot better. Being intimate is also a great cure for stress. Sometimes, taking melatonin works well to ensure I am getting a good amount of sleep, it is easier to combat those feelings with a well rested mind. Hope you are feeling better.
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• China
7 Jun 09
Hello Utopian Idealist. To begin with, thank you so much for the nice response that I have learned so much from it. I am feeling much better now after having a talk with my best friend and reading all of the responses here from you all, my dear friends. By the way, I love your username, which sounds very beautiful to me. I wish you would do everything perfectly like the name hints. Good luck to you, friend.
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@galileo2008 (1141)
• Philippines
5 Jun 09
I hope you can recover fast with that feeling. I, too, felt depressed before. I cried the whole time, not knowing what to do to make me feel better. My friends told me to seek help from a professional therapist, to which I did not adhere. My mom just simply told me to meditate or ask guidance from God, for He will definitely help me..and so I did. I also ask my friends to pray with me. Sometimes, I spend more time doing beautiful things like helping the less fortunate.. In this way,I feel relaxed and not to stressed.
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• China
6 Jun 09
Hello dear galileo. I thank you so much for the response. I am getting better after talking with my best friend this morning about my depression. I wish that it would soon vanish from me. Be blessed, friend.
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• United States
6 Jun 09
Well when I'm having a down day, I turn to my friends or boyfriend for support for the most part, talk to them about my problems. If I don't feel like talking though, I turn to music. A good, steady beat always lifts my spirits. Reading is also another coping mechanism I use. Getting lost in a good book, being taken away from the harsh reality I'm placed in, works wonders as well.
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• China
6 Jun 09
Hello friend. I did talk to my best friend this morning and he offered me sooo much help and I am getting much better now because I talked to my real boss for the stress given to me and she is so nice as to comfort me not to worry about it and not to get depressed because of it. I appreciate my real boss as well as my best friend and all of you friends here who give me nice tips. Thank you so much for it and have a wonderful day, my new friend.
@pansy45 (153)
• Indonesia
6 Jun 09
actually people is individual,,they need some time just to their self,i think when you in that situation,you must let yourself have a time to be alone.you shouldn't always look happy,,you're just a human that have a feeling.it's humanity,,just give your self a time.
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• China
6 Jun 09
Hello dear pansy. Thank you so much for the response and thank you for your understanding about depression. I appreciate it and am giving myself time to rest from it today. Take care and enjoy your weekend, friend.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
5 Jun 09
It is something I have almost very often. I try to watch some good TV programs. I have seen reading some good books also give me some relaxation.or some matches on TV.
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• China
5 Jun 09
Hello subha. It is good for you to find some ways you prefer to stay away from the depression by watching TV and reading good books. I need to give it a try as well. Thank you, dear subha. Take care.
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@Shar19 (8231)
• United States
5 Jun 09
Sorry to hear you had a bad day. It will get better. Whenever I had a bad day in the office I would try to take a couple of deep breaths to calm myself down. Sometimes I would buy a nice chocolate candy bar to cheer me up. Also drinking some hot herbal tea always relaxed my spirits. When I would go home I'd take a nice long walk to clear my head.
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• China
6 Jun 09
Hello Shar. I thank you so much for the response. I need to do something to fix the depression to make sure I am happy again. I appreciate the ways you do to let away the depression. Have a good day, friend.
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• United States
5 Jun 09
Gosh... I feel your pain for my work week is always like this. I have two bosses. One is great, the other not so much. He always has so much self inflicted drama going on. Like yesterday, him not returning phone calls to clients and opposing counsel caught up to him. He yeld and screamed at me cause the attorney sent him a nasty letter about his lack of proffessional courtersy. I just hate going to work the day after he has had a blow up. Its sometimes physically hard for me to get out of bed to get ready for work cause I know what I will be facing. I cant realy answer your question cause Im still trying to find out the answer to that myself. Good Luck and I hope your day gets better!!
• China
6 Jun 09
Hello renemouche. I am so sorry that you also have such a boss that is not nice, but with so much self inflicted drama going on. Boss of this type is not welcome by his colleagues. I wish you would have a better one instead of him some day soon. I do appreciate your sharing with me about your own blue experience, dear friend. Take care and have a good day.
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@bhabytart (1116)
• Philippines
5 Jun 09
hello there williamjisir..... work is really stressful..... specially when you have deadlines..... i have also experienced being depress because of work.... now what i usually do when i am depress form work is..... i find a place.... take a deep breathe and i shout! or if i can not shout........ i take a break.... and i eat alot!!!! i eat the food that would make me feel good.... like the food that i really love to eat.... ice cream, chocolate, pasta, pizza, and other food... by doing this i let out my depression.... and stress.... and at the same time i have energy to stay up late for work... why dont you try it maybe it will help you.... eat the food that you like....have a nice day ahead of you....
• China
6 Jun 09
Hello my dear friend. I appreciate your response very much and I think that it is a good idea for me to give it a try to make myself feel better by the tips you give. I wish you all the best, friend.
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@faisai (1138)
• Hong Kong
5 Jun 09
I will tell myself that at the moment I enter the office area, I am no longer myself. I have sold out myself to the company and therefore I am what the company want me to be. Part of it is of course to make my boss feel he is in charge of everything. Therefore if my boss is trying to do things that will depress me, I will telly myself that it is just work and nothing more. It really makes no sense to be too serious of it as technically speaking, he is not making "me" depressed but the employee of the company depressed. I just so happen to be in that position to "feel" the depression. Above all, I am paid.
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• China
6 Jun 09
Thank you, faisai, for your response that I have learned something useful that it is very important to make some adjustments to the mood in a peaceful way. Take care, friend.
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@rdadey (484)
• Canada
8 Jun 09
There's nothing worst than not feeling comfortable at your workplace. Having a bad boss is not only bad for you but for the company as well. If you don't seek help with this than you will never be the same again. It's like a marriage that breaks down and scars you for life. Find someone to help you through this.
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• China
8 Jun 09
Hello dear rdadey. I did talk to not only my best friend, but also to my real boss in the first place and I got to know my real boss's comment on me, nice and pleasant words to hear. I talked to them the next day after posting this discussion. My best friend is of great help to me. Now I am back to my usual happy mood again. Thank you so much for the nice response. Have a good time, dear friend.
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• China
9 Jun 09
Thank you so much and good luck to you as well, friend.
@rdadey (484)
• Canada
8 Jun 09
I'm happy things worked out for you, never bottle it up for too long, the lid can get stuck. It's good when you can talk your problems out with someone, sometimes you'll find that person had a similar experience and can really help you.Bet it lifted a great weight off you. Good luck and take care my friend.
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