unconditional love is it true

United States
June 5, 2009 8:05pm CST
there is a saying that says you should never try to change someone you should always love them the way they are now does this saying stand true if you found out the person you love was a drug addict, or an convicted murderer, or an ex convicted rapist or even something worse what do you do then once you find something like that out?? would you still stand by them and try to change them would you just run away as fast as you can
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@angelajoy (1825)
• Philippines
30 Sep 09
I don't believe in unconditional love, because unconditional love is indifference. We all need to watch out for the people we love, and that includes helping them change their bad attitudes for their own growth.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
If I happen to love a person who is a murderer. Then I must dig deeper in to her personality. To discover why she does bad things in her life. There's always a hidden story in everything that we do in life. If I realized that she wont gonna change then I will leave her even If I love her very much.
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
well, it is possible, but there are limits to that in a person, most specially, if they are not respected or love back.unconditional is something that must be done freely by a person with selfless feelings to some one or to every one that he/she loves.unfortunately, if the person is obsessed then it becomes obsession and selfishness instead of letting go.
@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
6 Jun 09
That is a tough question to answer. For my normal reaction, if I found out what they did before such as what you described above, I might run fast, and keep the distance as far as I can. Or even plead a restrain order from that particular ex - criminal getting near me. If he/she really change over time, why not give him/her another chance to re - new his/her life a normal person. But if he/she was serious criminal, I just can't accept that.
@mrsl2008 (634)
6 Jun 09
Hi, Unconditional love exsists regardless of the circumstances particulary your own children. You would probaly try to change them for the better, fail and then cut them out of your life to teach them a lesson. However you would do these things because you care & love them. I would love my girls regardless of what they became, how I deal with them, I couldn't say. And I hope I never have to find out x Mrsl x x
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
It is correct when you say that love is unconditional but there are limits to that. When you love someone, you will be open in changing somethings in your life and your significant other as well. An example would be my husband, before he used to smoke but when I learnt that he has asthma I told him to stop not because I just want to or just for the heck of it but because I was looking out for him. Today he does not get sick all the time and is living a better life. He listened not because he got scared of me but out of love.
@psalmist (109)
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
indeed love is really unconditional, if you say you love a someone , then you can say for yourself that love is really unconditional, it knows no boundaries, no limits, no ifs and buts.. just always accepting the wrong, and understands even the most complex situation.... thats how it is... love..... unconditionallly.....
@galileo2008 (1141)
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
A mother's love is unconditional that even if her son is a murderer, or a killer, or a rapist, she is willing to forget everything whatever crime her son committed and she'll forgive him without any hesitation. Unconditional love is a kind of special love, no one can ever question you for that because you love that person no matter what he is, where he is from, whatever he does. You love him whole-heartedly, without doubts, without skepticism. That's the exact kind of love God has for us.
@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
6 Jun 09
I think that the only true unconditional love is for your child. Do not get me wrong I love my husband I adore him but if he raped someone, I would be gone in a heart beat with my children. Had I learned when we were dating that he had this in his past, I would have been gone.
@doggyhouz (548)
• United States
6 Jun 09
My thoughts is that we can love anyone but committing is the key. Doesn't matter if its the girl today or the boy of yesterday. Any day will come as long as you choose to embrace it. When two people make the right choice at the right time; that is when you find it. The it of true love. We only stop when your no longer focused on the matter it self. Then we must escape if it isn't the trueness you seek. That is what I think.