Making Friends

@saw2207 (1359)
United States
June 7, 2009 6:26am CST
recently here on MyLot I had someone send me a friend request. So of course the first thing I did was to check his/her profile. I noticed many friends were on his page but there was not one discussion he started not was there one reply that he posted. So I ask myself . . 1-Why would I want to make him a friend of mine ? i didnt .. and as a fellow and well distinguished Mylotter real friend of mine advised me to do . let him hang . in other words do not do anything.... 2- What were all those other people thinking when they actually took a second to click "accept" . .are they so hard up that they will take anyone for a friend here or anywhere? 3-Why didnt those people mentioned above take another second to see that this person isnt serious about being here . .maybe neither are they . .. Thoughts anyone wants to share?
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16 responses
@dpk262006 (56764)
• Delhi, India
7 Jun 09
You are very much right, before accepting anyone as our friend, it is better to check his/her profile. If his/her profile is patchy or does not say lot about him/her, it is better to 'ignore' the person. Non-active members or members with some ulterior motives do not help brighten up this platform. They just send requests mindlessly and just want an addition. They do not appear to me serious in participating in some quality discussions. If you denies the request of such person(s), you took the right decision.
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@saw2207 (1359)
• United States
7 Jun 09
thanks dpk262006 . .I could not have said it better! And I thank you for taking the time to confirm what I thought . . so ignore it is!!!! It is posts and people like you that make me really like this place . . happy day to you :)
@dpk262006 (56764)
• Delhi, India
8 Jun 09
Hi Dear! Many thanks for your kind words and for appreciating my response. Have a nice day to you too! Dpk
@jb78000 (15164)
7 Jun 09
i got the same person or someone simliar too - been the only friend request i've denied, i think maybe it's someone collecting friends in order to spam
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@saw2207 (1359)
• United States
7 Jun 09
did you deny him .. or just ignore the request? If you deny someone do they know it or do they just get no response? Like what is the difference of "deny" or just ignoring it??? Inquiring minds. .need to know!!!
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@Philbo (579)
• Canada
7 Jun 09
I don't have a lot of Mylotting friends yet. I'm the suspicious type though and I got one of those types of requests. This person has lots of friends but not a single post or discussion. I always check friend request profiles and even go so far as to see the sort of things they talk about. I don't really feel comfortable collecting friends that I don't know anything about. On the bright side the term friend still means something to me.
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@saw2207 (1359)
• United States
8 Jun 09
Im with you Philbo . .and my compliments to you on your reply. I guess I too am suspicious . .and take the same path as you . .I definately like to see what they like to talk about and that way when I am around here it is a good place to start . to see what is interesting . .at least interesting for me. So far my gut has been right and the people that I have made friends with have been inspiring, helpful and quite amusing. And yes to me friend still means something to me! Thanks again for sharing! Happy Lotting to you!
@lampar (7591)
• United States
7 Jun 09
My friend, you have a secret admirer in mylot!. It is quite common for a newbies to receive friend request here from some members even though he has several hundred to thousand of friends in the list, fortunately ,you get to decide whether you want that friendship or not in Mylot...not the others.
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@saw2207 (1359)
• United States
7 Jun 09
haha lamp . .I doubt it is a secret admirer as much as I think it is a stalker spammer! and yes how fortunate it is that we get to pick and choose our friends. .and I certainly am glad you picked me for a friend . . even if i can only send you my cheesy :) smile in my book you and I are forever bff's
@glesil_00 (1143)
• Philippines
7 Jun 09
That sounds the same to me. I received friend request yesterday and i visit the profile i want to comment but i cna not because i have to be his friend before i can leave. Yes i admit i did not think twice but i accept the friend request without thinking much why so many friends but haven't started anything in the weeks being here. When i accepted the request i leave a comment asking why no discussion yet but many friend. I received then a message asking me to read the blog and sign up under the name of this person to exchange that will sign up too to mine as my referral. ] I do visit the site but i did not sign up... I just ignore the person now, its only once that i received a message. This is spamming. Now i know it.. Thanks for that saw2207.
@saw2207 (1359)
• United States
7 Jun 09
glesil_00 my pleasure . .us MyLot newbies have much to learn . .and like I have said above there are many really terrific people here that have helped me steer my way around. thank you for your post . . and I hope you are having as much around here as I am . .spammers beware! :)
@britt_200 (1227)
• United States
7 Jun 09
i never check the profiles. i guess i just figure that if theyre trying to make friends that they are serious. ??? well maybe i should start now! thanks for this...
@britt_200 (1227)
• United States
7 Jun 09
you are my friend.
@saw2207 (1359)
• United States
7 Jun 09
ha ha britt . .just you wait . . in a few years you will probably be just like me in this category .. we seem to be so alike in so many ways i think it will be a natural progression for you to be just as jaded as me (jk) anyway friends we are and I am happy for that xxxoooo
@britt_200 (1227)
• United States
8 Jun 09
lol! maybe! this isnt exactly my category, but who knows. lol we do seem to be a lot alike...which is weird...but nice. because its always nice talking to you.
• United States
9 Jun 09
Hi Saw, I think the same person that sent you a friend request is trying to get on my friends list now. I thought it was strange that this mylot user has a lot of friends, but yet has never created one single discussion nor has he ever replied to any discussions. After I denied the first friend request yesterday they sent me another one a few hrs ago and I'm thinking " How did you know I denied your request?" This is a strange one. I usually approve most people if they show some type of activity here on mylot, but not this one. I've been here at mylot for 2 years and I have never had a friend request that has "0" activity at this site.Weird.
@saw2207 (1359)
• United States
9 Jun 09
cassandralynn . .pm me and we can trade notes! Sounds like you have been lucky with your "friends" up to this one! Wow 2 years on here and this is the first empty request you have!
• United States
9 Jun 09
I'll have to send you a friend request in order for me and you to exchange PM's. Mylot has it set up to where only friends can PM each other. Yes, I'd like to know what you have to say about this matter in PM..
@saw2207 (1359)
• United States
11 Jun 09
cassandralynn .. i pm;ed you back . .not sure where my orginal pm went cause i responded to you as soon as I got your message i think maybe when i hit submit and that add a tag thing came and I missed it .. so my orginal message probably got lost so sorry . .do not want you to think I ignored this cause I do think it is important !
@rainmark (4302)
7 Jun 09
Hiyah, i have also some of friends request from the people who don't have much participation here on mylot. But i do accept them wether they are trollz or not. If they were trollz then admit will get deleted them if they violate any rules and if somebody reported them. Happy posting.
@saw2207 (1359)
• United States
7 Jun 09
I am curious rainmark, if they dont have much participation why do you friend them back? Do you just automatically friend anyone that sends you a request or maybe have you had some sort of interaction with them on a previous post? this place is too good to be infected with what you call .. trollz happy posting to you as well!
@rainmark (4302)
8 Jun 09
Some of them,had a response to my previous discussions and recently when i am responding to someone's discussions and they found out im not on thier friends list yet, then they send me a request to be thier friends. About others who have a little participation here specially the newbie, i considered them coz maybe they don't have a time yet to do more posting here but in future they might be as active than as i am. Trollz? i never yet encountered trollz here in my discussion, coz i have new discussion started lolz, i love responding at the moment. Happy posting.
@sid556 (30997)
• United States
8 Jun 09
I made a discussion last week on this very same thing...probably the same person. These people are probably here only to spam you...not sure. either way...I don't delete them because I here they just come back and request again and I definitly don't accept them. You are smart to think twice about accepting a friendship from this person.
@saw2207 (1359)
• United States
8 Jun 09
Good morning sid556 . .. you know what they say . .GMTA! thanks for for post, I think more people need to be aware of spammers .. too many good people on this platform that dont need to be wasting time with people who just want to gain for themselves! Happy Lotting to you!
@ersmommy1 (12597)
• United States
8 Jun 09
I have checked a few profiles before excepting them as friends. And some I have not. It is nice when people make an effort to answer discussions. Some people just add because they think it may be the "polite" thing to do.
@technoobs (406)
• Philippines
7 Jun 09
That is one way to find out about getting friends. I too had them added in my friend's list before looking up at their profile. There is no harm in adding them, that is one way of knowing them.
@saw2207 (1359)
• United States
9 Jun 09
hmm technoobs, that is one way of thinking . . but I guess I am skeptical because if you want to know them that is very commendable but if they are not taking part in any conversations do you really think that they want to know you. Seems to me that friendship is a 2 way street . . everyone wants something .. and if they are just friending you with no participation what is it you think they want?
@hi2rashid (153)
• India
7 Jun 09
making friends is easy . but making true friends is very hard. i love to make friends
@saw2207 (1359)
• United States
11 Jun 09
hi2rashid .. you got that right . . making friends is way too easy . .and relationships take "work" . .it takes 2 to tango . . . there are always two paths to take . .one is easy .. and its only reward is that it is easy..... happy lotting to you!
@Trooth (19)
• United States
7 Jun 09
Yeah I know what you mean. But hey might as well add them anyway, no reason not to.
@saw2207 (1359)
• United States
11 Jun 09
But why then do you think they are here if they have no activity other than to add a friend?? I think maybe they have ulterior motives . maybe that is just me and I am acting too suspicious
• Indonesia
7 Jun 09
Much people to do that maybe he want to take a credit, i usually pending confirmation to him/her until he have activity on this site
@saw2207 (1359)
• United States
11 Jun 09
now that is a great idea bolokotokok! Welcome here to the Lot .. and I Hope you have a great day. Happy Lotting to you!
@apples99 (6562)
• United States
7 Jun 09
Woe thats strange, I'm not sure if I ever had someone like that requesting friendship and if I did, I probably wouldnt have noticed becuse I rarely ever check a members profile when it comes to excepting a friends request, I just accept though after viewing this post I might become more selective and start viewing profiles.
@saw2207 (1359)
• United States
7 Jun 09
hmmmmm 2295 is your ranking number and you never had someone like that request your friendship? Maybe it is just me but I am so curious to know where my new friend hails from and what they like . . anyway nice to hear from you . . and thanks for your input . . happy lotting to you :)
@jugsjugs (13038)
7 Jun 09
Hi alot of people might not get time to have a proper look to see the persons details or just do not mind who they except.Another reason is that maybe they are new to my lot and have not understood how to post or reply to a discussion.Then they could just be a person where as they send you just a pm with a referral link in the hope that you will help then getting more referrals.Happy mylotting.