I had a car accident ....
By YazEid
@YazEid (1139)
Philippines
June 7, 2009 5:32pm CST
Hello Mylotters
Todya while I was driving my car within the normal speed range I was surprised by a taxi changing his lane and entering my lane without any signs , I used my breaks and tried to avoid his car but I couldn't because I was already on the limit of my lane..
.. My car approached his car from the rear at his left side .. it wasn't so severe damage but when I went out from the car the other driver insisted that I'm the blamed after the accident ..
Then he started to ask me for money to fix his car , I refused and called the cops and told him that my insurance will compensate for his damages ..
after few minutes he started his car and left , luckily I had his car number , so I went to the police station and raised a complain , and made a statement about the accident , now he is in Jail for running away from the site of the accident ..
He asks for my forgiveness and to drop all the charges against him
what do you think , should I forgive him ?
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17 responses
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
18 Jun 09
I would forgive him, yes, but I would also insist that he pay damages on your car. That would be best all around, from my perspective.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
19 Jun 09
That was a kind thing to do. I believe forgiveness benefits everyone involved, since a grudge becomes a very heavy load to carry :D
@carrine (2743)
• Philippines
8 Jun 09
gosh! next time Eid you have to take extra care in driving huh? and for the taxi driver, at hes bad. very bad! good for him, and for him to learned no to run away any6 responsibilities in life. and yes you have to forgive him, have pity for him and for his family as well.
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
8 Jun 09
I had a near-accident when a taxi did the same thing to me. It was raining and he cut in front of me from a curb and I had to slam on the brakes to avoid hitting him. Some people are stupid drivers, I guess. Cheers!!
@richcritch (41)
•
8 Jun 09
You can forgive him, but make sure he pays for the damage or goes through the insurance. I bumped someone a few years ago now - I was doing less than 5 miles an hour and he claimed for whiplash - ridiculous. Yes it was my fault, but come on - whiplash? Seriously? I bet he'd do you - and he ran away. First he accuses you - then runs away? He knew he was guilty and tried both to get out of it. Take him to the cleaners!
@Citychic (4067)
• United States
13 Jun 09
Had a car accident...........
Hey YazEid, I am sorry to hear that you were in an accident. we just never know what will happen next that is why prayer is so very important. I do think that you should forgive him and let by gones be by gones. Well this is just my personal opinion, you now it's up to you to decide and you will have to do whatever will be best for you. Take care of yourself dear friend. I hope and pray that everything works out well for you. Good luck!
@Maryam27 (411)
• Pakistan
14 Jun 09
Well to forgive him or not completely depends on you, you have seen the accident and you have a better idea of how it was and how worse it could have been and you have talked to the man as well, so if you think he was not that bad and it was just a bad mistake then you can forgive him. Specially if he is a family man, his wife or children must be dependent on him. So make a choice buddy and do it fast.
By the way how are you doing now? were you injured slightly??
@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
14 Jun 09
Hello Maryam
the problem wasn't the severity of the accident , he just didn't wait till the police come there , that's what made me angry ..
Thanks god there is not much damage to the car , I can afford it , and I have forgiven him .
I'm ok , doing well , no injuries and as they say am alive and kicking :D ..thanks for asking Maryam
Have a great time and happy mylotting
@ivana980 (156)
• Italy
18 Jun 09
I'm sorry for your car accident, usually when i drive i think that i could be a danger for other people, for example if a child pass the road running and i couldn't see him on time to stop the car, i think always to this situation, or when a motocycle run so fast!!! But what we can do? We must to drive not fast but on the right velocity.
@kykidd (6812)
• United States
8 Jun 09
I don't think that in most places that it would even be up to you. Around here, even if you said it was ok, the police would still press charges because it is illegal in this area for you to leave the scene of an accident. If you are in a big city, however, they have pull off spots to drive ahead to in case you are in an accident and no one is injured. They like for you to pull ahead to the next spot to keep from jamming up traffic, especially in big cities like Columbia and Chicago.
I hope that either way, you are not held liable for the damage. I hate it when people just zoom in and out of traffic and expect people to just hit their brakes and let them go in front of them. They cause accidents, and also make people who aren't used to driving in the city a nervous wreck. Good luck to you my friend!
@Wizzywig (7847)
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7 Jun 09
The fact that he is asking for your forgiveness suggests that he accepts that he was at fault. I would imagine that the police will still prosecute him with or without your complaint if he has committed an offence. I had a taxi driver run into the back of me about 18months ago and he turned out to have no insurance. I would suggest you discuss the matter with the police.
@britt_200 (1226)
• United States
7 Jun 09
i would...ive never been in a car accident. that scares me! once i was driving and i was stopped at a stop light and there was one car in front of me and a car behind me. and some idiot came over behind the last car and hit him really hard. then he bumped in to me. no damage or anything, but the light turned and i went to the other block and checked, but the two other men parked right there. nothing was wrong with my car...so i just left...they didnt ever say that i left the scene of an accident. which is good...but i did leave because i was late for school. so i had to! but idk lol if it was me i would definitely want to be forgivin. i could have been in the same situation he was in.
@maezee (41997)
• United States
7 Jun 09
I would forgive him only if he pays for the damages to your car, and if he apologizes. I don't see why you would have to press charges against him - I don't see what that would accomplish. I think you should just try to get him to repair whatever damages he caused to your car - from his own pocket.
@gcorp09 (940)
• Singapore
8 Jun 09
Well, I do notice that there are an increase of taxi drivers causing accidents, and trying to claim damages when it's obviously their fault. I do think that you should not forgive him, as it's obvious in this incident that it's him who is causing the accident, and he's just trying to get himself out of trouble now... He should be punished, so that he will not make such mistakes again.
@pansy45 (153)
• Indonesia
8 Jun 09
you know the best way that y will take in your life.you can forgive him if you are want it.but you can too let him be in jail if you want it too.it is all comeback to you,but i suggest you to forgive him but after you give him some learn fro the thing that has happen.let him stay in jail for a while before you pass it.so he will learn something that he must take some responsible about what he did.so in future he will not repeat his mistakes and take more carefully when he driving.
@dopamin (15)
• Germany
7 Jun 09
He's obviously being a hypocrat. If he was serious, he wouldn't have acted like that and blamed you for everything before running. That's how karma works, do someomthing and get it back thrice. Not forgiving him would not be immoral. You might however forgive him to get money of the situation without stressing your insurance. You have a choice here. However, if you asked me, I wouldn't forgive him.
@dreamr802 (985)
• United States
7 Jun 09
I personally wouldn't forgive him because what if next time he hits someone it's a more serious accident and he runs off? I had something like that happen to me and I was blamed for the accident even though this woman cut me off because I hit the rear end of her car. I would just go through insurance, let him apologize but I wouldn't forgive him and drop the charges because you never know what would've happened if it was worse. I'm glad that you are ok and that the damage wasn't so severe. Just let insurance handle it.
@xomgitskamax (937)
• United States
8 Jul 09
I'd leave the guy in jail. Hes the one that left and hes the one that was giving you a hard time.
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
8 Jun 09
Man, that's a tough question! I believe in forgiveness, but for a law breaker there really needs to be some consequence so that he doesn't do it again and hurt someone even more. I say don't drop the charges. He was driving a taxi and could hurt a lot more people unless he really feels the consequences. My aunt was mugged and wanted to forgive the guy and not press charges. We talked her into pressing charges and after he was arrested we found out that he had killed someone in another state. If she had dropped charges, he may have still been out there hurting people still.... that's what i think!
