Do you think that you should forgive and forget ? Is it really that easy?

Forgiving may be something...but forgetting its another, in my point of view, and I think forgiving and forgetting someone will really depend of what the situation is. However, everybody make mistakes, whether we like it or not; its a part of life and it allows us to grow up. In a way, if at first you are unable to forgive and forget...who will for you?

i ever have some best friend i know him since my first time in my highschool,after that we mada a friendship cause we had same hobby,we always play together.he is like my brother to me,when they feeling sad cause he just broke up with his girlfriend i always there to make happy him,when they got some failure in something i always give him a support,when they need some help,i am alwaysgive to him,after graduate his life is a mess,cause he had a problem with his family,actually the problem is made by himself,but i do not know why he blamed me for all hiss mess,it feel like some one has betrayed me,i am so upset about what he had done to me,after that he never apologiez to me,so i will not give him my forgiveness too,i never talk to them since that,i can not forget what he done to me.there is something that we ca just pass it and let it go,but there is something that so scared to us,

I'll answer the second question in the header first. Forgiving and forgetting is absolutely not easy at all. I think it takes a lot of emotional strength. And, I don't count making excuses or letting someone off the hook as forgiving, which is what I think people might be thinking of when they see a forgiving person as weak. To forgive someone first means you have to acknowledge that they have done something wrong. Now, should we forgive? Yes. And, like I said, it's hard. But, I don't think forgiving is the same thing as keeping someone harmful in your life or allowing them to continue to hurt you. Distancing yourself from someone for self preservation doesn't mean you haven't forgiven that person. And, if you keep someone in your life, forgiving that person isn't the same as giving them a free pass to continue to act the same way. As for forgetting? Well, I don't think that should be taken literally. I think it simply means that you don't constantly use it against the other person. If you have forgiven someone, you don't bring up what they did on every occasion or to win every argument, even ones that don't relate to the act. And, if you've done something wrong, you don't tell the person "hey, you don't get to be hurt by what I've done because back in the past you did such and such." If you do that, I think it's clear that you haven't really forgiven them. So I think forgetting means not using what they've done as an emotional weapon against them.

Well I think that we should always try to forgive and forget, but its not always so easy to do so. I think that when someone has wronged us we should forgive and forget and give them a second chance to prove themselves. If they wrong us again we should forgive and forget but should not allow that person into our lives again in the same way they were prior to the wronging they did. When I was in college a had a really close friend really do me wrong. I forgave and forgot but she did me wrong again. I forgave and forgot again but I never fully gave her my trust and close friendship again after her abusing it so much. We became more of acquitances rather than friends. We must try to forgive and forget but we must protect our emotions as well.

Me and my husband went through a conflict in our own church that couple are in there 50's and gave us so much of a hard time just because they decided that they hated us for any kind of stupid reasons ( for not being like them) and I know it takes God's help to be able to forgive like that, because it is in our mind even if you are trying to push it away,it is a struggle but you don't want to dwell on it of course for the rest of your life. But for our case to avoid a fight we had to quit going to that church,which is sad for the kids.

i like how you see things, but on one point, a lot of people who are racists and fanatics of some kind that live off off using other people, they themselves cant let go of whatever hatred it is they have towards people, and when it comes to things of that nature i say they should drop it... but then again people are raised that way so i understand that that may be all they know, but you dont really know anything about a people unless you get to know em. base ur decisions offa that and then decide to forgive or forget. i dunno i forgot what i was talking about. narcolepcy!

Not all situations are ok to forgive and forget. A person has the right to hate or dislike someone and depending on what happened they shouldn't have to force themselves just to get over something. If someone murdered a member of your family and you forgave them, then you are really something, but I could never do such a thing. I keep things, but some people can get over problems easier.

It depends on what happened. There are certain things I can forget but there are people who were in my life and are no longer in it because of the terrible things they did to me and the way they treated me. They will never be forgiven by me and they don't deserve to be.

I used to hate people who have done wrong to me. But later on I have learned to forgive and forget even despite the fact that they have not asked forgiveness. It takes away the burden and It felt great. But I have to admit that there are those that I do not trust anymore because of what they have done, and fact is they still continue to do wrong to me. Well, I do not really mind them anymore. I have forgiven them already but that does not mean that I trust them.

I think that there are some situations, when we should forgive and forget, but I don't think that this is the case for every situations, or every type of circumstances. There are just some things that we just can't forgive and/or forget. I try to forgive and forget some things, but I must admit that I have been in situations, when I just can't forgive and/or forget. I'm sure that a lot of people face these sort of situations. I think that there's also a limit as to how much and how often we forgive someone, as well.

hello there! well it's quite easy to forgive, well at least for me, but i know, most of us would find it hard to forget the offense done to us--the pain inflected by such experience is that what makes the event difficult to forget.. but you know, as a cliche` goes: time heals, we may never know how sooner or later, just keep a positive outlook on things. good luck!

latsmom, wow. its very hard to forgive but to forget i personnally have not gotten to that crossroad. someone i trust cheated on me and i cannot forget him; even thought we've reconciled and i told him that i have forgiven him. i think i am lying to myself. every time their's an argument i always bring that up. but now i am learning that talking alone goes nowhere you have to be mental and spiritually prepared to accept whats has happened and move on from there if you have'nt not done that then you wont be able to move on from there.

Hi, good question...but is hard to answer. So, i am a person who forgive somebody if this person know to say ;"i am sorry", and if i feel that he is honest. But if he repeat same mistakes many times, i ll never forgive, and i don t give other chance. About forget...is not so easy, we can forgive, but is hard to forget if you are deeply hurt. And this is almost imposible if somebody who you really hurt you cheat on you.

Its important to forgive everyone.. We are all human we make mistakes... even time after time after time... But there are certain things that can never be forgotten.. There are a couple things that has happen to me that I can never forget, I can just close my eyes and I go through the whole event all over again in my head... Some people say that in order to forgive you must forget... I do not agree with that statement.. I guess it really depense on the speific thing that someone did to you..

Nobody said this is an easy thing to do. There are even people who can't forgive a very petty harm done to them. Some can easily forgive but can't forget. But, we SHOULD forgive and forget. The Bible says, "Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you." (Colossians 3:13) Forgiving is a conscious choice. We should choose to forgive because GOD forgave us and is continuously forgiving us for the many sins we commit. Everyday, we can't stop ourselves from lying, from being mean to people we don't like, for disobeying HIS will...and many others. But, GOD is choosing to forgive us because HE love us that much. Therefore, we should also do the same to our fellow brothers. The Bible does not give any account that we SHOULD forgive and forget. But, again, since GOD forgives us as if we have never sinned at all (look up Isaiah 43:25), we should aim to do the same. More readings in this website: http://www.gotquestions.org/forgive-forget.html Is it easy? No. We are only humans. But, if we choose to forgive, we must remember to ask GOD to give us the ability ...the power to do so. It is our will to do what HE asks us to do ...is all that matters.

I believe theat we always should try to forgive and forget, but I see this as practically impossible. I CAN’T forget some things, and very often I don’t WANT to forget certain things - and I believe that makes me human. For one, there is a certain degree of protective shield I throw around me when not forgetting and forgiving: it assures me to not get into a situation again where the same things might happen. On others, it’s simply impossible. Over the years, I might think less and less about unpleasnt things that others have done to me, but I will never forget.

The only people I will forget it is my brothers, my mother and father, husband (if I truly Love him) and sons. Most probably I will need time for closure, but beside them I do not forget, I forgive for my own sake but I do not forget! I can talk, I can participate with people I've had my differences but I do not forget what they have done to me, therefore the relationship never gets back to what it was prior to the situation.

Hey, Well I usually strive to actually forgive and forget, but it is not really that easy. I actually think that the hardest part of these two things is the forgetting part since it is all stored on our brain, it is really hard to forget. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!

We really should forgive and forget more than we do. Lately, I've been thinking more about this subject. I have come to the conclusion that you CAN be too forgiving, but giving people a few chances is good. I know I should forgive more than I do.

forgive and forget are two sides of the same coin.......i am saying this because....if you forgive a person for hs/her mistake but you will never forget what that person had done with you......specially if that person is very close to your heart........and many people try to forget what had happened but it is very difficult again if that person is close to you.....this has an effect when you will meet that person after sometime....those thoughts come back in your mind....and you still feel that how could he/she did this to you.......i can tell this because i have experienced it..........