Is educational attainment an important aspect in your relationship?

@laydee (12798)
Philippines
June 9, 2009 6:25am CST
Do you think being more educated than your partner creates conflict? Do you think educational attainment plays an important role in a relationship? I do know of a far relative, the girl was a college graduate, while the guy has only completed Primary school. They did get married, but somehow it was up to the girl to always adjust or submit to the guy's decisions. He wouldn't let her work, I don't really know the reason why. But many are saying that she has wasted all those years of schooling by not applying what she's been in school for. They're living in the province and aren't really living comfortably. What do you think? Do you think being in the same level of education is important or not?
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14 responses
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
I think it does in some aspects. I used to have an ex-bf that didn't finish his college and he can't get a decent job. If ever we ended up together, he will be the houseband (house husband which is the other way around of housewife) and I will be the breadwinner of our family. Its good that I have broken up with him as he is also shallow with his point of views in life and he can't even work to survive himself. He has a wife now and his wife is the working. Poor wife!
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
18 Jun 09
Good thing you got out of that experience!
• United States
9 Jun 09
being more educated than your partner can pose a problem but you have to laern to adapt. for instance, in any intellectual conversation,m dont sound like you know every little thing. make oyur partner your equal and dont alianate him/her. there are also time when oyu must just shut up lol.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
14 Jun 09
That's true, as long as you try not to alienate your partner, perhaps there wouldn't be any problems caused with different educational attainments.
@tonyllenium (6252)
• Italy
9 Jun 09
i think simply it depends from people and even which levels youwant compare!! Such as if you told that will be a conflict within people one finished high-school and othe university i think the contrast about educaion would be not so deep as we can think!! Surely a person who had a low level of education may be have different kind of tought and interests too so may be from that can derive a conflict!! In reality i think that if two people are smart they can have the same a good relationship not depending from education but in some cases where difference are really market it can be a point you can consider because in some cases can be also a way of contrast!!
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@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
Well it's a case to case basis. Sometimes it will just snowball into something bigger depending on one's pride. It's not really about educational attainment. For me, personally, it won't matter as i am fully capable of reasoning out even if let's say i'm just a college graduate then my girlfriend is an MBA or PhD. But if love gets in the way, i guess it's something that we should try to understand. People who dwell too much on educational attainment would be someone who's too concerned about people around her. What would they say to her or something like that.
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@iamsolucky (1241)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
Love, respect, understanding and other positive attributes plays important part in a relationship. I think educational attainment is just secondary to it. In my case, i am a graduate of college degree and i dont find it hard to apply for a job, while my partner studied vocational course but he do know how to use his skills to make a living. educational attainment is good to help each other. The partner needs to share skills in some aspects where team work is really needed. This way it makes the relationship more stronger. No dominant, no one is better, but all is equal. Happy mylotting and smile always
@ezekiel71 (132)
• United States
10 Jun 09
it is important to have an education, but if that will be a hinder to love someone then its not fair, some wasnt able to get the education they want because of some valid reasons but that shouldnt stop you from learning. Being in the same level of education is not as important as you love each other, because if you love your mate you let her/him grow, you want him/her to be happy, you just wanna please your mate and you dont let your pride or ego get in just because one of you didnt have high education. Its not about who is earning how much or who is doing better. Its all about how you work together, its a team , a partnership.
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@carrine (2743)
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
i think so. i mean for me yeah! because its hard to deal with people that your level of thinking wont match. and its hard to understand all the time for the reason that he/shes not capable to think deeper. those stuff sucks right? i cant imagine myself being with someone who cannot relate what iam talking about and what do i exactly mean by that. its really hard.
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
Educational Attainment is not an issue when it comes in relationship. But in their case it is an advantage that the girl was graduated in college. But unfortunately, the man she married was insecure with his wife.
@hanah87 (1835)
• Malaysia
9 Jun 09
Yes,i think that guy is having problem.He is jealous to his wife because his wife is more educated.Maybe educated woman should not married with no educated man because it will just make a problem to woman and waste their school.Parent school their children not for waste money.Many of children to my parent's friend stop their work because their husband not educated ask them to do that.I think their husband jealousing to them.
@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
For me its is alright what educational attainment he achieved as long as we will understand each other, love, listen and respect. The importance for me is harmonious relationship you have in te family. Decision should be fair to everyone for us . I will not make any to my partner only bt I will have to think it is fair to me.
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@jlovetin (150)
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
it depends to the person that you want..as for me,education is important ,but its not a measure of someones personality..some of the success people do not that much..as long as you want that person,,that is all that matters..
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@fheroan (615)
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
For me educational attainment is an important aspect in your relationship. Even though i;ve never been in a relationship, my parents almost everyday tell me this kinds of things when you're going to find a partner in life. In this kind of situation, you can't say that in does not matter, love only matters. Its hard to love a person when you're also in a crisis. I saw this kind of situation in our country, many teens here used to be in relationship at high school, when they go to college sometimes they wont finish it because sometimes she's pregnant or he's already a father. so they need to stop schooling especially if they're not rich to sustain the child, since abortion here is illegal. they finds jobs but their salaries cant sustain all of their needs, so they end up breaking up...but if your an educated person or at least you're really hard working.. you can live a comfortable life.
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@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
If you love someone, his social standing, educational attainment, looks are not really of utmost importance. I know, easier said than done. But for the one who is on the higher level, he or she should encourage the other person to develop or improve herself or himself. Mostly, if the guy is of lesser standing than the girl, the guy manifests some kind of inscurity. Well, the girl has to support her man to go back to school or do something to improve himself. It will not only do good for the relationship but it will improve his self esteem.
@JamieRose (168)
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
I think that the educational level attained by a person will greatly affect his relationships with other people, moreso with a lifetime partner. Education teaches us skills, helps us gain more knowledge, and at the end of the day, teaches us the values to apply in life. I believe that education isn't always everything but it is a big thing when it comes to relationships. But I also think by being always open to learning and improvement is an important aspect of a relationship. Whether you have finished college or not, everyone still has something to improve on themselves. That, I think, is the essence of real learning.