Daydreamer2: What if you fall in love to someone who can't love you back?

Philippines
June 9, 2009 9:44am CST
i am in my college life right now and i fall for someone who is really numb at me and i feel so hurt about it until it reach 2 years of admiring him, i feel so jealous of the girls that comes to his life and until now my prayers for him are not yet answered i have to wait and see what will happen. i'm dying inside and feel sorry for myself, for i wasn't loved in return, i was so depressed in my situation. i was too loyal for him got no idea when to stop i go gaga on him and my head go around in circles. i cannot forget how i fell for him for thats the first time i perspired that was so cold when he is around i was always hoping that this year something would happen, i hope that i will now which way to go and how far i've gone. now please tell me do i have to surrender in this kind of love and admiration or forget all of this things i've gone through?
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25 responses
@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
10 Jun 09
Have you ever communicated your feelings to this guy? I guess the easiest way to figure out what to do is by learning how he feels about you, although that is probably easier said than done! The fact that he hasn’t responded to you in 2 years is not a good sign. I would be inclined to move on from this one and open yourself up to the possibility of meeting someone new. I know it is not easy but you deserve better than unrequited love, you are worth so much more than this.
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
he knows everything about my feelings but he never respond to him i already send him emails for him to know but its useless so i guess i'll chose to moved on
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@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
10 Jun 09
I would if I were you, you deserve someone who will reciprocate your feelings...
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
Hi Daydreamer2, until when will you not try to be really get close to him. You never attempted to talk to him, or just say hi or hello. Yes you love him, but how would he know, if you won't really get his attention. I think you have to introduce yourself to him first. Now if you don't try and have guts to go near him it's useless Daydreamer2. It's better to try, then not trying at all. If you really love him find a way. Yes I do believe in prayers, but not all the time your prayers can be answer yes. Not everything we can have in this world. We should also face our fears and know the truth. It's just nice to dream, but being realistic and making things come true that counts a lot. If you can't do it well better forget what you feel and move on Daydreamer2. Goodluck!
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
he already knows what my feelings are and until now there's no respond from him
@pickoy (733)
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
If he's married I would definitely discourage you, but the fact the he's single and available, I don't see any reason why not? You're not fighting a lost battle here, its just beginning. Why quit if you haven't given your best shot yet? If you can honestly claim that you've done everything you can to be as lovable as you can be, only then you can choose to decide whether to pursue a dream or not. It's not cheap, as long as you know your boundaries. A girl never really has to be readily available all the time or you'll definitely come across guys who'll take advantage of you. Since this guy hasn't, it means he's really something. Although I can't give you any tips aside from patiently waiting for a miracle to struck... I prayed for 12 years for a guy to love me back, who turned out to be my husband now, not knowing he feels the same way only that he avoided any complications on our friendship back then. It's frustrating when they play numb... but you know what, if you meet someone else who will truly love you, go for the that one that loves you more... its worth it.
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
he is still single and happens to be my batch mate in school right now
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
9 Jun 09
It is very painful situation where love is one sided. I can see how much you love this guy and does not get response from him. All I can say is forget about him and try to divert your attention to someone else who is worthy of your love. I know it is not easy to shift your love to another person but it is better then to suffer getting cold shoulder from this person that you admire. Love is really mysterious and it come without warning and once it stirs the heart it is painful to let go the beautiful feelings of love.
@gunagohan (3414)
• India
10 Jun 09
no this should not happen...because this girl is admiring that guy for the last two years and still she has much and more love for him...she has fixed that guy in her heart, so its not easy to shift to other person, as such true love cannot be shifted...if it is being a crush, i would accept with u, but this pal has said that she loves him much...
@Jackvan (14)
• China
11 Jun 09
Take my suggestion please, brave girl. Give it up uncompromisingly! There're plenty more fish in the sea. Out from the shadows, the days ahead is clear. Don't waste your valuable time in such hopeless things. Don't hurt yourself by the so-called "love". Life is beautiful, enjoy it!
• India
10 Jun 09
Wow! That is very hard to even imagine for me. I remember when I was in my school days, I used to love her very much. But that was just time pass love I think. Now I know what exactly love is. She knew that I loved her but she never loved me. Though I was happy that I could at least see her but none in return.loll!
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
10 Jun 09
If you really love him express your feelings to him. If you remain silent any other girl may capture him.Then you will have nothing to do. If you can present yourself properly I think he will accept your love.Don't delay. Otherwisse you will miss the train.
@mermaidivy (15403)
• United States
10 Jun 09
If I really love that somebody, I would probably wait and see what's gonna happen with that somebody. I don't think I could do much if somebody doesn't like me, to me, there is no point to keep putting effort for somebody if he doens't like me.
@piya84 (2589)
• India
10 Jun 09
It better to forget him and move on.Dont wait if he doesnt love you.
@renlay (36)
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
Have you told him you like him? If not, you should tell him. There's nothing wrong in saying what you feel but get a hold of yourself if he says he doesn't like you back.
• Malaysia
10 Jun 09
hahaha when i in college, i fall in love with one girl..but she refuse my love..that thing makes me sad for a few month.. everyday i'll go to her house in the morning and i sit on the wall waiting for her.. i never surrender.... funny thing is she's now was my misses.
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
I can empathize with you. I also once fell in love with someone in ways that only me knew. I had loved him for five years before I decided to drop the feelings and open my heart to a love that is for me. It also happened when I was in second year high school. It has been 10 years since I decided to stop loving him and I am getting married next year by God's will. I hope you will get through that. There is always someone out there for us who is willing to love us back. If you can learn to love, you can also learn when to stop loving and call it quits and be happy.
• United States
10 Jun 09
You just have to let things the way they should be. Admiration, infatuation, thats the best description to what you're feeling for him. You must know your boundaries.
@eileenleyva (21139)
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
Turn your head 180 degrees. There is somebody better, believe me.
• China
10 Jun 09
Like you and I had the same experience, but now I have to look at what is a very open, so Ianvery happy.
@daliaj (5680)
• India
10 Jun 09
I can understand your situation. But, I am sorry to say that it is waste of time if you are sure that you won't get the love back. I am sorry. You please thik seriously about the situation and come up with a decision. I'm sorry. I think you can find someone who loves you a lot. All the best! My friend also gone through the same situation. She was mad of him and even threatened him a lot of times to love her, but he didn't. She had a serious operation once and all her friends informed him about the situation and asked him to come to hospital to viist her, but he didn't. That was the end of the story.
@amanda08 (647)
• United States
10 Jun 09
I think you sound like a very passionate person.... maybe you should just turn all of your attention to something else for a short time and see what happens... maybe once he sees that you are passionate about something else he will come around.... I am sure that the world could benefit from such a passionate person as yourself using themselves to do good in the world...
@JamieRose (168)
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
I have been in the same situation at one point in my life. But here's the thing: HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. I know it hurts Daydreamer, but I'm telling you, if he likes you, he will go for you. If he doesn't, then move on. I think that 2 years is too long for you to wait for someone. You have to open yourself up to alot of people. There are many fishes in the see. You are too special to be crying over someone who doesn't appreciate who you are. Life is too short dear. Live it. And live it wisely. You deserve someone who adores you, someone who appreciates you. That person is out there. And if this guy you've loved for 2 long years is too occupied to realize that, then you don't deserve him. I'm telling you, that special guy is out there. :)Have faith and live LIVE everyday :)
@gunagohan (3414)
• India
10 Jun 09
mee too in college life, im a boy of 19, i have had a crush for a girl for the past two years...i was laying all my hopes on that girl, one day that she will turn up to me, but at the time of getting closer, one snatcher came in between and did some miracle and took away that girl from me... i do really hate that guy..now everything in my mind is clear...she left me, so the same kind i did ....i left that girlie.. now into ur matter... im really moved after hearing ur position... i recommend u to propose to that boy and wait for his response..if he accepts then u can live together..if he rejects then u have to choose another path... i recommend not to loose hopes...if ur love for him is very true, u should wait and lay all ur hopes that one day u both will unite.. i pray to god that u will unite..
@bearound (133)
• China
10 Jun 09
Love is blind.I think many people will have some similar spoony experience like you.When I was a high shcool boy,I felt in love with a girl who can't love me back. I felt really bad at that time.Don't try to forget all of this things.It is impossible.In fact,you don't need to.Why?Maybe you will find another on you love in the future but this bitter and sweet memory will not fade at all.And these memory is the best return because there is love inside. Try to meet more boys.You may have some new understanding of love.Today you think he is the only one but tomorrow you will find he is just one of your love in your life time.