I need her to eat on her own

Canada
June 9, 2009 1:18pm CST
Hi Everyone My youngest (1 1/2 years) is able to use a fork and spoon and for awhile was eating on her own. I think the novelty of learning how to do this has rubbed off however, as she is more interested in everyone else's plate even though we have teh exact same thing that she does. She doesn't want to be fed, which is good because she can do it herself but she wants to feed herself with everyone else's utensils, which wouldn't be too bad if we weren't already using them. I have no problem with her eating off of my plate, as she actually eats and doesn't try to play with the food and with me she'll use her own fork or spoon. Everyone else is getting a little irritated with sharing their plate and have started eating in the kitchen to get away from her (one advantage, anyway). This upsets my daughter to no end even though there is food available in her plate (yes, I still make a plate for her) and on my plate. Any ideas/thoughts/comments?
3 responses
@Karpov (68)
• Australia
11 Jun 09
I felt this pretty strange. Normally child that over 1 year old would come to a sensitive period of himself that he have already developed his ego (i.e., he is not the same as the world around him) and try to practise this sense via means of language and conduct. For example, he might refuse the new hat that his mother bought for him and still keen on using the old hat, stubbornly. And children don't learn to share until this sensitive period has over. So...this is just my idea from my knowledge about the Montessori method. I am still a student and have no even girlfriend yet
@kezabelle (2974)
10 Jun 09
Yup sme here we always have "back up" cutlery and saves any upsets then, im all for children exploring and I also choose my battles wisely i dont think upsetting them and myself over what cutlery they use is worth it! good luck x
@angelsmummy (1696)
9 Jun 09
My daughter who is 1 on Friday is going through this exact same thing at the moment. What I have started doing is bringing in extra cutlery so she can help herself to mine and my partners and we have a back-up. I was worried about doing this but I spoke to my health visitor about it and she said that ot was a really good idea. I went through the stage not long ago where she refused to eat but it only lasted 2 days I was still super worried tho, if you havent gine through that stage yet and it comes up, offer her food and if she wont take it from you leave her in a room on her own and have food in there, make sure she can get out of the room tho! Good luck (I wish they wrote a handbook for this parenthing lol) Hope this helps