Have you ever.....

@x_Jo_x (1041)
June 9, 2009 6:34pm CST
...Found love through one of these dating websites? Like Match.com or something? I was just wondering if it had ever actually been successfull. An advert for one came on tv and it just made me wonder how many people actually use them, and out of that many how many actually find love. Any experieces with such things, or know anyone who has?
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@gcorp09 (940)
• Singapore
10 Jun 09
Well, I had not tried any dating sites. However, I had heard of successful cases where they found a boyfriend/girlfriend through these sites. I think the most important thing when using these dating sites is to keep an open mind. Start off with friends first, and observe if he/she is the one for you.
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@x_Jo_x (1041)
10 Jun 09
Yep definatly, rushing into things can be bad. Especially if the person turns out to be something you thought they were not! That would be my main concern, that the person is saying they are a 18 year old guy or something and they are actually 40 or something. There is some really crazy, sick people out there who would do something like that.
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@gcorp09 (940)
• Singapore
10 Jun 09
Yes, I do agree wit you. So that's why I feel that even if anyone are to use any dating site, it's best to start off as friends, so that you can get to know him first. The dating can come later...
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• Denmark
12 Jun 09
I would trust but also be cautious, I wouldn't believe everything someone told me but I would also give the a reasonable amount of doubt.
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• Denmark
12 Jun 09
Well, I met my boyfriend in Facebook. I lived in Estonia and he in Denmark. In 1 May we had our 1 year anniversary (the first time that we actually met in person) and soon it will be almost a year since we started to live together. Yes I did move to Denmark for him. I guess it mostly depends on a person, if they are ready to accept the facts that a lot of single people really do consider on-line dating before actually meeting the person, it just feel safer.
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@x_Jo_x (1041)
12 Jun 09
Awww glad you are happy with him now =) Its sounds like it is definatly possible to meet people online, and fall in love. If it was me now though, i will be really cautious about who people are. it is apparently, so easy for someone to make up a whole life story, i know this from experience lol. But i guess its just go with your gut instinct, if you feel there is something weird about it then never ever meet them or reveal anything personal
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• Denmark
12 Jun 09
Yes you are right. I also had some bad experiences before I met my boyfriend but I guess all is well that ends well :)
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@cassaleo (32)
• United States
9 Jun 09
I do not know if this counts but I found my soul mate on yahoo.com personals! It was a weird story but to sum it up. He messaged me and at that time I was talking to various people. He lived in a different state and that seemed doomed from the jump. We were just friends. We did not think of finding love or anything like that. It just so happened that he came to visit me a few months later we hit it off. I resisted and kind of did my own thing. We stopped talking for a few months, then got back in touch. He moved a few times out of state! He ended up taking a job where I live and we have been together every since. Now not everyone has our situation and it is quite crazy, but if I didn't post my profile we would have never met. We do not run in the same circles and do not know the same people. We lived in two different states for goodness sakes. So if you are thinking about it or know someone who is debating it, take a chance. You never know who you will find.
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@x_Jo_x (1041)
10 Jun 09
Awww its good to hear that it can happen then =)Its good that he decided to move near you. If he hadnt moved to where you live do you think you would still be with him? Would distance have made it too difficult?
• United States
10 Jun 09
Well for me, I have had several long distance relationships. They are extremely hard. I think that you both have to be in the mindset to want to make it work which means constant commuting until one of you figure out that you want to live where the other lives. I personally have never seen that someone can have a relationship both places when you really become committed but thats not to say that it does not work. Since I already been down that road before, I know that it is really hard. I was with someone who I did not know a whole long time but we dated and it was long distance. That did not last long because the fiz came out with all the traveling. I think that if we were in the same city then maybe we could have stayed together but it was just too hard. He was not willing to work with it and thats why it ended. I think that where there is a will there is a way. I think also that it is really hard when people just do not want to work at it. They expect it to just happen overnight. I truly think that we were meant to be together now but before I did not think that. I thought that he was just some random bump in the road. Every day I love him a little bit more than the day before but we had to get through our rough patch to get to this stage. We actually broke up for like six months before getting back together and realizing that we are better together than apart. I dated around and realized that there was nothing out there for me. He has changed my overall feeling of love through the trials that we have been through. He truly gives me a sense of this is the one when I look at him. It is hard to tell someone else how to find their mister right. However, if you can look on certain sites just to post a profile. Talk about how you are let them know what you are about so they will know if that is a fit for them. Most guys like quirky people and things that make you stand out. There could be 100 profiles that they might see but yours will stand out because you have something special about you. I would definitely take the time to write a profile. I have so many social pages and I was on every site there is. I am very attractive, but it is hard to find good quality guys. I had no problem finding the bad ones! The ones who are all about how you look but could care less how you are inside. I was match.com, nocheatersdate.com, eharmony.com(they could not match anyone to me), blackplanet personals, and yahoo personals. The only thing i didnt do was migente site. I was on everything. I was single on myspace, facebook all the above. It's a matter of being in the right place at the right time. If you are still single and are looking for that right guy, try a lot of mediums. Give even okay looking people a chance check out their personality. See if you have common interest at least you might make a friend out of the deal. Who knows you might end up marrying that least likely friend because you fell for him after all! You can never tell how life will throw you a curve, but be ready to catch the ball!
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