Being too open in a relationship is good or bad? "especially with guys"
By andresimp
@andresimp (818)
India
June 10, 2009 1:50pm CST
i was extremely open and discuss each and everything that happens in my life with my boyfriend. eventually he took advantage of it. he knows about my family, how much money we have and all the personal family stuffs. i used to be this naive, innocent type.. so they take advantage of it and cheat me. i belive whatever he says so its easy for them to convince me even if i get angry. so i realized that it is not necessary to share each and everything to my boyfriend. i feel that i should not let them take advantage of me at any point. let me know your views on this. am i right?
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5 responses
@AnnieOakley1 (5596)
• Canada
11 Jun 09
I am guilty of being too open in all my relationships, too. Call it naive, but in a REAL relationship, there shouldn't have to be any secrets.
Maybe you should dump him.
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@andresimp (818)
• India
11 Jun 09
same here. being too open gave me hell lot of problems. i also believed that there shouldnt be any secrets.. but i didnt know that it would make them take advantage of me. we should be open at the same time should not let out our inner feelings and weaknesses. i share everything becasue of insecurity which is so wrong. thanks for the comment.
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@AnnieOakley1 (5596)
• Canada
12 Jun 09
I guess the safest thing to do then, is to stay guarded until you are SURE you can trust them and they are your forever mate.
Otherwise, you leave yourself open to being hurt too badly.
I'm sorry this has happened to you. They are very cruel and heartless and you didn't deserve to be treated like that just for being open and honest.
@elghrasya (501)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
Being open in a relationship is good because it is one of the factors that we need to make a healthy and strong relationship. It's just a matter of discipline. You must be sure about the attitude of your man or guy. You must know how good is he in handling secrets whether he is in or out in the relationship. And if you are still in a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship you must be aware not to share too much confidential things or matter about your family cause he will surely use it against to you when your relationship has a bad ending.
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@ProudMommy22 (705)
• United States
12 Jun 09
Its one thing to be honest about things thats going on but some things i dont think the partner should know jsut yet. In most cases when a guy finds out how much money you have you can beat thats 1 reason hes going to either be with you or not. Money is a big thing now in days for a lot of people but people like me money isnt nothing and would never be with anyone just for money. Money can buy a lot fo things but money cant buy love thats for sure. And you are right you shouldnt let someone take advantage of you at any point in time.
@chingmerry (414)
• China
11 Jun 09
i would discuss everything about me with my hubby,for example,i would tell him that i met a good guy which i thought i would fall in love with him if i haven't been married,for your position,i think your boyfriend was not very good,he let down your trust,but you shouldn't tell him all about you before you knew about him very much.
@MsAshley (39)
• United States
12 Jun 09
No I don't think that you should let anybody take advantage of you. Sometimes its not so good to share everything becasue you never know how a person might take it . I was always told what you know about somebody is an advantage to you . I don't think that any relationship should be open at all levels cause once you let something big out you never know what can happen with just someone that you're dating cause they can be here one day and gone the next.
