Do You Favor Short Or Long Engagement?
By bing28
@bing28 (3795)
Philippines
June 11, 2009 7:10am CST
In the Philippines, most of the women wants to be a June bride, so you can read wedding packages promos at famous hotels and restaurants. I'm just thinking, for a successful marriage I favor long engagement. The couple has a long way of knowing each other, could learn all the adjustments towards one another and even know and get along well with their families. This would somehow contribute to a less misunderstanding when the time for them to live together comes. How about you fellow mylotters, do you favor short or long engagement? Thanks for sharing.
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3 responses
@derlilaStern (1756)
• United States
11 Jun 09
I dont think the length of engagement has anything to do with a successful marriage! It is more about the people than an amount of time.
Personally, I think each couple should do what is right for them. My husband and I were engaged for only 3 weeks before we got married. 
We have now been married over 2 years, and have an even better relationship than before we got married! We did date for 2 years before we got married though.
As for getting to know each other so that things will be easier when it is time to live together, I dont think engagement has anything to do with that! Nothing will ever fully prepare you to live with someone. It isnt until you actually live together that you know all of thier quirks and figure out how to adjust to things together.
Of course, I have nothing against long engagements either. That is just better for some people!
We have now been married over 2 years, and have an even better relationship than before we got married! We did date for 2 years before we got married though.
As for getting to know each other so that things will be easier when it is time to live together, I dont think engagement has anything to do with that! Nothing will ever fully prepare you to live with someone. It isnt until you actually live together that you know all of thier quirks and figure out how to adjust to things together.
Of course, I have nothing against long engagements either. That is just better for some people!1 person likes this
@LovingLife139 (1504)
• United States
20 Apr 10
Long engagement, most definitely! My husband and I were 21 and 16, respectively, when we met, and a year later we were engaged. We finally married when he was 25 and I was 20, just last year, so we were engaged for three years. Although our love was one of those where we knew right away we'd be with no one else in our lives, I still wanted to take our time, get financially stable, figure out our career choices, etc. I think it's only smart to go into a marriage as smoothly as possible.
For us, a one year engagement was probably more than enough, simply because we both already had our careers and were together 24/7 to know everything about each other. For others, it could take years before all the secrets come out, all things are settled, etc. A society where half of all marriages end in divorce is unacceptable. People are getting lazy when it comes to getting to know someone and setting up a life before you make a lifelong promise that you don't really intend to keep. If you think there's any chance that you'll divorce your partner, the engagement needs to be longer.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
20 Jun 09
A long engagement doesn't ensure that the marriage will last forever. I was engaged to my husband for 6 months however, he was gone for 5 out of those 6 months and we've been married for almost 18 years now and are very happy. We wouldn't change a thing! lol
