Abortion aftermath, the effect on you,how did you feel?

United States
June 12, 2009 11:26am CST
Im always curious on how people feel after thay had an abortion. How did they come up with the decision?what makes them do it? how do they feel after doing it? did they keep it secret or they have support group like friends, families or boyfriends? how do they feel when they see a child that it was same age as the one they get rid of if they kept the baby instead? is there a feeling of regrets? will you do it again ? I believe there is always a reason why do things, help with my questions, thank you.
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@anneshirley (1516)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
I think no matter what's the reason, nothing will justify the abortion. I have a very conventional view about this issue. Every child is a God's gift and the reason one can get pregnant is because it is God's choice. Many wants to have babies but can't have it while there are some who can have babies but don't want it. Babies are innocent beings. No matter what we did wrong, they should not be the one to make the sacrificed. No people in their right state of mind will commit such murder. Whenever I hear news about doctors performing abortion, they doesn't seem like people at all. I am not living in a perfect country and I don't have perfect friends but if my friend ever commit an abortion, that will be the end of abortion. I will not tolerate anyone who can kill an innocent life.
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
let me clear it, if my friend ever commit abortion, that will be the end of our friendship.
• United States
13 Jun 09
good point of view, interesting.thanks
@grammasnook (1875)
• United States
13 Jun 09
We had an abortion 21 years ago, if anyone thinks this is an easy decision it is not. I had cervical cancer that was detected during the begining of my pregnancy, there was a 50 50 chance that if I continued the pregnancy that the cancer could have gotten out of control. I fought with the thought of abortion and finally my husband said to me listen darlin. You have three children here that are a part of you and love you much it does not make sense to take a chance of dying and leaving three children behind. I was back and forth about having the procedure done but when he put it to me like that my decision was made. I believe although that one child was taken I was then able to have two other children after having the cancer removed. I have taken this as a sign that I did the right thing after all why would I be blessed with two more children?
@reckon21 (3484)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
I understand abortion completely if it's done for all good reason. If it's done for the good of other family member then there's really nothing we can do but to let go of the baby. Sad but sometimes difficult choices has to be made. And I felt sorry for the child you lost, don't worry the baby is safe and happy beside her maker. By the way your baby is a girl. I just feel it.
• United States
13 Jun 09
thank you for sharing, i totally understand the situation why you had an abortion , its tough situation and it takes wisdom to handle it. Hes right you have another 2 kids that needs you. Im happy for you for what you have now, God bless.
@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
It is bad to have an abortion ,especially if it was done in un-licensed clinic , it will lead to infection or the pregnancy material and tissues that remained in the uterus
• United States
13 Jun 09
does it matter if its licensed or unlicensed clinic? just asking.
@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
if it is unlicensed then most probably it will not meet the optimum conditions for good health care .. thats it have a good time
@maximax8 (30659)
• United Kingdom
13 Jun 09
I wouldn't ever have an abortion because I am pro-life. One of my friends was dating a lovely man when she was 19 years old. When they split up she was upset and made some mistakes. She began seeing a rough man and she got pregnant. She was at college and was just about to begin a career that she was really keen on. She tried to forget about being pregnant but she put on weight and felt her baby moving. She had an abortion and was confused afterwards. She regretted her decision because her emotions were all over the place after the abortion. She wondered if it had been a boy or a girl. Every year she thinks about how old that child would be now if he or she was alive. She got married. She has a daughter an and son. So my friend had an abortion for a social reason.
• United States
13 Jun 09
its good thing that she regretted it and sad thing is she will keep wondering about that baby as what you said on how old he/she would have been now. thanks.
@veedhya (72)
• Mauritius
13 Jun 09
Abortion is still a taboo in some countries....here also it's not that open....I think it must be really painful.........
• United States
13 Jun 09
in some countries like mine, it is considered murder, thre is no licensed clinic or whatever. Unlike here in US there are womans clinic that performs it.