Truth
By pbrockington
@pbrockington (500)
United States
June 12, 2009 3:18pm CST
I belive no secrets in a relationship is the best rule of thum. But i have finally connected with my "Mr-All-Most-Perfect" so i felt that i should be able to tell him anything. He and I were middle school sweet hearts. He said then that he would marry me and now that he has found me he is working towards just that. But women had told him what he wants to hear for so long until he just dose not handle the truth very well. I mean like I can tell you the truth about anything. But when i tell him the truth about some thing from past relationships he acts like that will effect our relationship now and he wil become up set. so after this happening over and over again... mainly over the same topic I no longer want to tell him stuff.
How do I keep the closeness that i feel with tell with out the headachs of him not liking the truth that he is told.
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2 responses
@Beertjie (976)
• South Africa
12 Jun 09
Forget about the past, unless he ask spesific questions. We do not have to talk about things that happened in the past. As for now, keep everything as open as possible. Tell him that you believe in an open relationship and that you should be able to communicate everything. Tell him how much you love him and that the things that you are saying is not to hurt but just to be honest.
Ask him to open and honest towards you as well so that you can work through things together, that will only make the relationship stronger.
I know how you feel because i had a girlfriend who kept on asking things about my past. I believe in absolute honesty. I know I have changed and she knows it as well but she could not handle the truth. I cost us our relationship. If she could not handle my past, even though she knew that I had changed from the old person, how would she ever trust me in the future.
A relationship should be build on love, and love includes trust. Trust involves truth, and if a person cannot handle that, it will have a negative influence on the relationship, especialy later when the honeymoon fase of the relationship is over. That is why there are so many divorces only a year after marraige, because after the honeymoon fase, then reality sets in. If one cannot handle reality, one will not survive a marraige.
I wish you all the best, and hope things work out for you. Mr. Righ does not come along everyday around every corner.
Blessings
@pbrockington (500)
• United States
12 Jun 09
ahh! thank you so much I think I can really do this. you words have inspired me just to show him how much i love him by expressing myself verbally by telling him the truths about my feelings. I mean I tell him I love him all the time but to really give detail about my feelings I think will let him know how much I really care for him.
@nympha687 (940)
• United States
12 Jun 09
There are some people who can't accept the truth or are really the jealous type. If you know your bf is like this, you don't have to tell him things. Perhaps, things that he doesn't know won't hurt him. Just try not to cheat him though,hahaha
@pbrockington (500)
• United States
12 Jun 09
no worries cheating is not my thing. I feel that if i am going to cheat then i should just be single. thanks for the response.


