The past haunting your present relationship.
June 13, 2009 11:31am CST
Last night my man told me he needed to tell me somthing. So I said ok. Well his talk was to inform me that the women he dated for six year befor he and I got back together had chosen to keep a baby that he thought she wanted to abort. He explained that they had broken up and then she found out she was pregnant. She let him know about the pregnancy and told him that she did not have room for a baby in her life. He told her that would help in what ever why she needed. Sh tole him it was no need for him to be sweet to her she had moved on and was going to abort there child. He gave her money to abort the baby. Four months later he and I reconnected after not hearing from each other since college. I had been recently dumbed by my sons father and was four months pregnant. He has been there for me when my sons father let me deal what ever happen on my own. Now this women annouces that she had a change of heart. She kept her baby and gave the little boy my man name. I feel like she took somthing from me. I mean we are planning to get married. ever since I met him in middle school I had thought of birthing him a son and him having his fathers name. Am I wrong to feel that this women cheated me out of somthing special with my man?
• United States
14 Jun 09
Sounds like time to make lemonade, cause you got a bag of lemons. Your marriage should still go forward unless he still has feelings for this other woman. You can still have a son with him. The only thing that has changed is the fact that this will not be his first son (as it is not your first) and you may not want to name him Junior. The beauty of it is, you and your man can share the joy of naming the little tyke together. Embrace his son. He will love you even more for having a big enough heart to let that child in. That is the something special you can give your man. Nobody took anything from you. You just have to regroup. Love is that way sometimes.