Home for the Aged

Good day... Everybody wants to grow old and live old with their loved ones. I too dream or hope to live with people that I love but then it depends on them if they want to live with me. I, on the other hand want to take care of my parents when they grow old. I want them share their lives with me, I know it would be hard but I know it would be worth it because they took care of me when I was young.

I want to stay at home,with my family's company.I think most ppl want this.We need to culture the young generation to be filial,because one day they will be old and they will want the same thing-care from the family,the warmest thing in this world

you are right, madam, most problem is that old people must need as a same companian or company, so that then can talk each other, human being need to talk some on this is necessary, because human being is social nature, if they din'nt talk then they will lost life in soon, everyone need company, in which same nature and same age so that they get easly mix with nature of same people, you can see that when a child born they need security so that they need is parrent in near view, after some time get get friends and it is more important, after that marrage and and cycle is continues, every one need company, this is my

that's odd, i haven't really thought of that yet since am enjoying being just a plain wife.but since you put up the topic, when i get old i would to take care of my grand children as my children would take care of me. I don't mind staying in the home for the age since i also want to hang out with other old people like me.

It is really a good question for us to think abouth when we reach the age for thinking the question. I'd like to stay in my hometown at my mother's house rather than my husband's. That's really my home. I have no children now, but I think i will not depend on them very much cause they will have their own life then. I would not to be their burden. I just want to be a happy old lady.

I believe that all of us would choose to stay at home, no one would like to stay at home for aged. Home is the best place where we can meet our family member. I would educate my children from very young that love parent and live with parent. Now, i would be a role model to my children where i take care of my old man and never left them at home for aged.

As long as I am active and can take care of the house and myself, I'll stay at home. But when I become too old for my own good, I think I'll want to shift to an old age home. There are old age homes for different income group people and the good ones take really good care of the aged. Regular doctors, medical check-up, nutritious food, 24hrs care...all these are necessary for the aged and its kind of difficult to arrange at home. I have an only son whom I am trying to give the best in life...I would want him to have a good career adn in the bargain he should not be straddled with caring for his old mom.

After taking care of my mom, I have to admit that I am really really afraid. I hope and pray that I go really quick and don't need anyone to care for me. I don't want to put my girls thru that. I am very sure that they would all work together to take care of me. I just would not want them to remember me that way or to be a burden to them or any of it. I would hope that if I am no longer able to care for myself that they would put me in a home. I really hope i don't have to make a choice like that.

Hi mhethess, I too am hoping to be able to stay in my own home for as long as I am able. If it happens that I have to go in a nursing home at some time, I guess I won't have much choice. I really don't want to be a burden to my family. Blessings.

Our father is already 86 years old. He can no longer take care of himself. I would be the one to supervise his bath everyday. He can still talk and walk but very slow. We don't plan in bringing him to the home for the aged. We will take care of him.

I don't want to be a burden on my children. It is too hard to give medical care to someone 24/7. We have places here that aren't exactly "retirement homes", but are retirement "communities". Everyone has their own house or condo, depending on what they choose to buy. The only difference between living there and out here is that they have a nursing staff available whenever they need it. There is a golf course, olympic size swimming pool, church service, activities, etc. It is much nicer than a nursing home. That is where I want to be. And I will be surrounded by people my age. I think that if I stayed home, I would get lonely.

Hello, I will like to stay at home when, I get older because I feel know one can treat me as good as my family can treat me, and besides you here so many horror stories about these old home facilites, and to here them that a lone should make everyone want to stay at home when they get older. Happy My Lotting!

I work part time in a retirement home. A very very expensive one. Most appear happy but some when they realize it will be the last place they will live get very sad.

Hi mhethess,In fact,I feel rather confused about the situation that I have saw in the American TV,The old couple often lived apart from their children and grandchildren. Although it seems like they are living a good life,but I cann't understand that. In our country's tradition,we should care for our elders until they passed away,If a person had sent his parents to a rest homemhe will be blamed of have no filiar piety. I'd rather live with my family when I'm getting old.haha

I would hope that my children would take care of me and follow the example that I set for them when we "rescued" my youngest daughter's great grandmother from a nursing home, which is the same thing as a home for the aged and just as bad. No elderly person wants to be in a place like that and "Big Grandma" was no exception. She was terribly upset and none of her children would take her in so we did. She had diabetes and dementia so it was hard taking care of her but we loved her too much to see her so sad in a strange place, away from familiar things and familiar faces.

well i want to stay home when i get old, and i am hoping that i have taught my kids how to loved and respect old people enough for them to take care of us when we get old... my mom is already old and we are not going to send her to any institution for old people. i wanted her to live close to me, she dont want to live with us, its her decision so i want her to have her house close to us that way what ever happens, when she get sick or something i can go there right away. right now she lives in the city and i live in the province which is really a hard thing because there are times she gets sick and i cannot go there right away. she has my younger brother, cousin and my nephew to take care of her though but then i still get worried. if i get old, i would want my kids to take care of me and not other people...

That's an odd question for me right now since I am staying in a "home for the aged" and I am not "aged" yet! :) My son is here because he had a terrible accident and is recovering. Since I live in another state, they let me stay with him and I also am able to give him 24/7 care. It was very depressing at first but I am kinda used to it now. It's all old people except us! I am only 48 and my son is 25. When we first got here I hated even the idea of staying here. But now that I've been here for over 3 months, I look at it more like a dorm setting and we are all dorm-mates! I have made some wonderful friends and helped several people just have a better day from time to time. I go to church services and activitites with them and even play the piano for them on occasion. I'm just part of the family! It's given me a different view of where I want to be when I get older. I would rather stay in a house... my own house. But it's not that bad here.. I can hang out with all my friends have coffee any time I want and relax and watch tv when I want and even go to bed whenever I feel like it! It's not too bad from here....