Long distance relationship

Philippines
June 14, 2009 4:59am CST
I have a friend who has a girlfriend in Canada. They've been together here in the Philippines for a year and the girl moved to Canada with her family. And after 2 years of their long distance relationship, they decided to end everything between them. Do you believe that there's a happy ending in relationships like this? Do you think that long distance relationship works? Can you stay faithful to your partner even he/she is away? How about your physical needs? ('Cause within that 2 years, the guy has been dating a lot of girls. Nothing serious though, but still it's really hurtful on the girl's part)
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12 responses
@iamsolucky (1241)
• Philippines
14 Jun 09
I am in a long distance relationship since 2004. The communication was really good and that we really find ways how to make it more sweet and stronger relationship. Its been 5 years now, and we got married last month. There is always happy ending if both partner help together or when they really find ways how to make it more stronger. I know we are only human and capable of making mistakes but when 2 lovers really want and love each other, they will really go until the end of time. We are so happy about our relationship and we happily married too. Its like its really based on patience, understanding, respect and all positive values that help us bind together. I am proud to be his wife and he really loves me to be his wifey. Happy mylotting and wish all the best things in relationship.
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
i believe that long distance relationship can still have a happy ending. i believe so coz i've been through this. my boyfriend and i has been away for quite a long time...what we do is we just keep our communication open...and it really requires efforts on both sides. yes its true that during those times that we're away...temptations are around, sometimes we win, sometimes we lose but what matters most is the love that we have for each other, although we made some mistakes when we're away we still find love and forgiveness in our hearts and now we are married and living happily with each other...
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
thanks also...i am always happy and proud to share my story to others...i don't know why, i just do! and you know, no matter how rough the road your walking in a relationship, even how many years, how far you've been away with your love...if its really love and you are destined to be and asks for God's help & guidance...you will sure ends up on church!
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
Because you really have a nice love story :) I think it's normal to share our love life especially if it's a successful one. We girls just love to talk about it lol. Well actually what i have shared is truly about my friend, but this situation will eventually happen to me as my boyfriend will be leaving soon. I hope we would be able to maintain or relationship.
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• Philippines
16 Jun 09
Wow that's nice :) Congratulations :) Thanks for sharing it with us. :)
@jlamela (4898)
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
There are long distance relationships I know which succeeded. The success of the relationship in my opinion, is not based on the distance physically I guess, but it depends on the commitments between each other. If your love is genuine and intention is both clear, there's always a great chance that you will end up together, there should always constant communication so that you will not be alienated with your feelings.
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
Well as far as I know, they constantly communicate with each other. I guess it's just my friend that's why they were not able to succeed. Thanks for sharing your thoughts :)
@edelweiza (157)
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
time and again, long distance relationships prove to be futile.gradually, the love disappears and the couple find themselves unable to pursue the commitment. the enemies are time and space, physical and intangible barriers that cannot be fought against easily. but of course there quite a few exceptions. it still depends on how great their love for each other is that will determine if the relationship will last or not.based on my own experience and those of my friends, long distance relationship is never effective.
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
Thanks for sharing :) Well I know a lot who did not succeed in LDR although I know a few who did. I guess it really depends on the couple.
• Malaysia
15 Jun 09
I have had this experience before. As i need to study at another place, i had to be away from my bf for 3 years, but in the meantime we still see each other like once in 6 month. It indeed requires a strong determination and trust between both party.
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
I agree with you. It simply shows that my friend is not that determined. I feel sorry for the girl :(
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
Based on experience, only few people survive long distance relationship. It doesn't work for everybody. For this to happen, both parties should be very committed and dedicated to the relationship. We enter a relationship because we wanted somebody who could take care of us, who could always be there especially during pressing moments, and whom we could run into in times of needs. Come to think of it? How can you do all those things when you are apart? Sometimes words are not enough to let your partner know that you really care, you need to be physically there. Otherwise, he/she will just resort to somebody who can give him/her that. It's more than satisfying every aspect of the relationship. For me, being physically present in what happens to you everyday, matters most.
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
14 Jun 09
I do think sometimes long distance relationships can work to some extend. I think friendships work in long distance relationships. I am not sure about the love relationships. I think may be people can be faithful if the partner is away. It always depends how much relationships and how much the person love the person.
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
Yeah. I think it's a matter of trust, commitment, and patience. Thanks for sharing :)
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
Sometimes long distance relationship are not successful. Trust is always a problem when you are far from each other. You don't know if your partner always telling you the truth. It is a complicated situation and needs a lot of understanding and patience. It is up to the partner how can they survive in this kind of relationship.
@edathoma (11)
• Philippines
14 Jun 09
I still believe that there's still a happy ending in this kind of relationships. For me, it doesn't matter how far you are from each other. In this kind of relationship, trust is very important. If you really love the person you will not just love the good side of him/her but as well as his/her weaknesses. You have to embrace the truth the we are all human being. We are all capable of doing mistakes.
• India
14 Jun 09
long distance relationship doesn't work both for painful so always keeps relationship with whom very closed to us.
@Ammudoll (549)
• India
15 Jun 09
My cousin(she) got married one month ago and that's a Love marriage. They both met in their Engineering college and were friends for many years. Later he left US to study MS and have started working. These many years they were in touch thru online internet. One day he proposed my cousin and she accepted. Now they both are in US together living happily. I wish All the best to both of them
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
Now that's a love story! I like it :) Thanks for sharing :)
@clique22 (21)
• United States
15 Jun 09
there can be a happy ending but it takes alot of work and willpower to stay together over distances like that. its possible but alot harder.
• Philippines
16 Jun 09
You're right. Thanks for sharing :) Happy mylotting :)