Should I or should I not sell my wedding dress??

@mrsl2008 (634)
June 14, 2009 12:36pm CST
Hi guys, I'm toying with the idea of selling my wedding dress. I got married 18 months ago in New York and since then it has been hanging on the back of my bedroom door. I mentioned the idea to my husband and he said it was upto me but didn't want me to regret it at a later date. Although I said, if I did we could renew our vows and I could have a brand new dress!! It is in excellent condition, just a couple of marks on the underneath of the small train, which should come out. I really don't know wether to just do it or not!! If I do, do I fix a price and then sell it online/newspaper ad or do I auction it off on eBay?? If I sell at a fixed price how do I decide how much it should be? The dress cost me £700 in the sale. Have you sold your wedding dress? Would you sell your wedding dress? If you sold it, how did you go about it?? Thanks for reading
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@mysdianait (65079)
• Italy
14 Jun 09
I kept mine as it didn't seem quite right to sell it or give it away. It seemed such a personal thing and I didn't like the idea of anyone else wearing it so I hung on to it for years. If I had my time over again though I would sell it almost immediately because I lost it when the basement in the house I was living in at the time was flooded I kept it there with several other memoirs of the wedding day and the whole lot were ruined in the mud and water that poured into the basements when a river overflowed after days of torrential rain. A wedding dress holds many memeories. I had thought of using part of it as the christening gown for a child when it came along. That fell through when we then decide not to have out sone baptised until he was older. I suggest that if the thought is bugging you then you go ahead and sell it. As you say, you can have a new one when you renew your vows and it could always be along the same lines as the original.
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@mrsl2008 (634)
14 Jun 09
Hi It seems so sad you wanted to keep it and it was taken away from you by mother nature!!!! It does hold memories, but my family are just not the sentimental type, never have been and I too have inherited the trait! I just think it is such a waste just hanging there when it could make someone elses day. I would sell it instead of gifting as I said in another post, this is so I know it's going to a good home more than about the money. I think I might go for something a little different when we renew, my dress is simple but gorgeous and I was scared I wasn't going to get into it as 10 weeks before the wedding I found out I was 2 months pregnant!! I had to leave the final fitting until 2 weeks before flying & it was taken out as far as it would go. Although it is still only a size 12, had to allow for 2 weeks worth of growth!! Thanks Mrsl x x
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@mysdianait (65079)
• Italy
14 Jun 09
Yes I saw the reason for your choice of selling rather than gifting and I agree with you completely on that! Is there a particular season where you are when weddings are more popular and there might be more of a market for it? Here there are more weddings from May through until end of August
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@mrsl2008 (634)
14 Jun 09
I think the market is strong now as there are traditionally more weddings June through to September. I may list on eBay with a reserve to test the water, I can always retract if I have second thoughts.
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• Portugal
14 Jun 09
This is precisely why I want to marry in a simple dress I can wear more than once. You paind a bundle for it and now it just sits there, with no pratical use, however it is your wedding dress and has a lot of emotional meaning. If I were you I would hold on to it. After all, you only get married once (at least i hope...) and even though it is a bit shallow, what you wore on your special day, has some significance. And inspite of having no real use now it can eventually become a family heirance... Your daughter may like it and wish to marry in it.
@mrsl2008 (634)
14 Jun 09
Hi, I have already been told by my eldest she would like a new dress although she refuses to part with her bridesmaids dress!! Go figure!!! My problem is I don't seem to have this emotional attachment to the dress at all!! It was a dress, I can't wear again. I got married to be married, so have no intention of doing it again even if this one didn't work out. It seems to be going to waste hung on my bedroom door, I want it to make someone else happy. I cherise getting married but not what I wore. I definately vote the simple dress route!! You will never have to worry about this kind of thing!!! We'll see, I'm not totally set on selling it yet!! Thanks Mrsl xx
• Portugal
14 Jun 09
Well, I don't know how old your daughter is but she may come around... until a few years back I wanted a big wedding and now I just a really low key type of event. So people come around and change their mind... And even if she doesn't you may have a younger daughter who will want to wear it or maybe you son's future wife...
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@mrsl2008 (634)
14 Jun 09
Maybe, maybe not. I think this is the issue that is holding me back from just selling it. 1) because it is custom to hold on to it & 2) because there may be someone down the line who will benefit. I shall have a think, I won't do anything until I am 100% sure I am happy with what I'm doing! Thanks
@clutterbug (1051)
• United States
14 Jun 09
Hi mrsl2008, I didn't sell my wedding dress, because I didn't want a hassle with mailing, etc., so I gave it to a charity. If you sell your dress, just remember to take the condition of the marks on it into consideration as to a price. If you want to make a sale at all, lower the price. Ebay is a great place to sell stuff, I recommend Ebay as my hubby has sold lots of items there.
@mrsl2008 (634)
14 Jun 09
Hi Clutterbug Thanks for the response, I can imagine if I sold it, it would probaly only get about £100 as people don't want to spend their hard earned money, which is fair enough in current financial situation. I did think about gifting but not to sound a little rude, but if someone pays me for it, at least I know it's going to a good home. I never realised there was such a huge market for used wedding dresses, when I looked for mine, I tried on 16 in the first shop and the last one I bought. It wasn't what I had in mind but now it seems such a waste to just sit there and get dusty. ebay seems the best option as I wouldn't know what to price it at, so what it goes for, it goes for. Thanks Mrsl x
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@mysdianait (65079)
• Italy
14 Jun 09
Why do you think it would be worth so little after such a short time?
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@mrsl2008 (634)
14 Jun 09
I think because it's used I suppose.
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
18 Jun 09
If, like you said, it really doesn't mean anything to you then there's no reason to hold on to it. I'd have no idea how to go about pricing it though. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]
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@mrsl2008 (634)
19 Jun 09
Hi, Still thinking about it although I plan to take pics over the weekend & go from there. If I prepare to sell & I can always change my mind. Thanks for the response. Mrsl x x
@leyisa (487)
• Canada
15 Jun 09
hi My friend - I think it's totally up to you whether to sell your dress or not - However, as your husband said, you dont' want to end up regretting it later. I did not sell my wedding dress - That's b/c it was a very simple elegant dress (ie: not too puffy,etc) and hence, I wanted to keep it for my daughters when they get older incase they want to wear it. I have a friend who sold hers on Ebay for $600.
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@mrsl2008 (634)
15 Jun 09
Hi, The general feeling is daugthers don't want their mothers dress'. I didn't want my mothers dress, so the chances my girls wanting mine are slim. I can never wear it again for any reason. Maybe I will sell but I'm not a 100% decided Thanks Mrsl x x
@mermaidivy (15404)
• United States
15 Jun 09
When I got married, we didn't do anything, no ring, no dress, no party, no nothing. If I had the wedding dress when I got married, I wouldthink it is a very good idea to keep it as memory.
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@mrsl2008 (634)
15 Jun 09
Hi, getting married is about you & your chosen other, not the dress, the suits', the party or who comes, just you & them!! I think this is why I have an open minded view about selling it. Thanks for the response Mrsl x x
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
some people dont want to sell their wedding dress for sentimental reason. you gave me an idea since i know that if i get married again, i will not used this wedding dress anymore. Going back to your questions, you have to asked yourself if its what you really want and you will not regret it in the future. and you really have to know if your husband is ok with it. and if you really do want it, why not sell it online. there will be chance to get a bigger amount.
@mrsl2008 (634)
15 Jun 09
Hi, The money is not the motivation. It would be worth whatever someone was willing to pay but I would only sell it to ensure it went to someone who really really wanted it. If I gifted it, I'm scared someone would have it for the sake of having it. I'm never going to wear it again and I'm sure my girls will want their own dress' as times have already changed and soon I can imagine dress' will become less & less popular with all the alternatives. Thanks Mrsl x x
@lingli_78 (12836)
• Australia
15 Jun 09
it really depends on you... if i were you, i won't because it has an emotional and sentimental value to me... i will keep it and hope that i can let my daughter wear it as well when she gets married in the future... this is my opinion though... every person is different... take care and have a nice day...
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@mrsl2008 (634)
15 Jun 09
Hi, Thanks for the response. I wouldn't keep it for sentimental value as it will only degrade. Would my daugthers really want it?? I didn't want my mothers and don't know anybody who has. Mrsl x x
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
I did not sell my wedding dress. But it was borrowed from one of my cousins wife and it was for free. She just adjusted some parts of my clothes and she wore it as same new one. My wedding dress is actually not expensive it is just cheap and made out of cheap materials but it looks good because the sewer was a good one. The decision is up to you actually. You can sold it and earn money or you can keep it as a memory of your wedding day!
@mrsl2008 (634)
15 Jun 09
Hi, I'm considering all my options but does seem a waste of a beautiful dress. Thanks Mrsl x x
@elokps (138)
• Indonesia
15 Jun 09
according me, better you rent your wedding dress to someone who need wedding dress but not have enough money to buy it. so you can help other people and also you have income from it continously. what do you think?
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@mrsl2008 (634)
15 Jun 09
Hi, I hadn't even thought about renting it out!! That's a very good idea and one worth thinking about. Thanks Mrsl x x
• United States
15 Jun 09
You need to be sure that you no longer want the dress, before you sell it. Buying a new one to re-new your vows is not a customary move. Most people use their first wedding dresses for that, or keep them for thier children or grandchildren. If you put the dress into plastic, so that it will stay fresh and crisp, and then put it away in a box or trunk, then later on you can decide about that dress and not have to regret selling something, that you will never be able to get back. Buying a new one, is not going to be the same.
@mrsl2008 (634)
15 Jun 09
Hi, I know what your saying but from other people & my experience, no one I know would dream of wearing their mothers dress, and I didn't even consider it. I think regardless of storage it is going to degrade over time. I just don't want it to go to waste. Thanks for your thoughts Mrsl x x
@sonusd (1547)
• India
15 Jun 09
see this is totally your own decission whether you want to sell it or want to keep it for ever, because wedding dress is a memmory which will never come again if you think in that way then keep it with you so when ever you miss your married day then you can check that dress again but if yu do not want to keep these memory and want changes in your life always you can sell it and can buy a new one so that you will be wearing the new dress
@mrsl2008 (634)
15 Jun 09
Hi, I have the memories regardless of the dress. The dress does not define my marriage, My husband & I do that.
15 Jun 09
hello I think that you should sell the dress, I mean are you planning to get married again. I think alot of women keep there dress just to savor the memories honey that is what pictures are for. Another reason is they may want to pass down the dress to their daughter or daughter in law, not to be mean but half the time they don't want it. I say sell it because let some have the same great memories in the dress as you do pass it down that way.
@mrsl2008 (634)
15 Jun 09
Hi Your seniments are shared with other mylotters, and lets face it most daughters/inlaw want a dress of their very own. I like how you put it that I can pass it down that way. Thanks mrsl x x
• United States
15 Jun 09
dear friend , to my concern u should not sell ur wedding dress . because wedding is the occassion that happens once in our life time , and more over u have mentioned that u got married 18 months before so ur not that much old after marriage . they are the things that to be taken care and maintained with high priority ... it is a sign of rememberance ...
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@mrsl2008 (634)
15 Jun 09
Hi, Maybe, but it is going to get degraded and yellow if it sits in my attic. Would it be better for it to have another great day?? Thanks Mrsl x x
@ayis12 (544)
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
Im not yet married but if i am in the future. I will never ever sell my wedding dress. What im gonna do is to put it back to box and keep it. You know, its gonna be nice after many many years of marriage and being together. You gonna reminisce your special day.
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@mrsl2008 (634)
15 Jun 09
Hi, You may change your mind yet!! I think I feel more of a duty towards the dress to see the light of day again instead of rotting & discolouring in a box in my loft. It seems such a waste. We'll see what happens as although I'm leaning towards selling I haven't made my mind up completely!! Thanks Mrsl x x
@bing28 (3798)
• Philippines
15 Jun 09
I'm still keeping my wedding dress, as my mom advised me to keep it. She told me keeping the wedding dress insinuate a smooth marital relationship. I was widowed 12 years later however, still I'm keeping it, though a cousin borrowed it for her daughter's wedding but demanded her to return it back to me. For 30 years am still keeping it, but wait, it might be the reason why until now I was not remarried (lol). It's alright, anyway I'm 53 already and I don't have the plan of marrying again. If I were you, I won't sold my wedding dress. That's a part of your wedding souvenirs.
@mrsl2008 (634)
15 Jun 09
Hi, I'm sorry to hear you were widowed. I like that you kept your dress because your mom advised you too. Thats so lovely. It is also nice that you have kept it since your husband did pass away but those are the unprdictable things in life and unfortunately happen too often to good people. I accept it's part of my wedding souvenirs but I really don't get what the fuss was about. I made a really big issue out of having the dress and it turns out it really would not have mattered. mrsl x
@PrarieStyle (2488)
• United States
15 Jun 09
I would sell it if I needed money and space. I would take lots of good pictures of the pretty details and sell it. I have lost so many nice things trying to hang on to them. I wish I would have sold them to good homes instead. I would probably just list it in CraigsList for a reasonable price, noting that the price is negotiable. That is if I didn't need the money right away. If I needed money I'd list it on ebay with a reserve price. You could always try a Consignment shop.
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@mrsl2008 (634)
15 Jun 09
Hi, Thanks for the response, It not so much about the money, more about it having another good day. It seems such a waste just to keep it for keepsake. Someone else suggested the website you mentioned so I shall have a look. Thanks Mrsl x x
• United States
15 Jun 09
Honestly, it is up to you. I still have my prom dresses. Yes, I have my junior and my senior prom dresses, and I cannot seem to let them go.
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@mrsl2008 (634)
15 Jun 09
Hi, Thanks for your response. I'm leaning towards selling, I think. Mrsl x x
@JoyfulOne (6242)
• United States
15 Jun 09
This is my thoughts on selling the wedding dress, and I'm coming from many years (60) and having many, many friends with daughters over the years. I have never, ever, met one daughter who ever wanted to wear their Mother's wedding dress, even tho the Mom kept it for all those years thinking 'they might want to wear it.' I saved my own wedding gown with those thoughts in mind, and even though it was kept nicely, it was 1. out of style, 2. not either of the girls sizes and 3. they both wanted their own special dress of their own for their day. So, coming from that place, I think it's kind of pointless to hang onto a wedding dress that will stay in a box wrapped forever lol. I know lots of gals who think they might want to wear their original wedding gowns for their 25 or 50th anniversary, or repeating the nuptuals, but hey, out of all the women I've known, I've only ever known one person who ever fit into their dress again, (and it still had to be altered.) Personally, I wish I would have sold it after the wedding and gotten at least some return on what was spent on it. After all, I DO have the pictures to remember it by! As for how to go about selling it? I would take it to a bridal shop that sells gently used wedding gowns. At least they would give you a fair price. Their price would actually be lower than what it would sell for, so if you sell it on your own you could ask for a lot more than their offer for it. If you did it on eBay, you could then set a minimum bid and still get more than you expected for it. Good luck.
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@mrsl2008 (634)
15 Jun 09
Hi Joyful one, It is very nice to receive a very honest opinion. I never wanted to wear my mothers although she kept hers. I wouldn't want to wear it again as for me, it has served it's purpose. Thanks for your comments Mrsl x x
• United States
14 Jun 09
I would sell it. I just rented mine though. I look back to the pictures and other little keepsakes for memories. A dress is just a big item to store. Yu wouldn't want to renew your vows in the exact same dress anyways. I'd list it on craigslist. Thay way if someone buys it you don't have to ship it or wait for payment. They can just pick it up.
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@mrsl2008 (634)
15 Jun 09
It is nice to hear someone with a supporting positive response, I tried it on today & althougth I think it is a beautiful dress. I think it is going to waste. I would not wear the same dress to renew my vows, I would probaly go for soemthing a little more under stated, more simple dress than my wedding dress. We shall see, I haven't seen Craiglist, so I shall check it out. Thanks Mrsl x