My younger one is becoming very naughty,how to stop him,any ideas ?
June 15, 2009 6:58am CST
My younger boy is1 1/2 yr old and heis biting his brother and others at home and he even screams at us for what we dont give him and he shows his anger by throwing things at elder one where as elder one is very polite and he is 4 1/2 yr. How to control him and how to stop him biting,please suggest some ideas from your expierences.
• United States
16 Jun 09
I have a 3 year old son and he went through the biting and throwing stage, and is now going through the hitting stage. What works for us is when he does something we firmly tell him no and put him in the corner facing the wall for timout. We put him there for 2 minutes. He still tries to get away from the corner so we have to put him there repeatedly until he stays. We just started that two weeks ago and its been working. It was hard to establish it at first but because we were consistent he now knows that he won't be let out of timeout. Another thing we've been doing is taking away a toy he likes to play with once he's shown bad behavior. So like the other day he hit my husband. So we took away his thomas tne train laptap that he likes to play with, we explained why it was being taken away and that he wouldn't get it until the next day. He was angry at first but then said sorry and hasn't hit since. So I think we're making progress and hopefully that helps with your son. Just try and find something that he wants or likes and take it away. I think it shows that in real life if you break the law or do something wrong you are going to get things you care about and freedoms taken away.
• United States
15 Jun 09
When my son was that young and started with the boundary testing, we decided right away we weren't going to allow it... We said things to him like, "That is not how we ask" and then we would make him ask the right way, "How do you ask nicely?" If he refused, he didn't get what he was asking for. PERIOD. Let him scream, he'll figure out that the way to get what he wants is by being nice. Later, gentle reminders were all it took... Now, at almost 4, he's a very polite little kid! Anger is allowed to be diplayed, but never biting or throwing things. This earns an immediate time out. No second chances there. Biting, I fixed by flicking him on the mouth. Just hard enough to get his attention with a very sharp "We don't bite!" He never bit me again. When he threw something at me, it went right in the trash and he went right into a time out in his room. He doesn't throw things at me any more! Temper tantrums can be thrown, but I completely ignore him and say, "when you're all done, you can come see Mommy." It's only natural that children will test your boundaries and each has such different personalities that one very well behaved child does not guaruntee you another! Methods you used on your older child may not be right for your younger one.. Time outs are great, IMO, because if you can manage to stick to it, they child learns how to get your attention in a nice respectful manner because you are showing him that bad behaviour gets him nowhere! Good luck!