Would you treat your boss as your friend?

United States
June 16, 2009 3:32pm CST
At work, your boss is your boss, you obey his order, and you do what he asked you to do as work designated. What about at lunch time, or break time, it is more about your private time, totally unrelated to your work. Would you treat your boss as a friend at that time? Or you still intimidated by your boss, you rather keep the distance from him/her. For me, it is hard to do to treat my boss as a friend. Unless we are equal in work status. What about you?
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@candy2306 (576)
• India
17 Jun 09
This all depends on the boss's attitude towards the staffs. If the boss can take the reality that he/she working with a human being than I guess you can treat him/her as a friend. Answering to the above question, yes, I do treat my boss as my friend during off business hours as he responds friendly at the same time.
@surajben (262)
• India
17 Jun 09
I also wish i could treat my boss as a friend, but ........
• India
17 Jun 09
You got to analyze your boss before treating them as friend. You would be able to judge your boss within 2 week to 1 month of your employment. However, looking at your discussion here clearly shows that you're jelous upon your colleague in HR&Admin Department. I guess you know who!
@Tessalim (33)
• Malaysia
18 Jun 09
I would definitely keep a distance from my boss. After all she/he is my boss. I feel very awkward to treat my boss as a friend after working hours.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
17 Jun 09
actually I have a great boss and so yes, I would also consider him a friend
• United States
18 Jun 09
I think a boss can be a friend if he/she was your boss before becoming your friend. I think you'd still respect that person as your boss whether or not a work. However, I think it would be harder to accept a friend as your boss if that person was your friend before becoming your boss.
@UK_Shree (3603)
17 Jun 09
I cannot treat a boss like a friend and I am not so sure it is a good idea to do so. For example if you are being all chummy with your boss during your lunch hour and then all of a sudden an hour later he has a go at you for producing a low-quality report how weird would that feel? I think things like that a lot less likely to bother an employee the less intimate they are with their boss.
• Philippines
17 Jun 09
I think it's okay to be friends with your boss but you still have to keep a certain distance and you should not forget that even if you share jokes together or probably gone out for a bite, doesnt mean that he or she is no longer your boss. being friends makes the work environment lighter but we shouldnt go overboard.
@rsa101 (37932)
• Philippines
17 Jun 09
As much as possible I treat him as boss but then there are times that you cross your borders being a personal friend to him. I guess he is still a human being and in friendship there are no bosses and subordinates. So when we are out not in business we try to remove those boundaries as much as we can. But since there is a professional relationship that exist between us there always is that feeling that he's the boss in the end.
@whywiki (6066)
• Canada
16 Jun 09
My boss used to be my co-worker and we have been friends for 14 years. Now she is the boss and sometimes she is treated as the boss but once off the clock she is my friend and we go out to baseball games and sometimes for a drink.
@doormouse (4599)
16 Jun 09
I sometimes treat my bosses as friends,just depends if i like them
• Malaysia
17 Jun 09
When I first came out to work from graduation, I met with a boss who is very serious when it comes to work. But when it is not work related, she will be very friendly, but sorry to say I can't treat her as friend, cause I felt it's a bit fake. The second boss that I met is totally different. He treated me like his friend even in work, but I still treat him as my boss in work, respect and obey him.
@katka15 (105)
• Slovak Republic
16 Jun 09
I couldn't treat my last boss as my friend because I was really intimidated by her and felt I had to prove myself to her in every situation. I thought she disliked me and favored only certain people from the team. I even told her in a 1 on 1 discussion how I felt. Of course she denied everything... but she did give me a couple bonuses after that and a great employee review for 2008 :))) I have had a new boss since the beginning of May and I feel more comfortable in her presence. She's not stuck up and artificial. We are not friends, but have a great working relationship.
@lulu1220 (1006)
• United States
16 Jun 09
I am in this situation. My boss is also my friend. At work we are employees but at times we will talk about more personal things. I have even gone out of town with my boss and a mutual friend of ours and we shared a hotel room together. We have also gone other places outside of work. Sometimes it is awkward, but we make it work.
• United States
16 Jun 09
I think you really have to keep your professional life and personal life seperate. It gets very complicated to mix the two together.