Married woman is flirting with you .. what would you do !?
By YazEid
@YazEid (1139)
Philippines
June 16, 2009 5:04pm CST
Yes .. a married woman !
She is in her med 20's , hot woman , have two kids , her husband is working abroad. I was sitting in my friend's shop and she came and started asking about things in the shop , then she started asking about me .. questions were going too personal , her voice changed and it was somehow like whispering ...
to be honest I didn't know what to do , my answers were as short as possible , I was turned on , and my face became red ... finally she asked me if we can meet sometime .. I didn't answer her.
Was that right ? or should I accepted her invitation ?!
what would you do if you were in my place (for men)?
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27 responses
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
17 Jun 09
Hm, I am not a man, but here's my opinion anyway lol. Always be aware of whom you might be hurting if you are tempted to flirt or have an affair. Is it worth hurting her husband? Children? Your girlfriend? Or yourself? For me, the answer would be a definite "NO." And if she continues to flirt in such a serious way, I would respect myself, my partner, and her partner enough to ask her to stop.
Karen
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@lodyllesovo (321)
• Philippines
17 Jun 09
This is such a wonderful advice Karen. But then again, as the saying in my country goes, "It's the corn who runs after the chicken, so therefore the chicken can't do anything but to eat the corn..." :-D
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@lodyllesovo (321)
• Philippines
17 Jun 09
Man. this is an opportunity to be become a student of a MARRIED WOMAN. I mean, you don't really have to make out. All you have to do is enjoy the moment with her and let her TEACH you the ways of the married people (to all the singles out there...). Anyways, If I am you, I would have grabbed the opportunity and hang out with this Hot Momma (MILF).
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@rsa101 (37958)
• Philippines
17 Jun 09
I think you are just putting yourself into being promiscuous and eventually you may end up being in the bed if you can sense that she is flirting with you. I do not believe it would not end in bed.
My opinion is just for respect of her husband she should not be doing this. More so men should also respect and make space for these kind of women. I am pretty sure if you were the husband you wouldn't want your wife flirting around with strangers while you're away.
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@lodyllesovo (321)
• Philippines
17 Jun 09
Well, I am not the jealous type. I mean, whatever my wife wanted to do, I will let her. The only requirement, is that she will inform me ahead of time so that I will not hear it from our gossip-hungry neighbors.
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@pingi68 (304)
• Italy
17 Jun 09
i'm a married woman as you know and i fell to tell you "accept".
maybe she is alone, she has problems with her husband, she want to feel something new with a young guy.
it is not the right thing to do obviously, but sometimes we need to transgress and to find new emotions otherwise our life becomes boring!!
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thanks!!! you are very kind!
@rsa101 (37958)
• Philippines
17 Jun 09
Well I guess you are just being yourself in there. I guess being married and all is a big no-no for us men to get tangled up. Morally that is not supposed to happen but I guess that cannot be avoided and there are women like her that will come to you especially if you yourself is physically attractive.
For decency and respect for his husband I admire you if you would avoid her and find some other girls who are much more free to commit with others. She being hot and all is something but then it is your conscience that would bother you in the end of it all.
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@rsa101 (37958)
• Philippines
17 Jun 09
I am glad that you chosen wisely... For many men like you are they definitely would have wanted a fantasy like what you just experienced before. But these are the things that a few good men wouldn't do and I congratulate you for being a man who could control his loins and thinks quite clearly. Congratulations.
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@lululastrange (339)
• United States
16 Jun 09
My first instinct is to tell you to run away, my second is to question whether or not her and her husband have an understanding or is she just a cheating floozy.
It totally depends on you. If she is married with children its unlikely that she wants anything serious with you and if you are okay with that then go for it.
Husbands can be difficult to deal with when you are screwing their wives, but you never know, they may have an agreement to see other people while he's gone.
Be patient, be respectful and all will be well. You might take a butt kicking, but no Don Juan has ever been successful without a bruise or two.
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@South_Americano (45)
• Switzerland
17 Jun 09
My first answer to this question would be: unless she is separated or thinking of divorce, she is strictly OFF-LIMITS. In my opinion, if she is trying to get away from a shaky marriage, she'd better file for divorce because adultery is one of the worst things you can do in life. I know this will sound very cheesy but a relashionship cannot be built on lies. If you wait then maybe she'll leave her husband and then you can do whatever you like. The one thing I can tell you for sure though is to always follow your instincts.
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@darkangel079 (1498)
• United States
17 Jun 09
I agree on the difference here. However the case of the woman he's speaking of is married, has children, but wouldn't be the case she has a bad marriage. That's just foul play. Now what you said about if a woman that has been separated from her husband let's say for like months or years, doesn't love him anymore, he doesn't love her anymore, she has a child, wants to have a divorce, then yeah I don't see the harm if a man walks in her life and she's happy with her. That's kind of like my story in a case. I know a woman who I do want to meet, who no longer is in contact or in relationship with her husband, she's been separated from him for years. She has only one child, yet she wants to know me and I want to know her. I told her though, if that is to happen, make sure you are divorced first, before I do anything else from there on out.
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
17 Jun 09
of course not... she is a married woman and if you know that she tries to flirt with you, you should stay away from her as far as possible... don't lure yourself into temptation which will make you regret later... better to be safe than sorry... good luck... take care and have a nice day...
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@Ithink (9980)
• United States
17 Jun 09
In my opinion you shouldnt even think about acting on this and her. She is married and has kids. If this is how she is and acts she is a low-life and I dont care how HOT she is. She is sleezy if that is what she had in mind.
Another thing is how would you feel if you were married and overseas working providing for your family and this is how your wife repaid you. Some men if they found out might be tempted to go after the other guy. That wouldnt be good!
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@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
17 Jun 09
This woman is clearly taken by you. She certainly like you and it shows the
way she talk. If I am in your shoes I wont give her any idea that I return
her flirting. She can flirt all she wants But I won't go all the way with her.
Her husband is working hard abroad just to provide his family a bright future.
I will be eaten with guilt If I will return his wife's flirting.
If I will be married someday and I also work abroad. I don't want my wife to
betray me with another guy. That is why I will stay away from temptation. Karma
does strike back and I don't want it to happen to me.
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@shamzy18 (2316)
•
17 Jun 09
Well seems like she is lonely! And definately flirting with you with the sounds of that. If she can randomly flirt with you like that you most probabyl aint the first! I think you did the right thing. Do you really want to get in the middle of her relationship? If you dont mind well thats your decision!
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@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
17 Jun 09
I guess if you know she is married and you sensed that she was trying to flirting with you, you should have stayed away because she is MARRIED as you knew already so I don't think it is a quite right idea to accept her flirtings. I'm a woman and I think it is absolutely not right for her to be doing that and in this case, you know she is married so you shouldn't accept it, that's what I think.
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@cbeee3 (2061)
• India
17 Jun 09
I hope its ok for a woman to answer too,coz I need to share my opinion.
I am proud of you for not answering.
Stay as far away from her as possible. Just think about it,what if your partner acted like this.How would it make you feel?
I feel bad for her husband really.
This scenario has trouble written all over it.I honestly cannot believe, people like this exist. Yet I know they do.
God bless you!
And may God give her more sense
And may God give her more sense
@paying (123)
• Singapore
17 Jun 09
woman with the kids ? No way man, she just want to use you !
And create trouble later time. I fall in this situation before with older woman being lonely away from husband. End up I suffered mentally and haunted with guilty feeling, nothing wrong with her husband. There a lot of young single woman, hot, attractive ... they are for you !
I never ever do this again !
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@jbrooks0127 (2324)
• United States
17 Jun 09
There is always one good way to know if something is right or wrong. How do you feel about it at the time. If it feels bad it is. If you follow that rule you can't go wrong.
Any time you begin to fool around with another mans woman you are asking for trouble. That is what your inter self is telling you. Oh she may be hat and you may have a great time but sooner or later it will come back to haunt you. And count on it that it will not be in the way you expect.
Be friends but do not touch unless you know she is not attached.
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@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
17 Jun 09
stay away. First, because she is already married, with kids..family! if you gave in to her, you would be wrecking a home..and might hurt the kids. so just stay away from her..unless it is only friendship she is offering, but if more than that, then just stay away. it means trouble.
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@rakesh284 (1472)
• India
17 Jun 09
I think in such a situation I will avoid her if she is becoming really personal.
I will try to have a descent chat with her rather then listening her whisper I would try to chat with her kids and try to respectfully avoid her.
Because it might be her loneliness that might be making her do such a thing, even though it is wrong.
Well I am writing some great words but don't know what will I do in such a situation when that lady is really beautiful. I think it might also depend on the place and state of our mind too.
@hanah87 (1835)
• Malaysia
17 Jun 09
In this case,I think you should should run away from her or avoid her if she came to you again.Dont accept her invitation because maybe it is only a trap for you from her.It is not good to have relationship with married woman,better find a woman who is still single.Maybe she is just use you to reduce her bored because her husband is working abroad.I think if you accept her invitation,if her husband know or get caught her cheating and have relationship with you,he will beat or kill you.No man can accept that.I hope you will not accept for her invitation,it just a trap for you.Dont believe her and avoid her.
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@vinslounge (1295)
• India
17 Jun 09
As long as the Fliritng is within a limit, there is no problems with that. I would respond to that Flirting. But if I sense that the things are going over board, then I would decide it is the Time to stop on. As long as you do not harm anyone, i do not think it is going to affect you much. A mild level Flirting for Time pass is not at all a problem. Although many would disagree to my opinion, this is what my view is
@wergild (189)
• Philippines
17 Jun 09
You're one lucky dude. It's always a man's dream to have some hot women chasing them married or not. But dude you got to check your head on this one. Married women, no matter how seductive and luscious is still married. So you're always in the losing end. You screwed up by her husband and her family people will hate you for sticking yourself in someone else's wife. they probable spit on your face and say serves you right! You screw up her family and and her husband people will still hate you. it's never a winning situation. Poison apple is still a poison my friend.
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