An outsider looking in

United States
June 18, 2009 12:47am CST
I have a friend that has three daughters, her youngest daughter graduated from high school about a week ago.. My friend is having a hard time finding a job, but she is doing what she can on the internet to pay her bills and take care of her other needs.. She has several problems finding work due to her age, physical health, and the fact that she only has an associative degree in Computers. That right there is a huge accomplishment in my book, its just most companies are long for people with a bachelors degree, and someone that is younger.. granted its against the law to sit there and discriminate against someone due to their age but it does and always will happen to a point.. She also helps people that are in need, granted she may not have money, but other resources to help people... Her daughters have been treating her like dirt. (would like to use other choice words, but cant) She is already feeling pretty bad because of the fact that her body seems to be shutting down on her.. Which is putting her into a deep depression. Instead of her daughters being supportive to help her through her tough time they sit there and judge her.. making her feel miserable and worthless.. This lady helps me out a lot, with many different things... I have not said anything directly to her daughters because I do not want to make things worse, but I would like to do something either to help cheer this person up or saying something to those daughters of her's.. Just wish my real mom was half of the person that she is.. Thoughts, comments, other questions are welcomed..
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
19 Jun 09
It's such a shame that kids don't appreciate what they have. I have this same problem with a couple of my own kids - just don't appreciate all I have done. No I don't have a degree or the greatest job in the world but I've always put my kids and others before myself... For myself the best thing in the world for me is just to have someone put their arm around me and tell me I'm doing a good job. I would love to have a talk with those daughters - my youngest son actually settled down a bit after I spent a night in the hospital - think he realized Mom is human and may not be around forever.
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• United States
19 Jun 09
That may be one of the problems, parents try to be there for their kids no matter what, so they expect that.. Then one day the child is disappointed because mom or dad were not able to be there for them.. Some parents sit there and try to make it up to them.. and other parents explain to their children that this is just part of life.. You can plan on having things a certain way but do not count on it because it may not happen like you wanted.. I have a young boy, and in his eyes I can not do no wrong, and he expects everything from me, which is normal.. but as he gets older I hope to make him understand that there are things that I just will not be there for him, and he will have to do it on his own.. I think that Most mothers do the best that they can, and even push it! They want was it best for their children, and they are willing to give them the world if they can... Its just as mothers we are not the "energizer bunny" that can go on, and on and on... heres a big hug for each of the mothers that read this!!
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
19 Jun 09
Well thank you dear - this mother with accept the hugs and I love the 'not the "energizer bunny" ' even though we try our best to be one even our batteries do run down eventually.
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• United States
19 Jun 09
I want to thank all of you who responded to this. My niece was worried about me because I was having one of those bad thoughts that maybe my girls were right in what they were saying. I know, thing is somedays if feels that way. Thank you all for your support each of you.. hugssss
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• United States
19 Jun 09
We do what we can in who we are.. Thank you, I Love You Too.. hugss
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• United States
19 Jun 09
Yeppers.. This is my Aunt.. SHE IS THE GREATEST!! Granted we may not always see eye to eye on things but that is in any type of relationship.. I decided to write here on mylot to get my feelings out, without putting them on you.. You already have so many things on your plate... And I know talking with any of your daughters would be worthless and harmful for you...I just hope one day they can realize the true beauty that lays within you... Your not perfect, but you are you... I respect you for that.. And I wish my real mother was half the mother you are!!! I love you auntie
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