what is your biggest mistake/regret in your life, ever?
@theptcnetworks (575)
Pitcairn
June 18, 2009 6:33pm CST
hi everyone! decisions in life is one of the most vital in the development of humans. this will bring you to the next step of walk through your journey. but what if you made the wrong decision? what if among your choices, you have chosen the wrong one? what if this mistake brings you to another, strange, and unfamiliar world where you dont know how to live with it forever?
a wrong choice or decision will absolutely lead to regret especially if you were not able to see the different views of the tricky situation you are in to. and even what you think is right will still make you wrong, and again will give a reason to regret.
now i ask you mylotters, what is the biggest mistake you ever did which made you regret on, and how did you manage to cope with it? i will love to hear your stories coz each of us has his own. share them with me and let's talk about it.
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@JOIEMARVIC (2335)
• Philippines
19 Jun 09
My biggest regrat ever in mmy whole 25 years of existence on Earth would be two things. First was my realtionship with a guy I dated before my present realtionship right now. That guy brought me a lot of pain, stress, troubles and problems. It was a waste of time and emotional investment. I felt that life would have been so much better if he never came into my life.
The second regret would me my abusive use of my credit card. This really affected my finances. I am still halfway through paying my balance. I have experienced the harrsing calls, demand letters and other abusive tactics just to be able to get money from me.
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@theptcnetworks (575)
• Pitcairn
19 Jun 09
Troubles and pains are really side by side with happiness and joy. Relationships will always give us all the feelings, sometimes there are fights, but for sometime you will soon reconcile. You felt happy when he's there, when you see him just around you, supporting you, and caring you. But the worse is when you broke up. It's hard to move on especially if you're still in the stage of denial. You feel angry to that person, you'll get depressed and soon you'll accept it. And it will really take time before you are able to accept it. And i hope you and that guy are okay now.
And yes, that's the common evil of having credit card, especially if you know that you dont have the control. The feeling when using one is really great, but if you're not able to pay your credits in due, it's really a big problem.
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@Youreyes4Today (2356)
• United States
19 Jun 09
There are many choices that has caused me to get where I am today, many of the choices I thought were the right ones and find that my thoughts wonder if I made the right ones.
There is one choice I made approximately 9 years ago that if I would of chose differently where would my world be today? Other than that life takes its path and the journey is put forth in front of us. We learn to deal with the circumstances of life's choices. Thats what makes each of us who we are. If I would of made a different choice would I still be the person I am today? The hurt and pain I have been through in the last ten years may be needed to become who I am now. Loosing almost everything that I have has brought me to a point in my life that brings me to my knees wondering what is next. Yet, I am doing what I can to not fall the rest of the way down, helping others regardless of my own situation. Now if I would of chose differently would those that I have helped be where they are today?
Life gives us a path regardless of our own choices, our journey takes its path.
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@theptcnetworks (575)
• Pitcairn
19 Jun 09
Yes that's true. Your what you are today is the product of your own decision. That is your choice. There might have some regrets even you've done what you think is best, but if one choice outweighs the benefits of the other, then go for it.. and for sure everything will fall into place later on. And no matter what choices we have, chances will still bring us into our own fate.
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@p3halliwel2005 (3156)
• Philippines
18 Jun 09
My biggest mistake or regret in life is not finishing my studies and getting married at a young age but we have to learn from our mistakes and never repeat the same mistakes over and over again. So since I have kids I let them know that they should finish their studies first before settling down. I tell my children especially my eldest daughter who is 17 that she will miss lots of opportunities in life if she gets married early. I tell them to study hard and to finish it so they will end up with something in the future. We are not perfect any one of us and we do make mistakes or regrets in life that we can never bring back or change but we just have to accept the fact that we did that mistake and now we have to make do with what we did and try our best to give it a heads up and have a positive outlook in what we did. I didn't finish my studies yes and I got married to young but now I have 5 kids and I get to put them to school on my own and I have been to top position jobs even if I didn't finish my studies. How I did it? I just learned and grew up and make sure I am careful not to make mistakes that often.
@theptcnetworks (575)
• Pitcairn
19 Jun 09
Hello. You have a great story. And I love hearing from people who once had a big mistake in the past but look at them now, they're even better than anyone around. Not finishing your studies due to some other reasons is common, especially if you are still young to understand its importance. Getting married early is just one of the possible results or cause. That is really common here in my country because of poverty. Young people needs someone by their side to help them out in the living, but they just don't know how to manage life with a family of their own. Still they end up with jobless, and not striving to provide their family a better life than they have during their time. Early marriage is also the common reason for broken families. Young people are still innocent with what they really feel, and that they just actually need someone to accompany them for a short time and not for a lifetime. Its great that you still have all your family members with you, do you?
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@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
19 Jun 09
I guess its not just one particular situation, I would have to say it is the way I have choose to deal with my problems in the past.. Instead of facing them head on, I would run away from my problems.. Thinking a new environment, setting, or time would just make the problems go away, or fit themselves.. Well I have learned that is not the way to handle anything in life.. I would have to say lying to the ones that have helped me the most in my life would have to be my biggest mistake.. Trust is easily broken, and a simple bandage can not mend it... That trust may come back after a lot of hard work, but it will never be what it was... The thing that you lied about will still be in the back of that person's mind..
@theptcnetworks (575)
• Pitcairn
19 Jun 09
There are really times when you don't know how to handle some of your problems, especially if you are new to that situation. But don't make history repeats itself, the first solution is a product of experiment, or ignorance, and on the second time around it is already a product of learning for you have learned what is supposed to do in case you meet such situations. Problems are always with solutions, like in mathematics, but there are really times when it is insolvable, and you just need to be silent, you don't have to do anything. And yes if you did something negative to one person, it will definitely be marked in his mind. But a good person will not think about the negative lines of life. Take this example. You made a small black dot in a clean, white bond paper and you'll show this paper to somebody. Probably most will say that there is a small dot. Those people are the pessimistic as they try to find the dirt in a clean paper, and same with how they see other people. Of course you can't change what is in their mind. Just try to do what is good for everybody and you'll soon take the credit.
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@Youreyes4Today (2356)
• United States
23 Jun 09
You have to learn to accept yourself before all others.. then if someone in your life comes to you with those things, you don't have to reply, but you also know that is their opinion, NOT YOURS.
@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
19 Jun 09
Well I am not trying to take credit.. I mean I am use to other people taking the credit away from me... Saying stuff like; "If it wasn't for me, this would not have happen this way" or I am the reason you are still alive... These are comments that my mother would always say.. I guess I am looking for acceptance, not credit... Within my family my mom, my sister, and I. I am the black sheep of the family, and everything that I would do, would be wrong.. I would feel ashamed of myself, and unworthy of being part of the family. Acceptance has been something I have been longing for all of my life...
@theptcnetworks (575)
• Pitcairn
19 Jun 09
hi jackxuning. so do you have anything there to share with me? i know its hard to bring em out, you dont have to tell the entire story. i believe everyone of us has one, even its not so dramatic as we usually watch on tv.
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@Twilightfann (1)
• United States
19 Jun 09
Hello people;;
My name is Ally and im 14 years young. (haha.)
One of my biggest mistakes Ive ever made was when I was talking to my teacher and her name was ms.Shavnah. Dont ask me how to say her last name everyone just called her ms. Shavy. I called her that one time during class and.. lets just say... I didnt see my friends for a week. I wish ive never said that!!
:(
@theptcnetworks (575)
• Pitcairn
20 Jun 09
Wow! This is the funniest response. You got suspended because of that? Hmn, anyway we can't blame your teacher if she got offended by what you've said. And yes I for one don't even know how to pronounce the name of your teacher. Ms. Shav... Well I guess better call her with her first name to avoid suspension again..LOL.
I have a classmate during my high school days, he sang a greatly annoying song to our teacher. The name is Ms. Annie. And my teacher was really offended by that. She even walked out and cried. What she did was to report my classmate to the principal's office and he was summoned to the guidance office.
It's just good that my name is not that hard to pronounce/read. Anyway, good luck to your studies, and I hope that won't be repeated again, and again.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
19 Jun 09
By Biggest regret is that after completing Engineering, I should have done MBA from a premium Business school. It could have made my career much more successful. At every point of my job I feel so.If I could have done it, there would have no events where I had to live on mercy of many people and work on mercy. I might have better say.
@theptcnetworks (575)
• Pitcairn
19 Jun 09
well im sorry but i don't know much about MBA. It's master of business administration, right? I know it is one of the musts of being in the business. Don't you have any more chance to take it? But don't loose your esteem my friend. There are a lot more opportunities out there reserved for you. Perhaps you should be lucky coz you're already tagged as an engineer, better than no title at all. I am also taking a professional course, and after graduation I am set to take the board, and if given the rare chance, then thanks God. I would also be called professional, and can work professionally on some areas of my country.
@derek_a (10874)
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19 Jun 09
I have made what I considered to be wrong decisions in life, but then when I look back at those decisions, I have to wonder whether they were wrong or not.. I don't think there is such a thing as wrong or right decisions, they are just decisions. If I don't like the outcome, then it is my karma to have made that mistake, and I will learn from it. How will I ever know what is right and what is wrong for me if I keep getting it right? 
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I could say that the biggest mistake I made was getting married too young. But who is judging that? If I hadn't got married "too young" then I wouldn't be here where I am today. My parents said that they married "too young" - but if they hadn't I may not be here now.
Therefore, I am happy with the way things have turned out, and if I had to do it all again, I would not change anything.. 
- Derek
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I could say that the biggest mistake I made was getting married too young. But who is judging that? If I hadn't got married "too young" then I wouldn't be here where I am today. My parents said that they married "too young" - but if they hadn't I may not be here now.
Therefore, I am happy with the way things have turned out, and if I had to do it all again, I would not change anything.. - Derek@theptcnetworks (575)
• Pitcairn
19 Jun 09
That is definitely true! You can't be what you are today if you have not done these things in the past. You are the one making your own fate, you're making your own journey. You're making shape of your own, colors of your own and these are the ones that gives you your own personality and identity. Everything will fall into place as long as you wish to. You don't have to choose the best of the best decisions all the time, for nobody is perfect. We make mistakes, and that mistake will make us better the next time around. So go on and do whatever you think is right. Life continues no matter what happens. God is there, looking after each of us.
@flyisky (196)
• China
19 Jun 09
My biggest mistake maybe choose the wrong major when I entered the university. When I was at high school, because lack of the knowledge of the careers, I pick a major at random which made me regretted for a long time. Until now, I still blame myself to do such a stupid thing and shoose a useless major. Because I have no way back,I continue to further study in this major and hope I can get a better job in the future.
@theptcnetworks (575)
• Pitcairn
20 Jun 09
That mistake is a product of misguidance. You were not guided on what really is your desire. That usually happens, and yet these people like you learn to live up with their chosen course. You picked up a random course, maybe your friends should have influenced you for that. One of my teacher says, she was actually undecided when she has chosen her current profession. She asked all her friends, 'are you taking this?', and all of them said, yes. And so since she didn't want to get out of place, she also has taken the same. And when there was a time when they were given the chance to shift to another course, she again asked her friends, 'will you continue to what we've already started?', and again they said yes. So she again just went to the direction of the wind. Until she graduated and passed the board. But long before graduation she learned to love her chosen career.
You feel different at first, I did too, but as time passes by, you'll definitely love it.
