Would you.... Cheat

United States
June 19, 2009 5:10pm CST
If your mate cheated on you would you cheat back? I think that if a person cheats they change everything in that relationship... so i just do see how a nother wronge would help that. but what would you do chea since they did?
12 responses
• Philippines
22 Jun 09
In relationship its hard to be perfect you cant control the situation around us to be prepare you have to be strong and live virtue in life with good moral to know why we are so real person who live in a world of sin
• United States
21 Jun 09
Cheating is a wrong thing to do and can hurt people. however i have been cheated on many of times but jsut because they did it dont mean i need to do it as well to get back at them for what they done was wrong. Two wrongs dont make a right. You cheat your gone its that simple. Now i have been in a sitaution where a guy cheated and i forgave him and stayed but thats because a child was involed and after he done it again i just had to move on because i didnt want my child to see all the wrong or make him think or feel its okay to cheat on someone. But it does happen to someone everyday.
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
Temptation is always there. We can avoid it. That is why you or our mate can commit cheating. With this, if my mate cheat on me, i will not cheat back. I will let her realize that what she did is wrong. I will not change. With this I know our relationship will still be better. I will talk to her one on one. I know she was able to do that because there is something wrong with me.She was looking for something that she haven't seen to me. She see it to other people. So I have to change or I have to adjust so that we will not separate.
@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
20 Jun 09
No I could never cheat, I take my marriage vows seriously and have a deep faith in Christ and do not believe that two wrongs make a right.
• Philippines
20 Jun 09
Thats sad, well I wont cheat on my partner just because he cheated on me... I'll get hurt and be mad at him of course but anybody deserves second chances right especially if you do love a person, but if he did it again, I think its better to just break up with him than cheating back.
21 Jun 09
I think it all depends on the relation ship....I think understanding what lead up to it and learning from that if theres hope....My husband and I have been together 8/9 years...and had a life time of ups and downs....he recently went down that path...(but not fully,,,or at lease he say) and he was ashamed with himself afterwards....I belive he was attracted by the frill of the chase and an escape from the burden of our marriage...and was on a buzz with the attention....but when it came down to the buisness...the reality was the grass is not always greener or it just comfirmed that he still loved me....unfortunally while I love my husband and have no intention of doing the same...my confidence and trust will never be the same....but our realationship has come through it....the only thing thats changed from my point of view is the it made me realise how isolated I had let my social life/networking become....I thought if it happen ever again I would like a good set of friends for networking....and have let my hubby know this to keep him on his toes!!!hope it never happens to you x
@dodo19 (47077)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
19 Jun 09
If my partner cheated on me, I would not cheat on him, as I would become no better than he is. Cheating on your partner is not right to begin with, which is why I would not cheat on him back. I would simply leave him. I think that, if one partner cheats, then this cheater's partner deserves better.
@UK_Shree (3603)
19 Jun 09
I would feel incredibly angry and hurt if I were to be cheated on but I don't see myself going and doing the same thing in order to get back. Sure, cheating back might feel temporarily good as though I have got revenge but I think that in the long term it would probably do more damage mentally and emotionally. Why not be the better person and rise above it all. Dump the partner who cheated and move on!
@jayrene (2708)
• Philippines
19 Jun 09
if my mate would cheat on me, id sure feel hurt and id be very very very angry with him... but i will not be too low to cheat back just because he cheated on me. i'd sure give the woman a piece of my mind, id confront her with it... and i'll confront my partner with it also. cheating back would not make me feel happy but would make my character ugly.
@phyrre (2317)
• United States
19 Jun 09
I think that cheating is wrong. Period. Just because someone cheats on you doesn't give you the right to cheat on them, too, and that justification just seems silly to me. I've had someone I know use that excuse on me and I never bought it. I mean, to me, personally, I think that cheating is wrong. It's against all of my morals and values to cheat on my spouse. So if I'm mad because he cheats on me, why would you want to jeopardize your morals and values just for payback? Not to mention how mad you are at them for cheating and how wrong you think it is, it just seems to be contradictory to me if you go ahead and cheat back. But that's just my way of looking at things. :) of course there will be people out there that will disagree. ^_^
@qiyunhai (254)
• China
19 Jun 09
never. i just give up the relationhsip ,i will not cheat back, whatever we have a good time before ,it's enough
@MsAshley (39)
• United States
19 Jun 09
No honestly I wouldn't cheat back if I chose to stay with that person because two wrongs don't make a right. I think that if it's done back then that relationship will never be the same because you both did somehting wrong and it will always be an arguement about the situation.