What to do about my kids

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Okay so I have kind of a personal question to ask you all but I feel like I should give you a little background on my situation first. I met my ex-husband in high school and married him soon after. We always had problems in our relationship. Every fight turned into a shouting match and as the marriage continued, he started to get violent. I left him once but found out about 4 days later that I was pregnant with my oldest daughter. So I went back to him because I wanted to give her a family. A few years later he and I got into an argument that was particularly nasty and ended very violently. He was arrested and charged with felony strangulation. Even still I stayed because when they did an evaluation on him, they determined that he was bipolar. And in my vows, I had said in sickness and in health. It ended up being to much as things continued to get worse. He refused any treatment so things continued as they had before. I left him but didn't take our girls away from him (like I was advised to do) because I believed that if he got help, he could be a good father and I wanted my children to know their father. As part of our divorce, he was required to do a lot of things. Attend a men's domestic violence course, attend weekly group counseling, individual counseling, be medication compliant, complete his probation, and discontinue the use of illegal drugs. And he did all of these things. But now we are facing a much bigger problem in raising our kids. He lets our 4 and 3 year old daughters watch South Park. Which in my opinion is completely inappropriate. He doesn't restrain himself with his language in any way around the kids, which has given them a colorful vocabulary. And he and his brother taught my oldest one how to flip the bird. Which she is very proficient at. Not to mention that my oldest one is depressed. Quite literally depressed. Whenever I ask her what is wrong, she tells me that she doesn't like being stupid or a retard. Now I know that she is not learning that stuff in my home, which leaves me with only one option as to where she is learning it. I tried talking with him about it but it didn't work. He says he doesn't let them watch South Park yet they can sing the theme song, and often "reenact" scenes from the show (my husband and I don't like the show, nor do we have cable, so they aren't getting it here). When I asked him about the language he said he can talk anyway that he wants (which I suppose is true but I would think he want to teach our kids better than that). When I asked him about the obscene gesture, he said that he's never taught her how but he and his brother (who is going through a divorce and staying with him right now) often flip each other off jokingly. I asked him to refrain from doing so but who knows if he really is since she still does it. When I asked about our daughter thinking that she is stupid or a retard, he said he never calls her anything like that. But isn't my daughter hearing it somewhere. Anyway, this situation is beginning to get out of control and I don't know what to do. My husband is about ready to blow up at my ex. He's angry that my oldest is being made to feel the way that she is. He's angry at the things they are being taught and the ripple effect it is having on the daughter that we have together. I am also becoming extremely angry with the situation. My kids are learning inappropriate language and behaviors and there seems to be nothing I can do about it. Not to mention that my 4 year old is having self-esteem issues. I expected to deal with these things but when they got a lot older than this. I am at a loss of what to do. I am worried about my kids and about the strain this is placing on my marriage. Any ideas, suggestions? Anyone been here before? Please help.