I want to get married,but I have no money,no job,can I marry?

@wzsj0501 (157)
China
June 20, 2009 10:15pm CST
I am a postgraduate just now,this summer I will graduate. but I have not find a suitable job.It is hard to find a job with my major zoology and insect. I AM 24 old.I want to get married,But I have no job,no money,If you were me,what would you choose in your propect?
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@phyrre (2321)
• United States
21 Jun 09
I think that really depends on a lot of factors. First, have you found the guy you want to marry? You can't just go out and marry anyone because chances are it's not going to work. Most of the time, it doesn't work out even if you know them for a while. It's also very important to make sure that you're certain that you do indeed want to marry them. Marriage is a big step and one that isn't easy to break, so if you're having doubts then maybe put it off for a little while. Second, can you AFFORD to get married? Marriage, again, is a big commitment. If you're planning on having a wedding, it costs money. My wedding is costing us about $2,000 - $2,500 and we're having a CHEAP wedding. Most regular weddings are in the $5,000+ range. So if you can't afford to pay for this, then I would recommend getting a job and saving up until you can. Third, can you afford things AFTER you get married? There are consequences to getting married. Of course, I'm speaking from the point of view of a person living in the US, but this varies depending on your country. In the US, once you're married you have to pay living costs, health insurance costs, and all sorts of other bills. Without a job, it doesn't seem likely that that would be possible for you. Like I said, it depends on your situation. If you're financially secure enough to support a marriage and you're sure you're READY for marriage, then I'd so go for it. :) But if you can't afford these necessary things, then I would recommend waiting until you can. If you really love them, then waiting a little while won't hurt, either!
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@wzsj0501 (157)
• China
21 Jun 09
you have given me a excellent analyse,thank you!I have fell love a boy 3years ,but we have no job,just study every day.It made me upset when others have a wedding^
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@phyrre (2321)
• United States
21 Jun 09
Don't get upset if others get married and you don't. Your still young. Many others that marry young have their relationships fall apart and if you've been dating three years then you've got a great foundation! Besides, finishing your studies is important. It's one of the most important things. When you're done, you'll both get good jobs and you'll be able to have your dream wedding! Lots of people that marry young don't have a lot of money and so they settle in their weddings, but if you get a good job as a result of your studies, then it will all seem worth it to be able to have any sort of wedding you want. Just think about it like that. ^_^
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• Philippines
22 Jun 09
Who says you have to be with lots of money to get married. You can have a garden wedding without paying so much. Just tell me your budget and I can help you out. You just have to be creative and find ways...there are definitely so many ways to achieve your dream wedding without paying so much. The only think you should not do, is to have children right away when you have no enough savings yet. Having children will drain you both out financially. You have to plan that part in your relationship...but getting married? Of course you can get married!
• Philippines
22 Jun 09
I think all of us can get married and can have a family even if we don't have a job or money as long as we have someone who loves us and ask as to marry him or her. If you are not in a relationship it might be difficult to get married because you have to find someone to marry first right? And to be able to find someone you should go out to meet people, either you go to church every Sunday or go out with your friends or just apply for any job. I'm sure you'll meet a lot of people there. (But having a family I guess, really needs money so it would be better for you to try to have a job first)
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@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
26 Jun 09
It's possible. My fiance and I are saving for and paying for our upcoming wedding. Of course we have the help of his parents, and the fact that it's not going to be extravagant on our side. Planning a simple wedding is best, and trying to get things cheaper, or hand me down, or just borrowed. Asking the bridesmaids to pay for the dresses, and the groomsmen to rent their tuxes helps too. Making the gifts for the bridesmaids and groomsmen instead of buying them, or just not giving gifts at all helps. Buying the dress at a second hand shop or borrowing it from a family member, works too.
@wzsj0501 (157)
• China
26 Jun 09
thank you for shareing with me such a situation.the pay for a widding is high-end,so we have to save money tor the wedding.you are wisedom for buy the dress at a second hand shop and not make gift to the helps.i like this style,happy day for you!
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@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
29 Jun 09
Lol, those are all things that I've read as good ideas for when I asked for help on preparing for and planning my wedding. I'm actually not wearing a dress but will be wearing jeans and a button up shirt, with boots and a cowboy hat. My wedding is themed. I appreciate your comment back to me. Feel free to ask again.
@larish (2193)
• Philippines
21 Jan 10
You really have to find a job and earn a living before you get married. Money is also important in settling down. How are you suppose to go on with the day to day living expense - food, shelter and clothing? Hope by now you have found a job and are planning to set your wedding day. I notice that this discussion has been posted eight months ago :)
@aerous (13457)
• Philippines
26 Jun 09
I think money is not the requirement to get married. If I were I need to find jobs first before married. I think you can't zero finding jobs for 3 years. I think is sufficient time to find a jobs. If there's no vacant positions in your course. Why don't apply for another jobs that you know a little. Don't go into married without anything because that is the reason for couples to be separated. Even do I am not agree on that. I advice you this to avoid being separated in the future. More women, aspiring about money if they find out that there partner have no anything they will leave without any reason...Money is not everything but we need to consider that is for something