Why does the doctor ask "How are you today?"
By reinydawn
@reinydawn (11642)
United States
June 22, 2009 8:54am CST
The other day I had to go to the doctor. It wasn't a well visit, so I was there because something was wrong. Every time they called someone back to see a doctor, the nurse would ask "How are you feeling today?"
I always wondered why they asked this because chances are, if you're at the doctors, you are NOT feeling good. You go because you're sick. Now, I know this is just politeness and courtesy, but it really just struck my funny bone while I was waiting to see the doctor. When it was my turn and the nurse did ask (they didn't always, but just about) I looked at her and said "That's what I'm here to find out."
I think this definitely falls under Bill Engvals "Here's your sign"
9 people like this
26 responses
@rogue13xmen13 (14402)
• United States
23 Jun 09
I think that the reason they ask that is because they need to know exactly how you are feeling so that they can better treat your symptoms. Depending on how you are feeling, exactly, will depend on what kind of treatment the doctor shall administer to you.
3 people like this
@reinydawn (11642)
• United States
23 Jun 09
Oh yeah, I know they need to ask, but it seems like everyone asks, not just the doctor. And the nurses and the aides can't really do much for you anyways. It just seems funny is all.
@mentalward (14690)
• United States
22 Jun 09
Hahahahahaha! I've often wondered that myself!
One of these days, I'll answer with "I'm just fine, thanks! I guess I really don't need to be here" then get up and leave!
Actually, I thought about that question and our usual response which is, typically, "Fine, thanks!" If I know it's just a courtesy thing, I'll say, "You don't want to know" and they usually leave it at that. Sometimes I'll say, "Been better." It's an honest answer to a courtesy question.
If it's the doctor or one of the nurses asking, I now say, "That's what I'm here to find out." They usually get a chuckle out of it or at least smile at my response.
It is funny, though, having your doctor ask that question. After all, isn't he (or she) the one who's supposed to be telling us how we are? 
@reinydawn (11642)
• United States
23 Jun 09
That's exactly how I feel too. So many people just have the auto-response to match the auto-question. It's kinda meaningless. I know they're being polite and trying to get some sort of preliminary diagnosis. But it's just kinda funny!
2 people like this
@Idlewild (6090)
• United States
24 Jun 09
Well, the doctor probably asks this because if you're deathly ill he'll want you to pay cash during the exam, because if you give him a check you might die before it clears! ;-)
But seriously, when I go to the dr. it's usually for an annual physical, not because i have a problem. So he genuinely doesn't know how I am that day... whether I have any health problems, any changes to my health, etc.
And of course people tend to ask "how are you?" as a greeting in all kinds of situations, even when you know they don't care how you are, and when no one is expecting an actual detailed answer. (Most co-workers would be surprised if they asked me "how are you?" in the morning and I responded with a status report on how I slept at night, the fact that I have pain in my Achilles tendon, my annoyance with the repetitive work I have to do, etc.!)
1 person likes this

@Idlewild (6090)
• United States
24 Jun 09
I have a brother in law who takes the question literally... if you ask he how he is he will tell you about his day, week, health problems, etc. I've learned to just say Hi, hope you're doing well, and then quickly move on to whatever topic I wanted to discuss!
1 person likes this
@reinydawn (11642)
• United States
26 Jun 09
Depending on my mood I'll be totally honest, but usually I give the standard "fine" response.
@reinydawn (11642)
• United States
24 Jun 09
hahahaah - they wanna make sure the check will clear, that's funny!!!
I usually tell coworkers how I am also if they ask. Sometimes I just say "Do you really wanna know?"
1 person likes this

@jsitko (1169)
• United States
23 Jun 09
Hey Reinydawn, I was just at the clinic getting a blood and urine test prior to my doctor's appointment in 3 days. The 2 nurses I can in contact with asked me this very question. I answered them almost as you did, I said "This is why I am here, these tests will let the doctor know how I am doing in a few days".
There have been times at the doctor's when the nurse and doctor ask, I always say "I would be better if I did not need to come here."
You are very correct when you said this should be a Bill Engvals "Here's your sign!"
You made me chuckle with this one.
1 person likes this
@reinydawn (11642)
• United States
24 Jun 09
I know they're being polite and all, but isn't it funny that they ask that when you're usually not feeling well???
@jsitko (1169)
• United States
24 Jun 09
I will have to come up with a great reply to the nurse as I see her tomorrow for my doctor's appt.
I guess it is the same when I ask a friend of mine when we talk over the phone. I always ask how she is doing and she gives me honest feedback on all her aches and pains and issues of the day.Why do I always ask??? Being polite as you say.
1 person likes this
@reinydawn (11642)
• United States
26 Jun 09
It's really habit to do. And you are right, sometimes we are sorry we asked.
@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
22 Jun 09
I do not get this either. Aparently if you are at the doctor you are not doing very well. I went to the ortho back in November for a broken ankle, I hobbled in and the nurse said well I am not going to ask because if you were doing okay you would not be here..
I thought to myself. Smart lady.
@reinydawn (11642)
• United States
23 Jun 09
Yes, that is pretty smart! My "illness" wasn't obvious, but common sense would tell you that if it's not a well visit then I'm not doing too well!
1 person likes this
@mypriv8link (180)
• Philippines
22 Jun 09
Hi, I am a nurse and I know why we ask you that question and why even doctors do ask that often to clients. You see reinydawn, how you are feeling is a subjective output. That's why we ask 'How are you feeling today?' It's partly out of courtesy but it definitely has a purpose, speaking medically. When you say, 'not too good, I have pains here and there', that now becomes part of our assessment. We try to link your symptoms(your subjective output on how you fee) and your signs (based on nursing judgement) to be able to have an initial diagnosis. You see, those assessments are essentially important in determining your condition that is why, when someone from the medical fiels asks you that question, answer it truthfully and genuinely as possible.
@reinydawn (11642)
• United States
23 Jun 09
Yeah, I know. It just seems kinda funny that I'm there because I'm NOT feeling well and they ask if I'm ok. Then there's the people that just answer "Great" out of habit when they are in fact not feeling well at all.
You're doing a great job, I could never be in the medical profession!
1 person likes this
@ChampagneGiggles (699)
• United States
23 Jun 09
I'd say most medical staff asks that question first of all to give the impression that your well-being is important to them, and second as an ice-breaker to talk about your condition.
1 person likes this
@reinydawn (11642)
• United States
24 Jun 09
I can agree with that. It is a universal greeting so it makes you feel comfortable.
@tjburcham (690)
• United States
25 Jun 09
It is funny. I realize they do it to be polite but wouldn't you just love to tell them how you really are feeling. Another thing that I find amuzing is when you make the doctors appointment you basically have to know whats wrong with you. I feel like telling them "If I could write a script myself I wouldn't even come in."
1 person likes this
@reinydawn (11642)
• United States
26 Jun 09
I had a doctor once that knew I usually knew what was wrong with me. We'd kinda play a game. He'd say "What's your diagnosis?" I'd tell him what I was pretty sure was wrong with me, then he'd do his exam. Most of the time I was wright and he'd admit that we just wasted time. But he did love it when I was wrong!
@rickiely (257)
• Australia
23 Jun 09
Hello reinydawn,
That's a really good question. When doctors ask me 'How are you today?' i assume they're asking for my symptoms and so i reckon when they ask you that question, they're probably asking about your symptoms. Perhaps next time ask a doctor? =)
1 person likes this
@reinydawn (11642)
• United States
24 Jun 09
I totally understand why the doctor asks, but why do the aides and nurses ask too? There's not much they can do, and I don't think they pass it on to the doctor because the doctor asks as soon as she walks in the room. I think they're just being polite.
@reinydawn (11642)
• United States
26 Jun 09
It would be kinda awkward if they didn't say anything. It's like a greeting more than anything else some times.
@eighternity (363)
• Philippines
23 Jun 09
I'm a nurse. We do ask that because we want to know what's your condition before the examination. That way we can diagnose directly to where the problem is. For example, you didn't say anything to the doctor, so the doctor would not know where to start. you will undergo the full body check-up, that is too expensive. Unlike if you will say what you really feels, the doctor would concentrate on that particular matter.
1 person likes this
@reinydawn (11642)
• United States
24 Jun 09
Oh I know they're trying to help with a diagnosis, but it just seems funny that they ask when we usually don't feel well if we're at the doctors office. I was chuckling about it while I was waiting because a few people were ahead of me and they asked every single one, with the same tone. Most of the people said "fine" because that's kinda out of habit.
@dismalgrin (2604)
• United States
24 Jun 09
I've always thought of this was more of a kind comment to say. When I know my friends are going through a tough time I still ask them how they are doing because I know that it is the kind thing to say. Of course, there is also the times the doctors are meaning it as an intro to finding out what is wrong with you. So, I'm not too offended when asked this question.
@reinydawn (11642)
• United States
24 Jun 09
Yeah, the doctor will need to know, but the whole staff will ask also so it's kinda funny to keep saying it.
@reinydawn (11642)
• United States
24 Jun 09
It just seems more like an automatic thing than a real inquiry about your health. It's like they're just being polite because they don't even tell the doctor your reply.
@jedopi (401)
• Canada
23 Jun 09
I know exactly what you mean. Of course it is out of politeness and common courtesy that you are being asked how you are, but the answer should be quite obvious. If you were "fine" you would not be in a doctor's office. I never know how to answer this question when I am asked. Usually instead of saying "I'm fine" as expected, I will just tell the truth and say, "Not that great.." or, "Okay, but..." or something along those lines. Whatever comes to mind at the time is what I usually respond. Sometime it might sound kind of odd but after all, the question is kind of odd too.
@reinydawn (11642)
• United States
24 Jun 09
I'll reply with how I actually feel also. But it's almost automatic to say "fine" even if we don't feel fine.
@spicysweetie21 (2572)
• United States
23 Jun 09
I don't get that at all either, I remember when I was in the hospital because of my asthma for a week when i was younger, one of the nurses asked me that all of the time and in my head i thought "how do you think I am??? I can't breathe on my own, i have to drag a iv post with me just to go to the bathroom, im so weak i can barely walk, oh and Im a young teen thats been stuck in one room for days!"
but of course thankfully I was raised right and was polite and just said things like "im feeling a bit better"...and you are so right about it qualifying for the "Here's your sign" joke
but of course thankfully I was raised right and was polite and just said things like "im feeling a bit better"...and you are so right about it qualifying for the "Here's your sign" joke1 person likes this
@reinydawn (11642)
• United States
24 Jun 09
You just feel like telling them that sometimes! It would be rude though, and they are only trying to help... I just want to roll my eyes at them sometimes.
@anetteh (3590)
• Sweden
23 Jun 09
Well, it is a god question, however, even if you are there to see a dr for some reason, you might not feel well, but being well can vary. You mihgt have some pain or feeling sick, but in other way things can be fine, for example, you have all you need in life and that can make you feel well. So the question is asked to perhaps get some god response other than what you are there for. You might say - from part of I have pain in my back, then other things are fine. 

1 person likes this
@reinydawn (11642)
• United States
24 Jun 09
I just think it's odd that everyone asks you, not just the doctor. The person who weighs you, does your blood pressure... There's not much they can do about it, but I think they're just being polite.
@reinydawn (11642)
• United States
24 Jun 09
I do try to go in every year for my well checkups, but when you're sick it's just kinda funny!
@pickoy (733)
• Philippines
23 Jun 09
I don't mind them asking coz most diagnosis are reflected from you own observations and responses regarding how you feel that day. Medical people can't read minds so they need to ask why you are there... why you need a check up etc. Your know symptoms can be used to evaluate their past experience or if they have handled such cases before and then that's the only time they will give prescriptions if all of your symptoms matches a known disease. If its unknown, of course it will be under deliberation and you'll undergo a lot of tests so they could pin point if there's something wrong... No healthy person will ever enter a hospital and consult a doctor and pay for a price for no apparent reason.
Which is why being a vet is so hard... helping a sick animal comes with a great challenge coz it can't speak, how can it communicate... all that's left is guessing and observation... some animals die coz the vets can't figure out what's wrong...
If you're undergoing a lifetime medication like me, you will be the one spilling out the details and do the reporting on your current developments, provided you really want to stay fit and healthy.
@reinydawn (11642)
• United States
24 Jun 09
I can totally understand the doctor asking, even if they know why you are there. But the aides and the nurses wont do the diagnosis, and they all seem to ask. It's more like a greeting for them than an inquiry.
@lovesexmoneymaker (143)
• Singapore
23 Jun 09
Well i live in Singapore and i am not a doctor but clinics here do not actually ask you this kind of question, but from my point of view i think the question is more Psychological. I mean nobody can say they are not in pain when they are feeling the pain depending on the person's threshold. A person would be able to judge the seriousness of your sickness or pain by the answers you reply. I think the phrase " how are you today ? " or " how are you feeling today ? " is just a nicer way to ask you " whats your problem and how serious is it ? " or "Let me rate you from one to ten and see how much you are suffering ". I'm not in anyway condemning the health system but in a way complimenting them for a job well done. Having lot of patience towards sick people that sometimes can be quite rude at times.
1 person likes this
@reinydawn (11642)
• United States
24 Jun 09
I think for the most part they do a great job. But I think it's odd that the staff ask how you are, by the time the doctor comes in and asks you've already been through it a few times.
@jemifer (124)
• Philippines
23 Jun 09
Well, doctors really ask that question "How are you feeling today?" or "How do you feel today?" and it's normal for me. I think they just want to know what might your health problem is (if you are a first-time patient of that doc) or what's the development in your condition (if you're there for follow-up). They know for sure that you are not totally OK but they just want to know what you feel so they will know what to ask next. Of course you need to say how you feel so the doctor can easily distinguish your illness and confirm it with laboratory examinations.
@reinydawn (11642)
• United States
24 Jun 09
Yeah, but why does everyone else in the office ask that too? Before I see the doctor an aide takes me back to the room, then a nurse gets my vitals. I think it's more of a greeting for them, not that they really need the answer.


















