To forgive, or not to forgive.....
June 22, 2009 12:47pm CST
last year I got back in touch with a friend from highschool. Later that same year we had a falling out because I couldn't go to her wedding. now this week I recieved a message that she said she was sorry about how she acted and that she had just let her dissapointment get the better of her. She wanted me to forgive her and to recliam the friendship that we lost. The only trouble is that I am now wondering, if she is going to act like this everytime that I can't come through for her. I am not a patient person and I have little to no patience for those that treat me crapy, or who try to make me as misserable as they are. I have two children and since having them I have come to a conclusion: Life is too short to waste time on people who don't care about you, or who make you miserable. I would like to ask for your advice....What do you think I should do? Should I just forgive her and let it go, or should I just keep an online friendship instead of haning out with her again? As I mentioned, I just don't have time to play stupid high school games, especially since I'm not in highschool and I am a mom. I have better things to do with my time, than to spend it worring if I am going to make someone made if I tell them that I can't do what they are asking me. What do you think?
24 Jun 09
I wish I could say, just forgive and forget, but I know to forget is very difficult. But to be closed again to that person is up you. Life is too valuable to waste on something like this. There will be so many other things that will happen, focus on something that important than going back to something that occur a few years ago.
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23 Jun 09
see if she does, as long she say sorry forgive her. i am the same way at time will blow up and act dumb, some people are like that. she was hurt that you couldnt make it to her wedding, so i would forgive her. and if she handle something esle wrong again, you forgive her. over and over again. unless she steal from you or something like that.
23 Jun 09
hi chivas, i can see that you are a straight person and don't want to pretend to be good in front of people who have some how offended or hurted you. but i think since you are now living your life with your kids and your friend wants to start her life a new, i guess forgiving is not an act that is too much to extend to her. you said you don't want to worry any more, but how can you do that if you there is unresolved issue between you and your friend. would it be more better if both of you will start anew who knows this might just be the beginning of a more blossom relationship between the two of you as in best friends forever!
22 Jun 09
your friend needs you. this is the reason she has come back to you and is asking for forgiveness. as a good friend, be with her. there is something that binds you people otherwise in this world people don't turn back to old times and don't ask for forgiveness. may be after forgiving you do something good for her that gives you a benifit of a good deed in life. forgive your friend!!!