Often - Suicidal thoughts

India
June 22, 2009 1:58pm CST
i often get suicidal thoughts. People say that i have good character, talents, personality etc. The problem with me, is i trust everyone so much that i get disappointed. im currently unemployed. i dont have the energy to work. i get disappointments everywhere. As i told in my previous discussions, i m medicated, i was once given ECT for often getting Suicidal thoughts. however these days its not that intense as it used to be. I don't know how to really express the way i feel. why people cant be trusted? at times, i feel that being honest is not good. i feel lonely most of the time, i always try to help people who are unhappy. but i often end up being alone. i really need life lessons. should i be honest and sincere or should i not? should i be cunning and selfish? or should i not? what does the world want me to do to be happy and successful?. when i really wanted some answers no one really bothers to reply. when i don't need so much answers, i get many responses. i don't know if that is also my fault. i m not trying to get sympathy here. im so confused with life. i don't have one good reason to live.. i m very good at counseling others, i cant counsel myself.
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@pxm204192 (160)
• China
23 Jun 09
please i prey you that you have a very good future,for you have just a pain thounghts or feelings,just because you are living, living is the very beautiful and the very sacred things, i think the life of us is the extremely scared thing in every life,you can not help the other peoples' who are sorry, but the neccessarily,you can make your mood the better happy and pleasuer,you can have a neccesary ability to make yourself very happy,not interrept your pleasure mood,you can study or train the quiet mind, this point is very important for the personal psychological balance. i think that you have attitude that is very honest to anybody,this idea is very correct,but you have seen the special case or situation that you are in. in the black or cheat culture and society,you have a honest heart to the other people, observiously, it is not feasible for you to do,and you should learn from the good people in such society, dealing with the society is the cetain likehood the waters' characteristic, you should change the adapt property, just like for the water to go and be adapt for the topgraphy, the people should do life just like the water do. the very important thing to remember, you should deal with well to yourselves and the other people, esepecially your own life.the other things is to come back again, but your life belongs to you only once,just once to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
• India
23 Jun 09
thank you so much. i take your words. yo ar right we can live our life only once, i will try to be as happy as i can in this cruel world. thanks for your response.
@Tallygirl09 (1380)
• United States
22 Jun 09
It sounds like you are so busy trying to get folks to like you and take care of others that you aren't focused on taking care of yourself. Depression can be all encompasing and overwhelming, believe me I know where you are coming from. Who do you want to be? You need to be true to yourself first and find folks that support and like you just the way you are. You may be choosing the wrong people, so give yourself some time to judge if that new person should be your friend or not. Do you have any hobbies or do any volunteer work? I love creative writing and even tho there are many days that I don't feel like it at the start, if I start writing and getting out of my own head, my mood gets better. I'm on meds to0 and yet I try to think that they are only part of the solution. And I give myself praise some days just for getting out of bed and doing some minor chores cause sometimes that is a big effort. One of the worst parts of depression is that one many times will put oneself down alot...that dogging is bad for you. So if you catch yourself doing that then try and think of something that you did that was good and praise yourself for that. Also make a list of what you like about yourself so you can realize just how wonderful you are! If you want to be taken advantage of or treated badly, you will be drawn to folks that will meet that need. Think about the girlfriend who always picks guys that treat her badly...until they change their way of thinking and what they expect and demand from a boyfriend, the pattern of abuse at whatever level will continue. Also since you are on medication, maybe it's time to have it reviewed and changed. And maybe you would benefit from joining a local depression support group since that would give you some ideas that others use to break the cycle so to speak. I wish you the very best and hope that you will try to focus on just one day at a time cause that is the only time that we can control.
• India
23 Jun 09
i will certainly follow all that you said. i do have hobbies and dreams. that is only helping me to live my life. thanks so much for your response. i appreciate it
@kykidd (6812)
• United States
22 Jun 09
One thing that you might try is hanging positive notes around everywhere. Tape them up in the bathroom by the mirror. Put them on the top of your monitor. Put them on the refrigerator. This has always helped me. I know sometimes we struggle with making decisions for ourselves, when we can look at others and it seems we know exactly what they are doing wrong. I hope you will have patience and understanding with yourself and others. Keep a positive attitude and hopefully something will come along for you. Be persistent!
• India
23 Jun 09
i did all that, nothing really worked for me.. i stuck a note on the bureau, i listen to positive songs, but at that moment i would feel better, in really nothing works for me
@dozhou (326)
• United States
22 Jun 09
Life is life. You should taste everything even though it not what you want. You can describe it as a never-end game. Some guys quit early, some late. Some tastes happiness, some desperate. But remember the feeling you experience now may change in the near future. You don't know what would happen. This is chrisma of life. Hang in there, you will find the secret of life.
• India
23 Jun 09
i have tasted only bitter experiences so far. the good experiences last one for 1 or few days. my childhood was bad, my school days were bad, college days were bad, i wasted a lot of money by joining a course which i don't fit in. relationships didn't work. i m not successful in anything. i hope it changes.. i think i deserve a better life. but if i m destined to live like this forever, i think i should!
• United States
22 Jun 09
First, you have to learn to like yourself as you are. Stop trying to be someone you think everyone will like....be yourself. Not everyone is going to like you, not matter how nice, how thoughtful, and how honest you are. That's life! If you are always trying to get everyone's approval, you will be sadly dissappointed, because not everyone will like us. Secondly, you have to figure out why you have a problem dealing with people. We cannot make people who we want them to be either, we have to accept them the way they are, with their good and bad points. We cannot control others. Therefore, the sooner you accept that idea, the easier it will be for you to be around people. You cannot put people up on a pedestal, they have faults just like you and I, and you can't condemn them just because they're not perfect, or because they don't put you on a pedestal. Always remember, that you cannot depend on anyone for your happiness...you can only depend on yourself.
• India
23 Jun 09
im not trying to be someone else. i m always the person i am. i m not trying to please everyone exactly.. i know that i cant please everyone around me. im just annoyed with people who try to be someone else pretending to be nice to me and later when i come to know the true color of that person, i get so disappointed and thereafter i find difficult to trust anyone in my life. you are right, i cant depend on anyone for happiness. thanks for the response
1 Nov 10
not really much i can say other than stick with it. i tried 5 times to take my own life and was self harming for a long while. thankfully now i don't SH or have any "silly" thoughts. there is always light at the end of the tunnel. sometimes there is a curve in the tunnel so you can't see it ! when you feel low, do something you enjoy. go out for a walk (yes, even at 3am.!)
@drdivu (1011)
• India
22 Jun 09
oh my god..!! I M EXACTLY SAME..!!! I HAVE EXACTLY SIMILAR PROBLEM...!! but thankfully i have few friends over time, who have been there with me thro thick and thin and guided me alot...!! by gods grace these thoughts have reduced in me over period of time..though i daily counsel my friends or any one who needs my help... U can share with me ur thoughts if u feel comfortable...!!! I would really like to help someone who is just like me...