Will girls love an ugly man?

India
June 24, 2009 12:15am CST
Am very ugly to look at and 46 years too. Still a bachelor. Will girls fall in love with an ugly man? Does the adage 'first impression is the best impression' apply to me?
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@candy2306 (576)
• India
24 Jun 09
Hi Preethaanju, from what I witnessed, girls do fall in love with ugly man. But ugly men never wants an ugly girl for himself! I've seen very sweet looking girls are going out with lower than average looking guys. But I seldom see a handsome looking guy or average looking guy going after ugly girls, why? If you have good attitude and manners, I'm sure there will be a lady for you too! Just don't be picky!
• India
26 Jun 09
yes u have a valid point. Men are more selective sometimes. Thanks fr ur response
@rsa101 (37933)
• Philippines
24 Jun 09
Well if that is the case then you should make your inner self look good and by then you may attract girls from loving you. Sometimes girls are not looking at the outer features of man but also looks at the inner self of a man. That is why there are some that do get to find their partners despite their physical features are not that attractive. Also, try not to look at yourself by putting yourself down because some may feel that and be turned off by how you treat yourself.
• India
24 Jun 09
Yes inferiority complex is big turn off for women. But the truth of the matter is and we must accept it, that ugly people do become pessimist and develop unwanted traits in their character. Spiritually, physical appearance carry no significance, but in real life it does a lot
• India
24 Jun 09
Everybody will look ugly at the age of 46, but there is no matter of age and beauty for love.. only heart decide to have love nothing else so please be careful, when u r getting a girl talk with her a lot to get a good heart but not the beauty.. this is practical thinking.. dear friend!!!! think about it????
@med889 (5941)
24 Jun 09
True love knows no appearances because it is the personality which attracts a girl and we feel comfortable with a person who makes me feel the "me" in us. First impression is okay but it will not make a girl feel completely sure that she can lead her life with a person so many more meetings are needed to be able to know if someone is good for us. So appearances are less important than personality which comprises of many ingredients like responsibility, maturity, intelligence, attitudes, love, care and understanding.
• India
24 Jun 09
Character and good qualities come next. When a girl reacts negatively at the first sight of ugliness, where is the question of assessing the man's inner qualties?
• Philippines
24 Jun 09
Physical attraction is the start of every relationship although there are a few exceptions. Some good friends don't find each other attractive but at some point in that relationship, they see something beautiful in each other, and start to have mutual feelings. Love that is built and developed is better and more lasting than love base on physical and instant attraction. Start with real friendship first before you pursue a woman...let her get to know you, the real you. She might end up seeing more of your physical self and fall in love with the man that you truly are. Have you ever seen beauty and the beast. That's a movie to learn something from.
• India
24 Jun 09
You have the right idea to fall in love. Friendship turns to love. Ugly people cant expect girls to fall over. We all know that physical beauty is temporary.Yet the craze to go after it remains.
• United States
24 Jun 09
Certainly not. Well, maybe if you look so horrible most people literally cringe and move far away when they see you. Even then, there is most likely some good women out there who would stay and talk if you started up a conversation. And if not, then the key is to say something before they see you. Like if you're waiting in line behind them, mention something about what you're waiting for. Funny is always good. Overall, it tends to be more whats inside a guys head than the outside of it that matters. Or at the very least, thats how it works for me.
• India
24 Jun 09
You have hit the nail on the head. But I would like to add something further in reference to your comments. Ugly people are by nature pessimistic and shy. They invariably would have inculcated negative tendencies in life.They prefer to live in isolation lest they be mocked at. They are not likely to initiate a chat or discussion on their own. So the idea to start a conversation.... will he?
@oindy54 (3445)
• India
26 Jun 09
Hey, Don't lose heart. I don't think every girl judges a man by his looks. And what's your definition of ugly? Is your mind ugly? If not then someone is bound to fall in love with you. Don't be disheartened. In today's age girls are intelligent,they don't just go for looks,they judge a person's character..so if you are at heart a good human being,someone will definitely fall for you. Remember inner beauty is more important than external appearances... and most girls will try to look for that inner beauty in a person.So enlarge your mind,broaden your horizons,have a positive and optimistic outlook because if God has made you that way,he will never abandon you but he surely has something good in store for you. Take care, Oindy.