Selfish or Not Selfish....Part 2

United States
June 24, 2009 9:56am CST
Hello everyone thank you for your comments and advice on this issue. Well now that I have heard from you all the respond and please don't stop...lol but my friend is now upset with me and I know it's because he did not wna to hear the advice I had to offer and he wants to do things his way of course. Someone suggest that I go to his fiance' and inform her well i have thought about this and i don't want to lose his trust and i really don't know her very well to know how she would handle the information sssoooooo i'm stuck with knowing and my friend is not talking to me anymore but he did inform me that he took her birth control already and he plans to wait and see what happens and if she does not have his baby he was going to have the baby with someone else...........So unfair...
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Raven7317
@Raven7317 (691)
• United States
24 Jun 09
I'm sorry you're having to carry this burden... it is unfair because as a friend, you gave your pal your honest opinion and he turned against you just because it wasn't what he wanted to hear... it's unfair because you obviously care about the issue that this presents to another woman, and you have to carry the knowledge that someone is intentionally trying to ruin her life... it is unfair because you now know that he has some MAJOR emotional issues... Why is he so intent on having babies? Didn't you say he already has one with someone else? Why isn't that one enough? At this point, I would follow the poster's suggestion... TELL this poor girl what he is doing/planning. You really don't have anything more to loose... he's not talking to you any way... To be honest, I don't know if I would even WANT him to talk to me... knowing that this is the kind of manipulation he uses on the woman that he 'loves' what kind of plots would he use on me, a friend??... You've already lost a friend because you were honest with him... maybe you'll gain another by being honest with her. Best of luck with your decision!