Howcome some religions forbid priests & nuns are to have a family/relationship ?

@Azaerus (820)
Philippines
June 24, 2009 10:46am CST
This is common with the Catholic religgion as we all know,but howcome the priests and the nuns are forbidden to have a relationship.I have asked others about this and they kept saying that because they have taken a vow to that they would be giving theirselves only to God. But come to think of it,isn't the religion abit selfish about this..I'm not against anything but didn't the bible stated to go on and multiply and be happy?? Some people say of it as a mortal sin if priests and nuns have relationship..can't a person be a priest or nun and be given a freedom to love??
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@jules67 (2790)
• Philippines
24 Jun 09
By being a Catholic priest and nun, it forbids them from having a family. That is one of the vows that they should follow and we can't do anything about that now. It comes with the territory and I don't think that it is being selfish. They knew it even before they joined priesthood. It is normal for anyone to fall in love. Even priests and nuns do get into that temptation. One can ask the Vatican's permission if he wants to have a normal life.
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• United States
24 Jun 09
This is definitely true. I am from South Florida, and recently there was a case about a very well known priest, who had a Spanish Catholic Radio Show, and he was photographed kissing a woman on the beach. Some reporters made comments saying that maybe that was his way of coming out but most people criticized him because he didn't have the decency to tell the church he wanted to leave. Not only that but his affair with the woman had reportedly started two years previous.
@Azaerus (820)
• Philippines
24 Jun 09
But what if it came to a point that the priest or the nun can't choose between their devotion for God and their devotion for ther loved one??What if they can't leave both behind??What choice do they have??It will be sad if the priest or the nun will have to leave something they love and devoted for something they also love and devoted too..It will be confusing for them and it will bring loneliness in their lives forever..
@jules67 (2790)
• Philippines
24 Jun 09
Torn between two loves. Yes it is hard, but one has to make a decision and assume responsibility for it.
• United States
24 Jun 09
I had this discussion a few weeks ago with one of my good friends who is a devout Christian and I am Catholic. What I told her is that yes, everyone has the right to love but when you choose to become a Catholic priest or nun, you choose to devote all your time and love to the name of God. If you want to have an intimate relationship with someone else than you should devote yourself to another religion or take on another position in the church. My uncle is a Catholic priest and has been ever since I can remember [I am currently 19] and he has never been unfaithful to his duties and beliefs.
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• United States
25 Jun 09
Nuns and priests are married to God and the church (the people of God), which is why they both wear wedding bands. Their role is to be there for us...and unfortunately, if they have a family of their own, kids and a wife, they would not be able to be there for us, selflessly. Secondly, they, too, must spend time for God...in their own private time, in order to be more helpful to the people. If they are in tuned with God, their role is more effective...they are able to help us more spiritually. Again, that would be hard for them to do this if they were torn between the church, God, and their own family. Both the nuns and the priests know this before they take their final vows. That is the choice they make. However, it is true that some find out too late that it's not for them, and God understands if they have to leave the priesthood or convent. For those who stick to it, are those who have found the real love of God, and don't need to look elsewhere for that love. If more people discovered this , there would be more understanding in the celibacy and chastity rule for nuns and priests.
• China
25 Jun 09
thanks for sharing..let me know more~~i think this is a serious topic!i think that since there is such a provision,it must be such a demand.so,we must comply with the..
@jedopi (401)
• Canada
25 Jun 09
In the Bible it says that Jesus told the people "If you wish to follow me, then you must leave your wife, your husband, and your children". Maybe not those exact words because I do not have a Bible right in front of me, but close enough. That is why Roman Catholic priests and nuns cannot marry, they are devoted to God. A nun is almost like the Bride of Christ and so unable to be with any man.
@LiAXaZu (184)
• Philippines
25 Jun 09
I have also asked people this and they also said that nuns and priests can't have relationships because they made a vow that they would give themselves only to God. For me, I think that the reason why they are kept from having relationships other than with God is because having relationships with people will actually make them more vulnerable to earthly things (i.e. money, etc.). But I disagree that them being in a relationship is a mortal sin. Maybe it is a sin, but not mortal. Some people also say that giving yourself only to God is a higher act of love. Maybe that's the reason. I don't really understand these things but it's their choice anyway. Religion is a strange thing. They can say one thing but mean differently. But if these people are happy with what they choose, then who are we to question them. :)
• United States
25 Jun 09
From what I was taught as a child raised as a catholic, Men and women who choose to be a nun or a priest have to go through a system to learn what is expected of them. They actually take college lessons, thats not what they call it, I don't remember that now. What I do remember is when they are done with all the learning and working in the spirtual manner, they are then given the choice if they want to take the vows to become a nun or priest. When the vows are taken they are actually given a ring just like in a marriage. They are vowing their life to the work of being a nun or priest through God. Very simular to a marriage between a two people. Now as far as the catholics being selfish, I have experienced many different types of religions, to me each has its own agenda. They are all actually a business in my opinion. A True Life with Faith and Truth does not need to ask for donations or what have you for if you walk with God, he provides, there is no need to demand patrons to sign a contract that gives the church a percentage of their income. Yes, I have not joined different churches because of this FACTOR. The reason for this would be good for another discussion some time. As far as Nun's and Priest's unforunately they do break vows in different ways. Yet, those that are devoted to the vows taken enjoy a love that is shared with everyone they come in contact with. Unconditional Love.. think about that...
@dozhou (326)
• United States
24 Jun 09
As I know, several religions don't allow priests& nuns to have a family, for example: Buddhism. It is tradition, so if you want to serve God, you should keep the rule.
@threnos (216)
• Canada
24 Jun 09
I guess it's a life choice. I'm not Catholic so I can't give any concrete answers. I don't belive that it is wrong for a priest or nun to have a wife or husband but then I suppose they should consider becoming a convert since many other religions allow this and the service of God at the same time.