Over reacting.... what do you think
By pbrockington
@pbrockington (500)
United States
June 24, 2009 7:05pm CST
my guys indicretion has made me feel the he is nodifferent from the rest. I was getting over it but it still hurts. I still wonder what he dose when i work in the evening. still want to check his phone. all my thought mak me what to say the hell with it and just cheat or just have fun. Now I will first tell you that I hate the idea of cheating just leave if you are not happy. that is what is keeping me from doing somthing ut of character. It dose not help that tomarroe is my birthday. One of my male friends have invited me to go out clubbing. I have not been out for real since before i had my son. My guy is broke and i use to men who have money to spare. I am uase to men making it rain and the jazz. I love my guy but i am hurt, I am disappointed in him I am diappointed in my realtionship. I use to think that we had this bond that was so great. I thought our love was so pure. and he made us common. On top of all this he will miss an important day in my sons life because of work. He said he would look for another job and he has not even started looking for this second job like he said. I am so disappointed in him. do you think I am wrong for wanting to go out with my friends? do you think I am over reacting?
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3 responses
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
26 Jun 09
You are not over reacting! If your boyfriend doesn't want to help you celebrate your birthday,go out with your other friend and have fun! If you are not happy in the relationship, then leave! You deserve better then him! I hear so many stories of people who should get out of relatioships and don't! Be one that gets out of a sad relatioship! It isn't worth staying with him!
@sjvenden27 (1840)
• United States
25 Jun 09
Going out with your friends in my opinion is not cheating.. Just as long as neither of you cross the lines from friends to something more... It is a good idea to take a little break from the family life, go and have fun.. Then when you come back you will feel more refreshed, and able to take on the everyday tasks of raising a family.. But to cross the lines and do something that could change your current relationship, won't say that is the best thing to do..
@khayshenz (1384)
• United States
25 Jun 09
You already said "just leave if you're not happy" and CLEARLY you're not happy. So maybe instead of asking questions like ...
...should I cheat? Is it ok if I go out with other guys to have fun?
Maybe you should ask a different question: is it time to leave (i.e. break-up)? Obviously, at this point in your relationship, you don't sound too happy. You have doubts about his character and about your relationship in general. At what point in the relationship will the doubt/suspicions stop?
I'm not saying that YOU SHOULD break up - I'm just saying that the conversation of the possibility of breaking up is maybe something that you should take to your man about. Or the reasons behind why you should break up.
Good luck!
