How to handle stress in relationship?

@annierose (21977)
United States
June 24, 2009 7:16pm CST
Stress is the problem we are facing now in our relationship with my boyfriend. Lately, he had been so busy with his work and rarely have time to communicate in longer time with me. How I wish, we can have more time chatting with each other. I am very tired too because of my job as a teacher and talking to him makes me relax somehow. But as of now, we cannot talk much.I feel so much stress now and I wish we can have more time.Unfortunately, as of now, I feel so sad that I feel my partner have some difficulties talking with me because of work. How do you handle stress in your relationship? What do you usually do to overcome those stuffs?
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@khayshenz (1384)
• United States
11 Jul 09
Ohhhh I know what you're talking about. My boyfriend has been working a lot lately so all I get is a minute here or a minute there. Definitely not enough, from my perspective. But it is what it is. Either that or not have him at all. So it's definitely worth staying for me. I know it's temporary (I hope, according to him). But we'll see, I guess. What I've done in the past and still doing when I miss him terribly (i'm very crafty - paper type) is I've created him an "I Miss You" card. Which actually takes quite a good long time, so that passes some time. Then I just write. Sometimes he gets the card, sometimes he doesn't. I've created a lot of paper-craft things for my boyfriend. Sometimes, I just don't feel like giving them to him. =P I also run to minimize stress - but that's more personal. Good luck!
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
Some personalities are more resistant to stress than others. Certain people have personality traits that cause them to over respond to stressful events. I recognize that the stress in the relationship is a test to make sure that we can endure a lasting life together. If the stress is too difficult and the relationship breaks, then I'd have to move on. Being together with my guy for almost 10 years now, it still has its emotional stress. We just know that it's there to make us stronger as a couple. You really have to ask yourself, it is honestly worth it? What am I gaining from being in this relationship? Does the happiness out weigh the stress that he adds to your life? Personally, when we are arguing or getting into a heated discussion, I say I need an hour to cool myself down. Usually I'll take a walk or go somewhere else even if I just go into a different room and watch tv. Anything to take my mind off of what is stressing me out. Hope you'll find what works best for you! Good luck!
@subha12 (18441)
• India
25 Jun 09
There are sometime that you both must consider the reality. He has to maintain his job. Your job is equally important. So stay there. Just see what happens.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
25 Jun 09
Send messages letting him know that you are thinking about him. This might seems insignificant to you but it will let him know that even though you are not spending alot of time these little messages still fills the gap. Communication is the key of all relationship and when this starts to break down then a lot of things starts to happen. Don't take the busy scenario as one to lapse.
• Philippines
25 Jun 09
Well Just make a surprise moment or a present that would make him remember you as simple as picture or simple CD song that he would remember one of you. why not to try so that its would release your stress