Are you too nice ?

I know what you're saying. I'm too nice as well. I always find it so difficult to just say, "No. I don't want to do that." I have a friend who KNOWS that I don't like kids, yet she will still ask me to push her kid around in the store. I don't enjoy this, but why can't I say no? And I bet she knows I'm too nice to say no and this is why she asks me to do it. She always just kind of expects me to do it. And her reasoning is always that she feels he behaves better for me. I really don't care if he behaves better for me. He's not MY responsibility. I didn't give birth to him! *sigh* Unfortunately, I don't know how to get out of the "habit".

Yes.. i think i'm too nice... all my friend happy and fun with me...but sometime my friend take advantage for it... but i dont care because same like you it comes straight from my heart actually..

Based on your description, I feel like I am in a situation like you. My close friends really appreciate and proud to have me as their friend. I love meeting random people and become their friends. However, in reality, there are some who always take advantage of me (other people as well) due to my (their) "nice" nature. I do not regard them as my friends, they can be classified as mere "acquaintance" ... If someone keeps on using me for their benefit, I would stay away from them and ignore them in the future, as he/she is not worthy of becoming my friend since he/she sees me not as a friend, but as a tool...So I don't think/feel I am being arrogant here... A true friend is better than a thousand "use-me-only-friends". (can't find a term on how to describe these people...) Cheers.

its not wrong to be nice...in fact its a good attitude...but don't forget that anything that's too much can harm us...just what you have said, you are too nice and so people have tendency to take advantage on you...so think about it! me, personally i think i am nice as what other people told me...but i very well know my limitations...i can easily feel when people are taking advantage on me and when i feel that way...i feel like i should lessen my being nice to that person...but it doesn't mean that i will be mean to them...what i just mean is that i will put some space between us just for them to know that i don't like what are they doing to me... now, if the favor that their asking is something that i can do...why not. me, as being nice, i am also a straight forward and transparent person...so they can easily read and recognized how i feel... so as for you, gain there's nothing wrong in being nice...but we are only humans and we have our limitations...don't let other people take advantage on your kindness...but don't be mean to them either...just always balance the situation, and with that i think you can also gain respect... have a nice day mr. niceguy! ooops...iceinduction i mean... blessings!

I find that I am too nice, or soft spoken.. Meaning I do not explain my true feelings to most if not all people.. I do not want to hurt someone else feelings.. As my eyes have been able to see more clearly, in the end I may make someone else feel better but underneath it all I feel horrible, used, manipulated, and very worthless... That I could not express myself and say what was really on my mine.. I would say there is a point a person can become too nice.. When you allow others' person feelings and beliefs interfere with your life as a whole..

I'm a moody person. So, I can't really tell that I'm nice all the time because sometimes i find my self being rude to others. When I'm off the mood i just can't control my emotions and my acts.

I am not too nice, nor I am very mean. I am in the middle, nice when I want to be, and very mean if you push my buttons. Honestly, I am like anyone else when it comes to emotions.

I can see that you are a good guy, and you don't want to hurt people, so when somebody need help, you will say yes, and feel free to help them, the social is complicated, and sometimes we should learn how to say no, just like you say, I think this is a life-skill we have to master, not everybody as nice as you, I'm also a girl that don't know how to say no, but this will get hurt, so we need to learn to say no sometimes.

I go through the same problem as you. Even i find it very hard to say no and people around me tend to take advantange of me. I have seen my very best friends use me like this. I seriously believe you should master the "life-skill" as you put it. But be prepared that people are going to accuse of being changed and you not caring about them anymore. Don't let all this go to your head. After all this is your life and you can't let people take advantage of you. People use a lot of emotional language to convince people like you and me to their work but make sure you don't get swayed in their talks. I tried so hard to get over my problem of not saying NO and initially I found it very difficult but now I have successfully overcome it. The trick is don't let anyone go to your head. If some 'emotional blackmailing' is going to your head try distracting yourself by doing the activities you like the most, like surfing the net, listening to music, reading etc. I hope this helps. :)