Are you beautiful?or handsome?

@wzsj0501 (157)
China
June 25, 2009 8:44am CST
the reson why i start such a question is that i find in different coutries,the standard of beautiful woman or handsome man is different.In my opinion,the beautiful girl is thin and high,the eyes are big,the mouth is small,the skin is white,the teeth are tidy.but i know,others are disagree my criterion of beautiful.And from my perspective,the handsome boy is with big eyes,high and thin,big hand,brown skin.but some people think Jay chou is handsome,which is a small-eyes man. what about your standard of beautiful and handsome person?
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@Astraea (175)
• Sweden
25 Jun 09
Jeeze. Everyone is beautiful, so I don't understand why you even started this discussion. There are so many different tastes and preferences on this earth, so there's at least one person who thinks that you are the most beautiful person theyve ever laid their eyes on. Beauty lies in the eye of the beholder. Surely someone who gazes upon you will find you handsome. If we talk about "true" beauty I believe that it lies in the spirit of a person. Someone who respects themself, are proud of themself and stays true to themself is a truly beautiful person. Unfortunately they seem to be a rarity these days. The world is filled with too many narrow minded people who would do anything for a dollar and who'd rather marry a "good looking" wining girl than their "less handsome" soul mate.
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• United States
26 Jun 09
Well, i sure am glad to hear that at least one person does agree with my ideals and thoughts. I was beginning to think that i was a lone survivor. Thanks, and well written. I am no beauty, but i do have a good heart.
• China
26 Jun 09
I agree with you, Astrea.
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@wzsj0501 (157)
• China
27 Jun 09
haha,thank you ,the kind hearted girl!i believe you are beautiful for your cute and friendly inner beauty.actually,maybe most of persons misconceive my discussions.i have seen a strange phenomenon that a girl,who is a model in world stage,has many flecks on her face,and with small eyes,not sexy.in china,everybody don't think she is beautiful in her appearance.but the france persons consider her as a most beautiful model appearance!and they think the flecks in face are beautiful!so i am puzzled!maybe every coutry has different aethestic standard in appearance beauty .
@candy2306 (576)
• India
26 Jun 09
Hi dear, I see the beauty of a person only by heart. I find one is beauty if they love each other, help each other and care for each other. Beauty is just skin deep, so why worry of the criteria! Every one who have a pair or ears, a pair of eyes, a pair of hand and legs, with a nose and mouth a BEAUTIFUL and HANDSOME!
• United States
26 Jun 09
The wisdom of time. I used to think that I would want to know someone because of there looks or be intimedated by them. I might have thought they were stuck up or something. Over the years I have learned that looks are decieving and you first impression of someone is probably wrong. You will never know unless you talk with them what they are about.
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• India
26 Jun 09
That's the only reason why I 'don't judge a book by it's cover'! Thank you, you're such a sweetie!
@Galena (9110)
25 Jun 09
I think I'm fairly good looking, although not by mainstream standards in my country. in my country most peoples ideals are skinny, tanned, blonde and rather false looking. I dye my blonde hair black, have very pale skin (which isn't natural to me, I stay out of the sun to make it this way) and I'm quite curvy (by curvy I don't mean overweight. I mean I go in and out a lot. small waist, fair sized boobs and bottom. chunky thighs) as I say, I think I'm reasonably good looking. in men, I prefer men to be a bit more feminine looking. slender, slightly dainty, and pretty rather than handsome.
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@Preciousgem (1182)
• Philippines
25 Jun 09
Can i say i am beautiful, because i have a beautiful face, big eyes, thin eye brows kissable lips, long hair, small but have a sexy body, white skin complexion, and well groomed, have a long fingernails.
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@wzsj0501 (157)
• China
26 Jun 09
yes,you are beautiful.beautiful face,big eyes,thin eyebrows,kissabule lips,and you are the beautiful ideal model in my beautiful standard.I think you many boys have courted to you.you are so pretty and perfect,every body who see you should like you,god bless you!have a good day!
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• India
25 Jun 09
I think handsome person always have a great look. The dress code they have make them feel they are handsome. Beauty is different from handsome in my opinion because beauty is dintinguished into two - internal and external. Handsome man is having good height , normal weight, cleanly saved,proper haircut and having good looking face. Handsome woman is slim, long hair, long eye-lash, small lips etc., and having great style of walk.
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@wzsj0501 (157)
• China
26 Jun 09
You are right ,i agree with you.you add long eye-lash,most people do not have long eye-lash,but they can use the tool"eye black",which can make their eye-lash longer.I don't know the face-painting,but i want to study some skill of face-painting which can make me beautiful.some body think fat is beautiful,but some body like thin people.what is your opinion?
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• Philippines
25 Jun 09
Beautiful girls here in our country for me is have long black hair tiny eyes white skin at least 5'7 in height and of course have a kind heart. Handsome men like me ehem... usually have a black hair white skin 5'10 in height brown eyes and renponsible in every task, obligation that he has ^_^
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@wzsj0501 (157)
• China
26 Jun 09
your standard of beautiful woman is long black hair and tiny eyes,and you combine the internal heart with the out looking .it is wonderful!would you mind if i ask you why you donot like woman who has big eyes?maybe the tiny eyes are more tender?actually you are handsome because you are a responsible man,it is important!
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@Poison_Girl (4150)
• United States
25 Jun 09
Well, this may be cliche, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder. According to your opinion, I'm not beautiful because I'm not tall. I'm guessing that's what you mean by "high". And I don't see myself as beautiful because the media says we have to look a certain way to be considered beautiful. I'm not TOTALLY blaming the media, though. I have pretty low self-esteem. I always have. Even as a kid.
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@wzsj0501 (157)
• China
26 Jun 09
yes,i consider high as tall,but what it means :low self-esteem?you are not confident enough?I am not tall,in my opinion,i am not beautiful,because i am not tall and thin.but my boyfriend still love me .i feel a little self-contemptuous for my height.but i have big eyes,tender skin,and intelligent.it is enough.
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@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
26 Jun 09
My feelings of beauty or handsomeness are quite different than the norm. I have met too many people that are absolutlely georgous outside and are the most ugly people inside. I judge the beauty of people by what they have in their hearts. I find that the most beautiful people in the world are those who give unselfishly of themselves to others. They are the people who reach out and touch other people's lives with love and happiness in their hearts. They don't do it for recognition, but for the sake of making other people's lives a bit better. I don't consider myself beautiful in the physical sense...nor is my BF handsome in the physical sense. He is the most handsome man because of the fact that he has set aside his desires and want to do's for the past three weeks to nurse me through my surgery. He has changed my bed for me when I had an accident in it, he has taken over caring for my animals (I have four inside cats and four dogs plus outside cats that need to be fed), he cleans my house, does my laundry, drives me where I need to go and never complains. He gives to everyone he comes in contact with in non monitary ways...by helping them in their time of need and when they need a helping hand doing some sort of work. Who could ask for a more beautiful person? I had fallen for a very handsome man, who was very stuck on himself. He hated the fact that I would help out other people and give of my time and of myself. I ended up breaking up with the man, who was so handsome that people would stop in the street to watch him walk by, because he was one of the most ugly people inside that I had ever met.
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@wzsj0501 (157)
• China
27 Jun 09
you are so happy and luck for have such a kind-hearted,inner beauty boyfriend!everybody admire you,as a man,he took care of you,changed your bed,took care for your animals,gave everyone help,these behaviors are so melting and moved me.he is such a excellent and wonderful man,he will love you for all your lifetime,and forever.choosing a boyfriend ,no matter he is beauty or ugly,the heart'beauty is the most important!god bless you!
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
26 Jun 09
Dear friend, I consider my self ugly, but I could appreciate others beauty and being handsome. But more than that I consider one's inner heart whether its beauty is shown out. The real beauty I consider on one being humane and being good to others.
@wzsj0501 (157)
• China
26 Jun 09
so many friends respond to my discussion,it is a surprise for me.most of persons refer to the inner heart beauty.i agree it.it is intelligent and wise to choose a girl with heart beauty no matter her out looking feature.i want to give every responder to my comment when i have time.thank you all !
@jaisundar (215)
25 Jun 09
The perception of different people really varies a lot. One may judge beauty in different from the other. Its all depend upon the individuals. The definition of beauty of yours coincides to some extent with my definition. So you need not bother about it.
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
25 Jun 09
i am beautiful! that's according to my mom and my husband! hahaha but for me...i think a beautiful woman is the one who can carry herself with full confidence no matter how she looks...its personality that counts more for me... handsome for me is my husband! hahaha beauty still lies in the eyes of the beholder...
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
25 Jun 09
I think beautiful women is supposed to have great face, average body, perfect skin without any flaws, tall. Handsome men should have strong figure, tall and short hair.
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• Philippines
26 Jun 09
Hi wzsj! for me, I admire the beauty of girls with beautiful eyes. Beautyfull eyes for me are clear, and are bright. The eyes of mexican ladies are the one that I like. I also see a girl beautiful with long shiny hair. Also those who have small lips , thin and petite girls.
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@wzsj0501 (157)
• China
27 Jun 09
hello aoncruise!i am very glad to see you in mylot!your definition of beauty is the same as mine.it is wonderful to have beautiful eyes.the eyes can enchant you and exceedingly attract to you.most movie stars are beautiful,when you first see them in the movies at a glimpise,you can be attracted.certainly,we cannot judge their heart by appearance.
• Philippines
25 Jun 09
I think beautiful and handsome comes in different colors and looks. Some are white, some black, some are Morena or Tan. It just really depends on how proportional your face is. And sometimes, when you look at the parts it's not really pretty, but when you see the whole face, it becomes beautiful..=) Going back to your question, I am beautiful, My mother says so. ;)
@HelScream (2822)
• Philippines
26 Jun 09
HAHAHA you just give me a good laugh my friend yeah my mom and dad says I am handsome too
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• United States
25 Jun 09
I do not think that I am very beautiful, but I think that my boyfriend is handsome. I find it hard to judge myself on things like that, but I can easily judge other people on whether they are beautiful or not. I am more into personality than physical appearance because many people are are physically beautiful or who are attractive physically, do not have any personality to them at all, but people who are not so physically attractive, I have found, have great personalities. I like being able to feel, have emotions, I like being able to laugh, cry, smile... I like being able to be a person. I met a young man the other day, who was on the attractive side, but who had no sense of humor, intelligence, or variety to him. He was so dry. I kept thinking, "He shall never get a woman if he cannot laugh and if he cannot think for himself". Appearance comes last to me. Sure the person that you ae fond of need something attractive about them to make you fall for them, but without that personality, the person is not worth wasting your last breath.
@wzsj0501 (157)
• China
27 Jun 09
oh,your analyse in beauty is so deeply and wonderful!i like that!you refer to "attractive" as a element of beauty,i can not agree more!yes,you say what i want to!a man,with a sense of humor,intelligence,vigorous and kind heart will always be welcomed and has more attractive than the other man who is handsome but has no personality!everybody thinks your boyfriend is handsome for his so much attractive merits!god bless you!
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
26 Jun 09
I think if speaking about physical beauty, there are aplenty of attributes. Like those you have mentioned. I think sometimes to detect the inner beauty takes some time to figure out. This is the beauty that should be celebrated. It's an extra bonus to be having good looks, but it would be more awesome to match it up with a great attitude.. Have a nice day.. ;)
@hairypits (294)
26 Jun 09
I think this is a very touchy subject! I think I am beautiful - without sounding pig headed - and look at many people and see their beauty. I am 5ft 3, size 14 (UK) waist length layered blond hair, dark blue eyes, very happy (without being cheesy) outgoing and easy to talk to. I think for women, any size as long as there are no big bulges and tummy aprons, short to medium height, long hair, minimal make up and flattering clothing. In men I find rugged looking medium to tall in height, slightly unshaven, some muscle tone, the most attractive. Thin women aren't the be all and end all of life!
@wzsj0501 (157)
• China
26 Jun 09
via your description of your portrait,i feel you are very beautiful both outside and inside.i like persons who are very happy and outgoing,so i believe you must have many friends!but what is the meaning of "thin women arenot the be all?"can you tell me in detail?
26 Jun 09
What I mean is a thin women or being a thin women does not make you perfect. Too many women aspire for this stereotypical "perfect look", but does the "perfect look" truly exist. I think not. I think people need to find their own beauty and work on accentuating their best features.
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• United States
27 Jun 09
So many women here in the USA look like they've been cranked off the Barbie doll assembly line; and since they basically look the same, you have to find their true beauty in their character. Fewer men have cosmetic surgery, but they're starting to become as vain as women. I like a man to look like a man and not a pretty boy. He doesn't have to be physically handsome, but he should carry himself with assurance and confidence.
@wzsj0501 (157)
• China
28 Jun 09
i am agree with you,a man donot need handsome,because he is a man,he should work for a breadwinner,he should have vigorous physical body,he should have abundant knowede to treat everyting in life,he should have great ability to protect his family and enhance his wage.because,he is a man,not a movie star who should have wage by his handsome face.a man who is handsome is not reliable,but always a ugly man has kind heart.certainly,it is only my perspective.
@lkumarldh (142)
• India
26 Jun 09
i think i am HAndsome, i never boast about my self all this girls said. Whevener i was in college i often gets purpose from gals that i looks very handsome, they like me etc. So i think i am very handsome thats why girls like me.
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• Malaysia
26 Jun 09
Well, normally people judge the beauty and handsome by their appearance. First look is important to see whether he/she is good looking. When we talk about beauty/handsome, we see their face and physique as well. Facial appearances that I feel is important for female are long hair, big eyes, small mouth, face and body skin is white, teeth are tidy and white as using Darlie toothpaste everyday, adorable dimple, slender body with good shape of 36/24/36, long and beautiful legs in physique. For example Taiwanese Top Model Ling Chi Ling. For handsome male, I think he should be sizable tall with 6 packs abs and standard muscles in physique, big eyes, short hair with style, black and thick eyebrow, and deep dimple. The world's most famous soccer David Beckham is one of it. The above mentioned criterion are all my opinion. Should you have any other criterion that you need to add or suggest in your mind, you're very welcome! Cheers
@wzsj0501 (157)
• China
26 Jun 09
en,if only refer to their appearance,i think you give a detailed definition.i am agree with you.the example i think beauty are some movie stars,like chinese star zhaoyazhi,chenhong,caiyilin,jiangqinqin.maybe you donot know them because they are chinese.maybe chinese like chinese,american like american,every country people like the people who is in his own country.
• Malaysia
26 Jun 09
Friend, I think no matter what color skin a person is, I'd just judge the same criterion on them. I'm from Malaysia. I know most of the Chinese stars either from Taiwan, China, Hong Kong or other countries that produce Chinese Top Models or stars. But you gave the examples that from Taiwanese stars not everyone is beauty. Some are short and not really match what criterion I mentioned above. Anyway, thanks for your positive response to my statement. Thanks again friend. :p
• Malaysia
26 Jun 09
Correction: Famous soccer should be famous soccer player. Have a wonderful day ahead! :P