What are the qualities of a REAL hero?

@debrakcarey (19887)
United States
June 25, 2009 8:59pm CST
Is it all about courage? Lack of fear? Is it about morals and values...to die for what you believe in? Tell me what makes a REAL TRUE hero.
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@Destiny007 (5805)
• United States
26 Jun 09
A true hero is someone who risks everything for something they believe in and stands up for it no matter the cost.
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• United States
27 Jun 09
Of course he is. Patton or someone said the idea of war was not to die for your country... it was to make the other guy die for his country. Get it? Heroism is a matter of perspective, just as everything else is. One man's hero can be another man's criminal.
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@debrakcarey (19887)
• United States
27 Jun 09
Just playing the devil's advocate here :) If someone stands up for something THEY believe in as you describe there....but you don't agree with...are they still a hero? Just for discussion's sake, my friend..;)
@debrakcarey (19887)
• United States
27 Jun 09
Cool...I like Patton the more I learn about his attitude!
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
16 Jul 09
I'm pretty sure a real hero doesn't swoop in on other people's blogs and start attacking them for a difference of opinion. Heroism isn't about lack of fear. We all have fear. It's about doing what you believe is right despite your fear.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
16 Jul 09
Hard for me too, but you know who wasn't about to leave, no way , no how. Hopefully he's behaving. I haven't heard of anybody else leaving because of him.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
16 Jul 09
He wasn't about to leave or concede a point on anything...
@debrakcarey (19887)
• United States
16 Jul 09
Yes, I am sure that he knows he isn't a real hero...deep down. The hardest part was knowing absolutely that I could not change the situation. Very hard to deal with for a person like me. Walking away from that situation was one of the hardest things I've done since being online. I wasn't afraid...but I conquered something difficult in me, going through that situation.
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@dogsnme (1264)
• United States
26 Jun 09
A hero is everything you mentioned and possibly more. One quality that all true heroes have in common is that they never think of themselves as heroes. They are heroes only in the eyes of others. True heroes always think of others first.
@debrakcarey (19887)
• United States
26 Jun 09
I agree...selflessness, not selfishness! Do you think they're becoming more rare....or just not noticed as much? These who put others first...the true heros.
@dogsnme (1264)
• United States
27 Jun 09
They're just not noticed as much. What may be disappearing are those who see them as heroes. Just like the perception of what is right and wrong is slowly being reversed; so too may the idea of what a hero is be changing.
@debrakcarey (19887)
• United States
14 Jul 09
I never thought of it that way...wow. Good answer..thanks!
@bonnie67 (10)
• United States
16 Jul 09
Very interesting topic here. There are so many people who are hero's. like you are mine.
@debrakcarey (19887)
• United States
16 Jul 09
IT'S BONNIE! Hello there! I am glad you joined myLot. Thank you for the kind words...I hope I can alwasy live up to them. You know, come to think of it...you are a hero too! To alot of people online. I hope you enjoy MyLot as much as I do...:) Read the guidelines...and start posting discussions. Dawn and Libby are here...as well as some others you may be familiar with. Happy myLotting!
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
7 Aug 10
Well ready to sacrifice himself to the welfare of the nation.
@debrakcarey (19887)
• United States
23 Feb 11
That would apply to soldiers everywhere. To bad sometimes the nation isn't worthy of that sacrifice. Doesn't take away from the heroism of the individual soldier though.
@mantis36 (4219)
• Philippines
4 Jun 11
a breadwinner of the family and keep it alive...
@debrakcarey (19887)
• United States
4 Jun 11
Now there is a real hero! I agree wholeheartedly mantis!
@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
26 Jun 09
Dang, why such an easy question? Depends on the type of hero you mean.... Star Famous? A hero is one who lives in a way we common folks can look up to... M.J. Fox who uses his fame to fight an illness that may never have a cure in time to help himself. Those who do their work and life their lives as we would.... simple, with family and love put before the job and the popular bar. Everyday Hero? Single mothers working to get through with only the intention of making a better life for their kids. Weekend fathers who spend the whole of the weekend making the most of the time. Parents of disabled kids who have so much to deal with and smile anyway. The person who puts their neighbors first- mow the little old widows lawn, feed the strays, make wise use of their extras for the family not making it very well. Anyone can sit back and do only what they have to.... true heroes have honor, love, and the heart to do just that much more. They don't even really think it through... they just do what they feel they need to do. Most don't even realize they are heroes, they don't look for huge thank yous.... Knowing that a life was made better is thanks enough. Hearing the disabled child say a word or take a step is thanks enough. Knowing that what they do may keep another from dealing with the pain and struggles they had seen.... is thanks enough. To me... true heroes are those who don't even know that they are heroes.
@debrakcarey (19887)
• United States
26 Jun 09
Excellent answer...I can add nothing to it! Thank you for posting.
@marguicha (215441)
• Chile
14 Jul 09
I don´t think that heros don´t have fears. Only they overcome them because there are things that matter more to them. In this case, freedom was more important than life and pain to Wallace. THAT made him a hero. He could have taken the poison the princess was offering him and escape from pain. But he chose not to.
@debrakcarey (19887)
• United States
14 Jul 09
His love for his people or his bravery and desire for freedom motivated him. I did not like that the movie seemed to imply that it was all for revenge...when his wife was killed. In the history I read....it was for love of freedom. But then love for wife or love for freedom...either one is commendable. :)