:Ladies be honest do you have control issues?
By sharone74
@sharone74 (4837)
United States
June 26, 2009 3:01pm CST
Since every woman is different and different women want different things I want to take this discussion on a case by case issue. So for men if you want to answer the question it is specific to your woman or the last woman in your life, whether your girlfriend, wife, mom, sistesr etc. For the women be specific about your self. Do you have control issues?
I am not one to try and control anyone except maybe a child and normally only if that child is mine. In an emergency I can take control and do what needs to be done, especially if no one cometent has stepped into that role already. Otherwise, I like people to control themselves, their children, and their issues individually. I do not like to manage and I especially don't like to orchestrate or micromanage other people. I like to concentrate on myself and those in my immediate vicinity. And those in the vicinity are still responsible for themselves their own actions and their own behavior, as well as their own children.
2 responses
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
26 Jun 09
I do have the need to control things in my life. I don't necessarily try to control PEOPLE in my life, but I do try to control SITUATIONS. I am always the one in the household that everyone looks to for problem solving, managing, and fixing. My husband rarely steps in to help me figure things out, and I have lived the majority of my adult life having to be the one in charge, so, for me, it is natural. I control the finaces, the grocery shopping, the chore deligation, the bedtimes, etc., etc., etc. To be honest, I sometimes wish that my husband would shoulder a little more of the responsibility so I don't feel that everything is up to me.
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@sharone74 (4837)
• United States
27 Jun 09
Your husband probably spends a lot less time with them day to day than you do, and so he doesn't want to be the "bad guy" who calls a halt to the festivities and orders baths or bedtimes. He wants to be the affable and easygoing dad. Honestly most of our fathers were the exact same way. It was left to our mothers to delgate and manage all of the household affairs. Though it is an antiquated dynamic, it is also one that is tried and true. If it has been this way for years you two may be to deeply seated in your roles for either he or you to change now. You are the responsible party in your family, you have probably had to step into that role many times because if you don't do it, then who will right? I feel for you and thanks for adding your two cents to the discussion.
@megumiart (3771)
• United States
26 Jun 09
I definately have control issues. I don't feel comfortable unless I know about everything and everyone in my surroundings.
I don't like people do just do spontaneous things around me, for example if someone asks me to go somewhere, I'd much rather know it in advance.
@sharone74 (4837)
• United States
27 Jun 09
Do you have anxiety or panic attacks when you have no choice but to do something or go somewhere spontaneously? Do you ever just allow yourself to act spontaneously or must you be in control of where and when you are going somewhere all the time. Thank you for adding your two cents to this discussion.
