Why is there a tendency that a person cheat their partner?

Philippines
June 27, 2009 9:52am CST
First of all human beings are known to be uncontented of what they have in life. They look for something which they do not have and seek for something which they think can fulfill that feeling. For an example, i know a person that is very nice, patient, understanding, loyal and caring but the problem is that, no matter how good she is as you think, you would wonder why her boyfriend cheated her well in fact you knew she almost have everything what a perfect girlfriend should possess. And then i heard rumors saying that his boyfriend got bored with her because she's kinda serious and the boy thinks that he wanted something new, someone who is a bit of a joker that would make him laugh or happy. Now, have you encountered something or somewhat like this? Do you know any idea why a person tends to cheat? Well, we have our own explanations and i would be grateful to read your response. So anyone out there got any ideas or something to share? Please hit me back some reply if you have time..Have a nice day!!!!
10 responses
27 Jun 09
hi there! as for my own opinion, analysis, and observations; first is that the person tends to cheat on their partner if the person is only looking for just a short term realationship or maybe he's just playing at all and it satisfies him in doing that so, in other words, he is mentally ill. Second is that,(serious part) a person who sets high and lots of standard that is impossible for a person to possess (a PERFECTIONIST) has a tendency or is potentially capable of cheating his/her partner, why i say so? because when the person meet this specific/single trait/standard to his/her (1st)partner, he pursues it, but when another (2nd)person also possesses one of his standards so then he goes for it again, and so on and so forth, that's why this person who sets high standards tend to have lots of failed relationships and the interval of every relationship is either short or overlapping. So as a suggestion, don't set ideals or high standards that is out in this world, it will only frustrate you, but rather wait in peace and pray to God and ask for guidance for He'll be providing what really fits for you. =D
• India
27 Jun 09
i do agree with you here!!
27 Jun 09
thank you!
@mermaidivy (15404)
• United States
27 Jun 09
I'm curious to know why too, are we just not satisfied with only one loved person in your life sowe want more and more? I odn't get it, I never get cheated before but I just know my husband likest o look at girls a lot even though we were just married for less than a year... I know it's not cheating but I don't feel good especially he always looks at the girls...
• Philippines
27 Jun 09
It's nature in human being to seek for something, that's why were not satisfied since were looking for more. But when the right time comes, we tend to think to be satisfied of what we have to stay stable. That's why God gives us problems for us to learn. We might commit mistakes but for sure it's something to learn on to. I think you have faith with the loyalty of your husband. That's nice! good for you since it's what it is supposed to be.. It's your own judgement and it's you who know more about your husband. Eyes do always want something nice to see.. Maybe he just admire those girls but it's just more on admiration but your the one who captures his heart cause in the first place, your the one that he married and not those other girls. Being jealous is normal and it's a sign of love but too much of it, that's now what we consider selfish love. Well i think that's all i can say. Stay happy and live life with your husband to the fullest. Enjoy every moment you spend together, for time will not come back again but memories do lasts...
• Philippines
27 Jun 09
I guess its human for someone to look for something that is different and unique or sometimes its just variety that one look for something in another person. It is also a way for people to grow - to experience. In divorce, one sees reason when one does not fit anymore thus they agreed to let go and continue seeking relationship with others. One does not have to be perfect to carry a relationship. The only thing that matters is how you love someone no matter what his imperfections might be. There is no such thing as a relationship in perfect harmony. All has to pass into some tests and what matter is how they will pass those trials until both of them stop seeking for imperfections and just be contented with whatever they have.
• Philippines
27 Jun 09
Great idea and well explained! Since people are born given such freedom and will, that's why people have their own perspectives in life or point of view to choose or decide of which they think what is right. Yes, its true that it's about being how you brought up a harmony in a relationship. There are times that this things that happened will help us understand and have the idea that in some point we may be right or wrong in our decision and try to bring up again the lost relationship to make it better or try to start a new one and learn from the past experience. So if able to find or accept someone irregradless of his/her imperfections, that's LOVE! and that what God wants us to achieve in order to find everlasting HAPPINESS!!!!
@myx_03 (540)
• Philippines
27 Jun 09
There are so many people who really dont get satisfied in what they have in life. I get in a situation too, but I realized that there's no important to have what God has given to me. Happy mylotting!
• Philippines
27 Jun 09
Yah right! But with prayers and trust in God, i think it can help us avoid and ask for His guidance. I'm new to mylot and yah its fun which makes us happy of it. We were able or given the chance to share and express what we have in mind rather than keeping it just within ourselves.
• Philippines
27 Jun 09
For me maybe they cheat because that's there illness or maybe they come up in that idea because is needed or they are not satisfied on what they have its in the matter of situation i think but cheating is bad we cannot change it thats why its called a cheat right? If we encounter people like them we must confront and tell them cheating is bad and what is right most of all pèople close to us friends, family etc. Because correcting them is showing you care for them thats not bad all of us sometimes we do cheating even though we don't remember when we did it. We are not perfect no one is perfect ^_^
• Philippines
27 Jun 09
Sorry for double response i got problem with my browser ^_^
• Philippines
27 Jun 09
For me maybe they cheat because that's there illness or maybe they come up in that idea because is needed or they are not satisfied on what they have its in the matter of situation i think but cheating is bad we cannot change it thats why its called a cheat right? If we encounter people like them we must confront and tell them cheating is bad and what is right most of all pèople close to us friends, family etc. Because correcting them is showing you care for them thats not bad all of us sometimes we do cheating even though we don't remember when we did it. We are not perfect no one is perfect ^_^
• Philippines
27 Jun 09
You've got a point. There are certain circumstances that they tend to do it and the best thing there is, is to give advice and to make the person understand, we should approach or tell it in such a manner that he/she won't misinterpret us and try to exlain the anomaly of the bad aspect that they have done. Considering that we are not perfect but still at least we need to assume to follow what is perfect though sometimes we make mistakes. Doing it once is considerable but if twice, i think it isn't anymore acceptable. But mistakes do help us become a better person in time.
@jpso138 (7863)
• Philippines
27 Jun 09
I have heard similar stories similar such as this. Well, I think that there are people that are not content in a relationship. In most cases, that person is still not serious about the relationship and perhaps love is not that strong enough. Truly, love and affection is very hard to understand. It may bring you happiness in one moment and it takes away the sunlight the next. We will just have to be strong and understand that life is like that. Love may come and it may go... But one thing is sure, it is better to love and cry rather than not to love at all...
• Philippines
27 Jun 09
very well said sir..hehehe you've got a point and i strongly agree.. it's a matter of facing reality of what really the scenarios are and it's what we have observed in some cases. It's something we have to deal with and as what you've said earlier being strong to face it. Am I right in some point sir if I say expect the unexpected??? Since if we will already expect something to happen, but i know each one of us doesn't want to experience that but being practical it's being open minded if we will think it as a possibility earlier so we won't have a hard time to cope it up rather than doing what others do like the saying "come what may" and then regret...
@robert19ph (4584)
• Philippines
29 Jun 09
hello chiltacs, For me, I think they're not really compatible to each other. But, he should tell to her that he doesn't love her anymore better than cheating on her. Or maybe, they need to talk about it so they can adjust and change that is if they still love each other. There's a lot of possibilities when one of the partner will tend to cheat. That he/she does not really love her/him. That he/she just want to try. Want to prove that he is a man. When one of them got bored or tired to something. Whatever the reason is, it's not fair.
@buitzh (76)
• Philippines
28 Jun 09
many reasons to cheat a partner. one reason why is that the partner nag too much
@substance (588)
• India
27 Jun 09
I guess its because eventually love also run out of steam. huh!! And because we needs maturity and contentness in each other to maintain a strong relationship. From my experience i have come to know that two persons should atleast have some few common things to be able to sustain a relationship. maybe a common bought up, common background, common lifestyles or etc....