My dad cheated on my mom

@agirnow (158)
France
June 28, 2009 4:03pm CST
Have you been in this situation? How did you react? What did your mom do? Divorce? Try to work it out? Did it ruin you or your siblings? How long did it take for life to be normal-ish again? Please give me some insight, I am so lost... thanks
1 response
@robert19ph (4584)
• Philippines
29 Jun 09
hello agirnow, So sorry to know that your Dad cheated on your Mom. It's really hard to accept that for that hurt so much. I'm so glad that my Dad did not do that to my Mom and I'm so lucky for that. I think it's just easy to give an advice but being in the situation is really different. Forgiving him is not easy for sure for it stuck in your mind what he did. He might do it again or not. Have a heart to heart and try to figure out what will be the best for everyone more so to your Mom. Your Mom will decide for she is the victim.
@agirnow (158)
• France
29 Jun 09
Thank you for your input robert19ph. We are all in a whirlwind of emotions and no one knows how to react. My Dad keeps trying to explain himself and to justify his actions and I don't even want to hear it. I emailed him, in my only communication with him since I heard about it and asked him not to contact me and to wait until I am ready to contact him, if that ever happens. today I received an email from him, trying to justify his behavior even after I asked him to leave me alone. I don't want to hear his excuses, if he was truely unhappy with my mom he should have broken it off years ago instead of allowing it to get to this point. there is no excuse. My mom has a hard decision to make and I don't envy her... I just hope she makes the right one, whatever that is. thanks again, I appreciate it