Do You Skip Over Depressing Discussions?

@SomeCowgirl (32254)
United States
June 29, 2009 8:28am CST
Do you read or skip over discussions that are depressing? These could be discussions that make you think, discussions about others circumstances that make you feel sad to the point of depression for them, or these could just be discussions about cat and dog brutality. Do you respond to these discussions or skip over them? Do you even read them? If you start to read them and realize they are making you depressed, do you stop reading it? Do you read it through and decide to respond to it? I've read a discussion just a few minutes ago that made me think, and that's why I started this discussion. I don't like to read discussions that depress me as it usually gets me in a depressed mood for awhile. I know that everyone has their own sense of what's depressing to them etc, so I figured I'd ask you all what ya'll think. So respond away, please tell me your viewpoints on this.
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18 responses
@daliaj (5681)
• India
30 Jun 09
Yes, mostly I skip depressing discussions. I don't think many people are interested in those discussions. I hate discussions late, if today is your last day, what will you do?, When did somebody cheated you last time?, When did you cry last time?...those kind of disucssions. We are also here in mylot for entertainment, not only for money. So, I think it is advisible to create positive and intereting discussions. I don't think negative discussions get good number of responses.
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@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
1 Jul 09
Well yes those types of discussions are very depressing, except for the last time a person cried. I don't think those are very depressing but I guess they can be. I think that I have to agree with you in saying that more positive discussions help get better and more responses. Although there has been a few that has gotten a lot of responses even though they are depressing. Those are the discussions where a person asks for opinions or calls out for charity because of something, a natural disaster, etc. I appreciate your response to me.
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• United States
29 Jun 09
I don't usually respond to these kind of discussions, especially if they're problems that someone is having, only because I don't feel I have too much too add to make them feel better. Just being able to come on-line, and write about it, vent for awhile, could probably be more satisfying for them, then to get a bunch of responses that may not help them at all. I know I don't discuss my personal life on line, because I know that the only person who can solve my problems is me. Most of the time we know what to do, if we listen to our heart, or our gut, it's just putting it into play that is the tuff thing to do.
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@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
1 Jul 09
Responses to a person's discussion who is depressed, well those responses have to be thought out clearly. Otherwise, your right it could harm more then help them feel better. Venting does do a lot to help. I've vented and shared in the past online but don't do it as much anymore, and especially not without asking my fiance his opinion or if it's okay that I mention this, or if he thinks I should. Sometimes people are in a rut and really just need a person to say "I've been there", lol. Yes, the answers are always in your heart but sometimes they are hard to put into play or to do because they may even be hard to decide upon. I appreciate your response to me.
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• India
29 Jun 09
There are two sides of every coin.Similarly,a depressing topic can be a source to learn from.Topics like brutality,violence,terrorism do put many off.Worse,these things have become a daily phenomenon.Its easy to get away from these issues.But,is it right on our part to ignore them?.What if someone near us suffers?.Will we not raise our voice?.A macabre incident should never be overlooked.Being brave and voicing our opinion is a positive sign of action.
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@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
1 Jul 09
Those that involve violence and brutality I do respond to from time to time. The only way we can make a difference is to try, and to get the voice of many people. I agree that people do need to step up to the ante instead of backing away from it. I guess my point is that if it affects my mood I generally don't respond. On that note though, if I don't respond I could have missed out on learning, and helping another person. It's a win win or win lose situation most of the time. I appreciate your response so very much.
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@lynnemg (4536)
• United States
29 Jun 09
If I read a discussion that I feel that I can really add something to, I will respond to it whether it is a bit on the sad side or not. I believe that people start discussions like that for a good reason and if I feel that I can add something that may help, I respond. That is just one of the ways that I enjoy helping people.
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@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
1 Jul 09
Well to tell you the truth, I think I've confused myself plenty. I don't want to keep saying that I don't respond because of this or that, lol. I do try to respond myself, but the one thing is if I'm in a mood or feel that it will put me in a mood, I avoid it. No use in hurting others, or accidentally doing so. I appreciate your response.
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• United States
29 Jun 09
I don't usually respond to discussions that are depressing, especially when it involves other people's problems.... because I don't feel I have much to add. I, personally, would not talk about my private life, and the troubles I have, in chat rooms, or with people on line...I don't even talk about it with family members or friends...because I know that the only person who can solve these problems is me...most times when you are given well thought of advise, we end up doing it our way anyway, because everyone has a different way of dealing with situations. And most of the times I know what to do to solve a problem, or what the answers are.. it's just doing it and taken care of it that is usually the bigger problem.
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• United States
29 Jun 09
OOPS! I didn't kow I hit the submit button already...not there is two of my responses.
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@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
1 Jul 09
That's alright, I noticed that earlier but forgot about it whilst I was checking my email. I just deleted one of the notifies as I had already responded. It's an honest mistake, hey look at it this way, you're earning more and getting your opinion heard TWICE As much... lol.
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@kprofgames (3099)
• United States
1 Jul 09
I think alot of what people respond to is really in what mood they are in. I know that is that way for me. There are times I just want to come here and have fun. Other times, I'm in the mood for the more involved discussions. I don't think I'm here often enough to really tag up with people. I do try with the ones I know, but I don't go off notifications, I just bounce around from topic to topic. I'd say it really depends on the mood I'm in what discussion I respond too or not.
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@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
1 Jul 09
Yes moods can and do have something to do with why or why not a person responds to a specific discussion. I have notifies on but venture off of the notifies myself so as to find more and more interesting topics. The fun thing is to go to a friend's profile and see what they've responded to. I appreciate your response.
@cher913 (25862)
• Canada
30 Jun 09
i tend to but i also skip over discussions that are long and wordy just because my time on mylot is usually pretty limited so i just dont have the time. i usually feel that i just dont want to get involved in their situations.
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@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
1 Jul 09
Discussions that are longwinded are usually the best to respond to as their's usually a lot of information to respond to. I understand though as your mylotting time is limited, but everyone does have their own way to earn. I don't always respond to long winded ones either as sometimes I'm too lazy to read it all, etc.
@pxm204192 (160)
• China
30 Jun 09
what topical of this mylot com do we discuss? i like the dog and cat, i think these animal is the friend of the human being, and these animal have been growing with the human being for a long time.we have such the same feeling about this. the cat and dogs all have their own lives, we should be good to them, not brutal to them, we should let them be, let them live freedom for themselves,and not interrupt them their lives that are belong to them, all animals have their own lives for their own styles.if we are cool to them, that explain we are not place us the right place,i think the human being should be kind to them,care about them, and not disrupt them.
@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
1 Jul 09
I think you have misunderstood me. While I did mention cat and dog brutality as an example, I was talking generally of do you skip these topics. Do you skip the topics such as these and others that are depressing? I appreciate your response.
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• United States
29 Jun 09
I guess I do try to avoid those topics that are really depressing...I wasn't always like that. When I first joined MyLot, I was eager to offer what I thought was helpful information. But the number of posts that are dealing with problems that folks are facing is overwhelming...and I was noticing a change in my mood. I did have empathy for MyLot members with problems but it was too much of a burden, so I now limit the number of responses that I comment on that are dealing with issues that are out of my control. I look for the lighter and happier dialogues, this post is about as dark as I want to get into. Although, I think this forum has enough members that have such a varied array of interests that those numbers alone ensures that a troubled poster will receive support and answers for whatever they might care to share with other MyLotter's.
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@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
29 Jun 09
My mood has often affected the way I feel about mylotting, and I've stopped posting or just not opened certain emails because of it. It's not at all healthy or helpful. This site is one of my sole earning possibilities, lol. Yes there are so many people here on mylot that those who do need help can easily find it whilst starting a discussion. I do respond to some that can be considered depressing, but only if I feel it won't affect my mood. I appreciate the response.
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@jaisundar (215)
29 Jun 09
I love to respond to discussions even if they were depressing.
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@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
29 Jun 09
I appreciate your input on the matter. Glad you have contributed, and have a wonderful day.
@divkris (1156)
• India
29 Jun 09
I do respond to depressing discussions because i have the liberty to post my view in mylot. I would read through the post and respond to the initiator either stating my concerns or requesting them to stop posting such discussions that can depress me and others :)
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@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
29 Jun 09
I understand your view points but must say that while the intention to ask the person to stop posting depressing things is good, not everyone knows what does depress others. Plus, it's always good to get things off one's chest, and typing it out is sometimes the best way. I usually skip over them unless I feel that I can help them, but telling them to stop could just send them into more of a stupor, and I wouldn't want to do that. I appreciate your response to me.
@mermaidivy (15404)
• United States
29 Jun 09
It is a good question! I think it depends; I think if the discussions sound over depressing because of something happen or the creaters sounds really unhappy about something, I would try to give my opinions to encourage and be positive for them. When it comes to other's depressions, I could be positive and be encouraging; but if it comes to my own depressions, I just feel blue and canoot tell myself to be happier... It is so strange...
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@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
29 Jun 09
I have responded to those that I felt I could help, so yes I understand what you mean. Oh and of course with not being able to get yourself out of a funk, I have also been there and understand that very well too. It's strange but it makes sense at the same time. I appreciate you taking the time to stop by and respond to me, have a wonderful day.
• United States
29 Jun 09
I am a person who enjoys helping other people so when it comes to a depressing conversation I will respond if i can say something that will make that person less depressed. Myself I have my own depressing issues so when it comes to a way to escape the messed up situations i find myself in and help others out of their situations then it gives me a since of peace because even though i cant seem to get out of the depressing situations i find myself in i can try and offer a way out for others.
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@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
1 Jul 09
I also get depressed but find that sometimes reading depressing discussions etc, will only make me feel more so. I'm all for helping when I can, but I've got to get out of my own funk before I can help. If I feel I'd get into a funk by responding to a person I don't. Then again when my moods change, so does the level of depression and what I respond to.
• United States
29 Jun 09
The only posts I avoid are the ones about abortion. they seem to go around and around and nothing changes.If I can add anything to a discussion, I'll respond.I don't avoid depressing posts.
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@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
1 Jul 09
I've responded to abortion topics, I think I've even made a discussion about it myself. I try to avoid them as well, as I think they are very sad things to talk about and well it's true, there's not much to say that hasn't already been said. I appreciate the response.
@meapas (2433)
• India
29 Jun 09
Here at forum sites I have not come across such a bad depressing discussion to skip over. Yes in the newspaper sometimes when I see depressing and pathetic news I quit halfway. Some brutal murder and rape story I skip over. It is simply not my cup of tea. meapas.
@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
1 Jul 09
Well it's good that you haven't come across depressing discussions. I agree that even in the paper and news, it can be depressing and is better to skip over. I hate hearing about crimes, as some of them are so very sad.
@JenInTN (27546)
• United States
29 Jun 09
There are a lot of discussions that may seem depressing. I do respond to them if I can add to it. I think that sometimes our friends need a lift and we are just the ones to give it to them. On issues..I will respond too. Sometimes they are started to educate us as to what is happening here and there. I have started one or two of those myself. I don't like to be depressed either but I do want to be educated as to what is going on. Not to much though...I have moments in which I have to not watch the news or have depressing discussions.
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@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
1 Jul 09
It's always great to be educated on things that are in the news, even those that are bad. Even so sometimes it does get too depressing and I agree I have times where I can't watch t.v. or read any newspaper or even read articles on here because of the fact that they are so sad and depressing. Well I appreciate the response.
@meandmy3 (2228)
• United States
29 Jun 09
If the discussion is one in which I can add relevant information to I will respond to it, other wise I do not. Depressing or not, the depressing ones that I feel I can help the person are ones I am more likely to respond to. Does that make sense.
@SomeCowgirl (32254)
• United States
1 Jul 09
Yes that makes sense and a lot of people here agree with that. I have to say I do too, but I do have to be careful of what I do respond to as I get depressed and emotional easy. I appreciate the response. Sorry it took me so long to respond, I've got a lot in email.
@hellcowboy (7378)
• United States
3 Aug 09
This is a really good discussion because I know that different people have different opinions when it comes to depressing discussions,I am sure there are some people who skip over them either because they might not care or because they do not want to think about it,or because they think it might make them cry,and then I am sure there are people who read the depressing discussions just to see how horrible whatever happened is,even if it makes them want to cry and I know everyone is different and that no two people have the same thoughts,same ideas,and same preferences which makes life more interesting,and I know there are a lot of discussions on here which seem kind of depressing,and I do skip over some of the depressing discussions because I know they might make me sad,even though I will often at least read over part of the discussion,and if it starts making me sad,I will usually stop reading and go on to another discussion,even though some of the depressing discussions I will finish reading and respond to it,especially if I feel I have something to say on the matter,I love you with all my heart and soul,have a great day,good luck with all of your mylotting goals,and Happy Posting.