I need some help about babyshower please!!!

This might be a good opportunity for you to get to know some of your husbands family.If it were me i would go and try to get through it the best i could. and if it got to uncomfortable for me. i would just make a excuse that i had to leave early. If you do not go i think that it would be a good idea to get a small gift only because it is for your husbands brother's new child.

Hello mermaidivy, It is not a must for you to go but since it is your brother-in-law's wife, I think it is polite if you join the baby shower. I understand how awkward it is if you have to go without your husband since you're not that close to them, but it is better to go rather than not going. They might think that you don't like to be around your husband's family. Just treat them as you treat your own family since once you married your husband, his family means yours too

For me if tha situation is like that. I would not be bothered to go,just send them a prezzies and formal reason why you're not able to come for the babyshower party. I don't want to be out of place when they were chatting.

I think it would be nice for you to go but you are in no way obligated to if it makes you uncomfortable. By inviting you they (your husband's family) are making an effort to include you and that's very nice of them, it shows that they consider you family. It would be good of you to go to the shower and try to get to know these ladies a little - after all, some of them are your family now and they will always be part of your life. If it really makes you uncomfortable then stopping by briefly to drop off a small gift would also be a nice gesture. The more you attend these family gatherings the more comfortable you will be around them so even if it's awkward at the beginning it is definitely worth it to make the effort now.

I think it's common practice to invite all the family for babyshowers. As far is it neccessary to go, that is really up to you. You stated that you've only seen his family less then 5 times in the year you've been married. Is this because his family isn't really close? or just because of location or maybe they just can't stand each other. Families are a funny thing, but the answer is no, you don't have to go if you don't want too. You could look at this as an oppertunity to get to know his side of the family better though.

Hi mermaid...I think you have to go since it is your family now too and I think there will be bad feelings if you don't. If you lived far away that would be a different story but if you live close by I think you should attend. Just think of it as a couple of hours out of your life - it's not much. Good luck to you!

I never felt obligated to go to babyshowers, and I didn't go to a few that I was invited to. It's not necessary to go to them. I don't like to go to wedding showers either, with or without my hubby. To me they are boring and a waste of time.

The necessity of going is specific to families and individual. If you think that by going you will end up in big issue then avoid it with a smart reason. On the other hand, if it is must for all the women in family then to avoid bigger issue and future comments you should go. If you have to go then just to set the condition talk with somebody on phone and promise to talk more during this babyshower.